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Animal Communication · empaths · Flower essences for sensitive · new thinking · spiritual lessons · supernatural

Science vs. Psychic

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I have this analytical part of me. I love to take apart a puzzle and put it back together again in my mind. Usually I can see what the missing piece is in a situation, and have an idea how to fix it. I need to see it or experience it to believe. This is the science part of me. I think also, it may be a Capricorn trait. We love the structures and rebuilding things.

The other part of me is the sensitive/psychic part. I’m a walking barometer of what is happening around me. I pick up a ton of information, not all of which is helpful to me. This part is very emotional and feeling-oriented.  It involves believing the impossible sometimes.  I just know what I know. It seriously pisses off the other part.

I am realizing that many of my experiences in life have had the purpose of finding balance for my two sides. When Foxy the wonderdog was very ill (her story is in this blog), I was furious at the veterinarians for not hearing any of the psychic information I was getting of what Foxy needed. They didn’t hear me when I got info that might have been illogical, but true. She sure looked like she was dying at that time, but everything I “heard” was that she would be just fine.

I’ve had many, many clients that had their animals misdiagnosed by veterinarians because things appeared one way, but were another,or they even refused to see the obvious or to look closer, and psychically I picked up information that saved those animals’ lives. There’s that balance again.

And yet, I’ve met healers who thought their beliefs and spiritual healing would save and heal their illnesses when they ignored medical science that was truly needed at the time. It’s like trying to treat schizophrenia or bipolar disease with only a past life regression. Or diabetes with Reiki healing alone. Without insulin, that body support, how can you survive?

When I wrote the Fairy School, I went into the experience as more of a scientist exploring hands-on how I felt making and working with flower essences and Nature. I read all I could, researched and learned the science, and then I blended my psychic impressions and learnings. I was bit in the butt several times when I went too much in one direction, not researching proper information on the how-to’s of making essences, more noticably, making essences from poisonous plants.

I am convinced that most veterinary schools need to offer classes in animal communication. Most psychic training needs to includes a psychology foundation. There needs to be that balance to be fully prepared and effectual. Without one or the other, it’s just missing pieces in the full puzzle.

empaths · healing · psychic tips · sensitivity

Sensitive tip and tool Wednesday

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My new feature is offering a psychic tip every Wednesday to help fellow sensitives navigate today’s crazy energies.

Today’s tip and tool is Taking care of your body

With sensitive abilities usually comes sensitive bodies. What this means is, we are over-sensitive to the environment, which most others–who are turned off–naturally block out. Be extra gentle and loving with yourself. If it is an extra hot day, avoid going out the middle of the afternoon. If it’s a sunny day, wear lots of sun screen. It’s not over-babying, it’s nurturing. See self care in a whole new way–a better way to take care of you, because you are worth it.

For a reading or private lesson, go to my Readings page here. Care of the Sensitive online class starts the end of August. Sign up here. And look for my new ebook, Help! I’m Sensitive. Details coming.

empaths · psychic tips · sensitivity

What is a psychic empath?

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What exactly is a psychic empath? You know you are a psychic empath if:

  • You walk into a room and you can feel if the air is heavy or light, if there was an argument in the room, or if someone is sad. Sometimes, it can be overwhelming.
  • You walk down the mall and you feel unbalanced or unsteady from the barrage of others’ feelings and emotions. (I used to call this my Walmart headache because I felt it every time I went there to shop).
  • You know your dog or cat is feeling stressed or sad because you can feel it. Sometimes, you confuse the feeling as your own. You may even feel other people’s ailments.
  • You may have a sensitive stomach, or have reactive skin to your environment.
  • Too much activity in your environment=crazy feelings inside you, nervousness, frustration, and major ADD.
  • You can merge with a person, plant or animal, and see from its perspective.
  • You tell yourself or someone has told you, you are too sensitive and need to “toughen up.”

Bottom line definition: psychic empaths experience the world from what they feel. And what they feel includes an enormous psychic information ready to be tapped into. We see below the layers.

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For help with your sensitivity, see my Psychic tips, or sign up for the Care of the Sensitive class on the Online Classes page. You can also sign up for a reading.  I am also working hard on a new Ebook to help you.

Animal Communication · empaths · Intuition

Feeling Energies/Locating Animals

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I learned an important lesson today. If we lead with our minds, we are dragged in the wrong direction. But if we follow what we feel….

Every day I take Speedy the tortoise out of his cage and plop him down on the floor. He usually makes a few rounds around the house before venturing through the pet door, down the pet ramp meant for Sarah (who still doesn’t use it), and onto the yard. Most of the problem happens when I am not watching him and have to determine if he is in the house or outside the house. That isn’t always easy–he hides behind doors, between the washer and dryer, and under beds, just for fun or to mess with me.

Today as I was working on my website and avoiding creating, Speedy made it out the door. Halfway through working I heard “The Turtle!” (probably Emma Lou). Searching the house, I couldn’t find him anywhere. I grabbed Emma Lou and we couldn’t find him outside either. (Emma was so cute. When I asked her to find the turtle she barked a few times, calling him.) This was unusual because he is usually visible walking somewhere. I said a little prayer to my Angels and in exasperation, I sat down on a tie next to the swing on the ground. Right next to me, literally next to me, almost hidden under a pile of leaves I saw a hint of a turtle shell! He was right next to me! If I hadn’t  set down for a moment, I wouldn’t have found him.

Was it a weird coincidence? Well, no. I felt his energy. I registered his energy. I was pulled to that energy. It’s using advanced empathy to connect to loved ones and is very helpful for finding lost animals. If I had used my head, I’d still be looking, I am sure.

— from Help for the Sensitive in an Insensitive world, the book I am creating, and Advanced Animal Communication class from Fairy Online School.

empaths · healing · psychic tips · sensitivity

Tool when you feel ungrounded

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In this crazy world today with the crazy energies and so much change, it is easy to feel very ungrounded. We may reach for equally crazy things to correct the balance or to feel more stable, such as overeating, or over-shopping, or even codependent behavior (us healer/empath types love to grab for this).  It’s as if we are thrashing about in the sea around us with no life preserver, so we are trying to find one.

Today’s guidance is to create ANCHORS.

What helps you feel more grounded?

Here’s some ideas:

  1. Create structure. As a capricorn, my natural gift is to build and create structure. Structure can be as simple as having a routine you do every day, such as waking up in the morning having coffee and sitting in your yard. Or, having a writing schedule. Or, riding a bike every day after dinner. My favorite has been my evening routine with my dogs sitting in my reading room and watching Project Runway.
  2. Friends. An anchor can be a friend you regularly check in with. The more the better. They are probably feeling as ungrounded as you are nowadays, so you may be an anchor for them.
  3. Check in with yourself. I suppose this is the same as centering, but I think anything that allows you to check back in with what you want, feel and need, is good. I journal. As an empath, it is too easy for me to carry others’ stuff and by the end of the day, I have no idea what I want! Visual journaling has been highly helpful to me also and even just making lists of what you want to do or would like to do.
  4. And finally, pets. Go play with your animals! Animals take you into the present moment and help you get grounded. They are also easily counted on and constants in our lives among lots of change.

For more tips, check out my Care of the Sensitive class. Enrollment all this month.

empaths · healing · Psychic Room · psychic tips · sensitivity · spiritual lessons · writing

5 Steps to Reawaken Your Inner Fairy

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Steps to Reawaken Your Authentic Inner Fairy Self:

STEP ONE: Reintroduce the Fairies into your life and learn how to heal with your own backyard.
FB101 Fairy Beginner & Flower Essence Class
F101 Fairies 101 Introduction Class
COM101 Animal & Fairy Communication

STEP TWO: Connect even deeper with your animals.
(Fairies have a deep connection to animals.)
COM102 Animal Communication
HA101 Animal Healing with Nature & Fairies
AM101 Animal Mediumship: After Death Communication

STEP THREE: Take care of your developing sensitive self.
(You may be an empath already and need tools, or by doing this work you find you are becoming more sensitive.)
CS101 Care of the Sensitive
RT101 Healing with Rocks & Trees

STEP FOUR: Bring back joy into your life and rediscover you, your authentic inner fairy.
FJ200 Fairy Joy class

STEP FIVE: (COMING): Go deeper: become a fairy detective.

Sign up for Fairy Online School classes at the Online Class page.

empaths · spiritual lessons

Do you teach others to treat you like crap?

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I’m in a writing mood, so I will blog write beside posting art.

I’ve been learning major stuff lately. Tower experiences do that. We tend to have life reviews then we see a timeline of false beliefs that led us to experience what we do not want to experience. I think that is the true gift in major life break-ups.

What did I learn? For one thing, we must not compromise so much of ourselves. Each little compromise tells us we don’t matter and are unimportant. And slowly, we expect less and less. Next thing we see is we matter little in our lives. We are disrespected. It’s a snowball effect.

I look back and I see how all this was born when I was quite little. A belief was planted. And yes, Empaths, we do tend to take on others’ beliefs as our own and others’ stuff at a very early age.

I have seen times I gave 110% in my biz, my family, in parenting, relationships, and then was genuinely surprised when I was empty-handed. I foolishly thought that when I needed it, like financial help for my dying dog, or needing money for simple things like gas or electric, it would be there, because look how much I gave! I think all it created was resentment. Why was this happening? Because I gave free readings, free info, free classes. I was such a good old girl. Helpers, when has anyone asked a dentist or electrician for free help? I saw this recently when a woman wanted a basically cheap reading for me to travel an hour and a half and talk to most of her kennel. Then balked at my average price. She had just paid a vet to come to the house big bucks! So, the message again, you are unimportant, not worthy. That was part of my wake-up call. The last few years have brought me the best teachers in the world for this lesson, including a child who was a Master Teacher.

Little by little we put up with small compromises that do not honor us and whittle us away. Maybe this is a learned woman thing. I don’t know. But it’s too late. I see it now. I have this beautiful opportunity to rewrite my history and heal my inner little girl. How frickin’ cool is that?

empaths · Flower essences for sensitive · healing · spiritual lessons

In the garden diary

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How I found my Fairy Castle…
My life, as I knew it, fell apart at the foundation five months ago. I won’t go into the details, but most of the trauma involved adopting an older child with problems we were not prepared for or trained to handle as she aged and a lot of other really traumatic stuff and big time breakdowns. I had asked my Guides and Helpers to help me find a place I’d feel safe and comfortable where I could heal, as well as, for my animals. I knew only what I wanted to feel in this new home and some of the attributes. When I did fall onto this place, through a series of steps, it wasn’t at all what I expected! I’m a Jersey princess by heart, and the place was a cute, long, mobile. It was in a rather rural area when I had said I wanted more city. But when I saw the yard, my heart opened to a width it hadn’t had been at in a long while. It was clearly love at first sight. And now, fairly situated into our new home, I have to say I love it with all its lovely quirkiness. So, the message is to be open to what you want however it comes, seek out the attributes and feelings of what you want and trust, trust, trust. I am grateful for this gift from the Fairies. (Thanks to Shaeri and Jerry, of course!) To read more go to the diary.

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An Empath Goes To The Movies

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Anyone who knows me knows that I love movies. I dig the story. One of my guilty pleasures has been joining Netflix. So, for my new blog feature, I rate the movies for sensitivity level and appeal. Here’s my reviews from a Sensitive’s point of view of the latest movies I watched:

  1. Coco Before Chanel

I didn’t dig this movie. I love clothes and fashion, but this one dragged on and on. And I usually love Audrey Tatou of Amelie fame, but she frowned a great deal and brooded through most of the 2 hours, which contrasted with her Amelie portrait of optimism. When the writers introduce the car, you already know what is coming.

Sensitive rating: 7 for too much emotional angst that an empath may walk away feeling.

2. UP

What a fun and upbeat, feel good movie. For dog lovers, you will love the “talking” dogs. The writers must be dog parents because they “get” their unique point of view. I like the message carried throughout the movie of finding family however it comes and the take on aging with truly living.

Sensitive rating: 2 for a little sadness in the beginning. (The beginning really hit a nerve with me.) Possible animal cruelty but the animals are protected and saved in the long run so safe to watch.

And 3. Big sensitivity warning this week.

Don’t watch A Haunting: the series.

Sensitive rating: 10 I actually had the worst migraine watching this show recently. Like most of us, much of my sensitivity has increased. The slightest  negativity wreaks havoc on my system. Reactments of actual hauntings, much that are negative and highly violent, are the fare for this show. I did not know this going in. When the Warrens come in and proclaim every haunting is a demon, a part of me check outs. Stay away Sensitives.

Until next time…

For help with your sensitivity, see my Psychic tips, or sign up for the Care of the Sensitive class on the Online Classes page. You can also sign up for a reading.  I am also working hard on a new Ebook to help you.

empaths · sensitivity · spiritual lessons · whimsical illustration

Empaths carry too much

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Everyone I know is going through major stuff.

It’s like we all decided that now is the time to really deal with the big issues of our lives, and get rid of major karma–major hindrances–so we can finally be free. Unfortunately, this doesn’t always look or feel pretty. I joke lately how what I’ve gone through in the the past six months equaled the combined experiences of the dentist’s root canal, a pap smear and having to give a speech in grade school class totally unprepared. As hard as it has been, on the positive side, I am also clearing out major beliefs that I held onto for years.

What I’ve discovered…

Have you ever stopped and realized how much of our stuff isn’t our stuff at all? As sensitive folk, this is much the case. We carry so much for others without realizing it. In my work on healing, I’ve seen so much I’ve picked up and internalized from my loved ones, and even beliefs or issues that were my parents from long ago. Perhaps as sensitive little empaths, we sponged all that wasn’t said or acknowledged, and in our desire to help, we took it on.

How much of us believe the following:

  • Parents should sacrifice themselves completely for their children.
  • We are only as worthy as the amount we give to others.
  • Carrying for others is caring.
  • What we do and accomplish = our worth.
  • Who you are is either bad or good as judged by your behaviors.

It’s amazing how much these beliefs can block us. I found that out.

And now, it’s like I am having a huge identity crisis. Who am I without the old life and these beliefs that shaped my world? I guess I will soon find out.

(character: the scientist)