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There’s no room in spirituality for shaming

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I had an odd experience in one of the groups I’m involved in on Facebook.  I lost my cool and finally had to speak my mind. I’m sure that is not becoming in a spiritual teacher, but I am only human…well, half human.

I’ve been discussing lately with family and friends the experience of being shamed growing up through organized religion. I was amazed at the common experiences among several different religions.

I grew up Jewish and married into a Christian family. In the Jewish religion, according to my Grandmother, there are enormous amount of rules in order to be a good person including how you cook and what utensils you use. I doubt very highly God cares if you follow any of them. We weren’t supposed to this or that and you had to have a Bat Mitzvah, go to Hebrew school, etc. etc. I didn’t do any of those. They just didn’t resonate.

Once I was married, I realized in the Christian religion there were even more rules to acceptance. And it didn’t matter what I did or believed anyway because I was already not going to be accepted because of the, well, Jewish thing. I already didn’t believe in many things my family of origin did, such as, when you die you just die and you live on in memories. After all, as a child, I had too many spirits visiting me at night. Who were they then? And the non-acceptance of Jesus as loving guidance or teacher was a tough one also when at 14 I had a profound vision of him standing in front of me when I needed love and support the most.

So, according to organized religion, I was in an in between state of non-acceptance. Not belonging to one or the other, according to the rules.

How does this all apply to the Facebook group?

I recognize the same rules and shaming underneath those rules among the “new age” group of thinkers. There’s a running belief you create your reality 100% so if you have horrible things happening in your life or negative people, it’s because you are thinking wrong and doing it badly. (I hate the SECRET). I liken this to what a little child believes that the whole world revolves around him and he can control it with his mind. Yes, we attract what we focus on and what we are learning. It is called Earth School after all. But the negative parent or friend being a jerk? Or the idiot who just cut you off in traffic?  That’s reality because there’s lots of people in the world we encounter in our lives. We don’t live in a bubble. The awful illness? What if you inherited or was born with a bad heart? Are you a bad thinker then? What if you are still in the learning state where you aren’t aware of what you are attracting or need to learn? Then you need compassion as you learn the tough lessons, and, as we progress and grow, sometimes the curriculum does get harder maybe because we crave more wisdom and more healing.

I guess the bottom line is there is perfectionism behind any religion with rules,  and perfectionism is about shaming ourselves for not being perfect or doing it right. That’s not possible or is it desirable. Besides, who decides what is right? A mean-spirited, judgmental God who punishes us with floods and famine when we are bad? Ooooh, that’s not my idea of God. When I visited Indian Gardens recently, I was in awe of the natural beauty. And you know what? It’s a forest that is beautiful in its wildness. There’s overgrown vines and fallen trees, things that shouldn’t be floating in the water, and paths that aren’t clear. That’s us. We are still beautiful even when we don’t follow the rules or are “different,”  or even, SHUDDER, make a mistake.  And we are still loved even with our wildness.

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Guidance happening quicker

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It’s been an interesting morning already. I have one puking dog — Sarah, apparently REALLY doesn’t like the new dog food we were trying for her — and a lively discussion over organized religion and its resultant shaming in some of our childhoods. I was knee-deep in this discussion and feeling rather upset when the Universe/God sent over two little old ladies to my door to give me a tract on the End times. I had to laugh. There’s no coincidences.

Yesterday, I was doubting a message I was getting that Sarah had metabolism issues being a much older dog. I turned on the computer and checked my email to find TAKE THE METABOLISM QUIZ. Instant validation.

Maybe this is what 2012 is all about. Faster and quicker messages. For those who are in touch with our intuition, we are seeing this. My thought is, that maybe we removed a great deal of crap in the way with our connection to Guidance/Support so there isn’t so much crap in the way to get to us. I like that idea; it implies we did a good job at our work on ourselves, instead of the usual how much more we have to do.

What have you noticed?

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New Year’s Resolutions I Won’t Keep

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Each year, like many of us, I make these lofty goals for my New Year’s resolutions. So in good humor, I give you resolutions I know ahead of time I will not keep.

  • Lose weight and stop eating sugar. (Okay, I know I will lose weight because I just signed up for a yoga class. But the sugar? Come on. Why would I do that? Cookies taste good. Not everything good is bad.)
  • Write six best-selling books. (This I might do being I am so hyperactive, but no pressure.)
  • Be loving to everyone I meet. (I give this one a blank stare. Some folks really get my hackles up.)
  • Walk two miles a day. (Even my dogs are giving me weird looks on this one.)
  • Only think positive thoughts. (Yes, in a perfect world where I am hopped up on sugar 24-7 and have become an Uber Human this is realistically possible. I do have hormones after all.)
  • This year I will deal with all my sh*t, leave it all behind and raise to the highest vibration ever because it’s 2012. (Anything is possible, but….this sounds more like a mind erase, lobotomy or serious repression.)
  • I won’t give a crap what other people think. (I actually want to work on this one.)

What’s yours?

 

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It’s My Birthday What I’ve Learned List

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I’ve always seen birthdays as the beginning of a new year. It’s at that time, we look over our lives and do a sum-up or a “where am I now” assessment. If it’s been a bad year, the birthday can be a little tough to handle. A good year, a breeze. This year, I look back and see a beautiful yet challenging year of real growth. Before I move forward, I’d like to reflect on what I learned. Maybe you can relate to some of these lessons. Drum roll please.

  1. There are many avenues to solve a problem or find answers. There is no ONE WAY. This includes in medicine, religion, and in life.
  2. Love, real love endures, and can’t be destroyed.
  3. Never leave hamburger in your garbage can for too long unless you like lots of crawly bugs. (Maggot Invasion of 2011)
  4. Trust in your guidance, but not blindly. Keep track of what you are receiving and what was a truth for you. We build trust with our spiritual helpers just like in any other relationship. You are creating a solid foundation.
  5. You know what is best for you.
  6. DO NOT leave out sweet potatoes on the counter unless you want them to be stolen. Protect what matters to you.
  7. People will surprise you–in good ways and in bad, but don’t lose hope in people. Encourage the good. It’s their choice from there. And some folks are just so broken they can’t  “act good.”
  8. The greatest joys are in the simple acts of love — being cuddled, a wet nose up against yours, a kind word from a friend, a heart-spoken loving letter.
  9. Sometimes it’s not your battle.
  10. We all just really want to be seen. (Think the movie AVATAR).
  11. I NEED to draw and write. It’s not a fun hobby. It’s my soul’s voice.
  12. True friends will hear you and what really matters to you and how you feel. And will HONOR that. I am grateful for mine.
  13. We sure don’t need to recreate our childhood patterns over and over, and yet we do. The key is to figure it out and get to those core beliefs that aren’t yours and throw them away. Then, with understanding you can have compassion for yourself and others. We are all just learning.
  14. God sent down dogs and cats so we can have just the slightest idea of what loving really is like. We had forgotten.
  15. Don’t eat a whole bag of microwave popcorn in one sitting.
  16. You can survive anything with good, consistent support; most of the time.
  17. Fairy energy is the key to happiness.
  18. We are connected to those we love. No amount of physical separation matters. They are  just a thought or feeling away.
  19. You have needs too and are just as important as everyone else’s.
  20. The key against abuse is to tell your story. Abuse is about powerlessness and stifling your voice. Let your voice be heard. That’s where your real power is.
  21. Critical people are usually just pissed off.
  22. I close with the words from a great movie, The Help. “You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”

Happy Holidays everyone! Fairy blessings,

Ronni

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Is empathic residue or triggers? Nasty fairy attacks

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Like most of us that write or teach, I usually am learning what I need to share that week. With all this great lunar energy has come some good lessons and lots of insight. The lessons being learned haven’t been all too comfortable but big.

Yesterday I had a cranky or nasty fairy attack. I don’t have a great deal of patience as it is, but I was feeling super-impatient with others.

I went to Unity church yesterday feeling good and relaxed and found myself halfway through the morning cranky, drained and wanting to sleep. Keep in mind that the room was warm and even the Rev. complained that there were a few who were yawning through his lesson.

I concluded that I was picking up some nasty stuff including the general mood in the room of malaise. I did have a cranky encounter with one friend , who was being super-critical, and another who felt demanding to me because he was miffed I gave him the cold shoulder, so I figured I was picking up their stuff coming at me. That made logical sense and would explain my mood and energy drain.

Being an empath, which I am sure you can relate to, we can often pick up other folks’ stuff unknowingly even if they are thinking about us from far away. Discerning who and what it is you are picking up is crucial detective work. But what if what’s really happening is someone else’s SH*T is triggering your SH*T?

After a good night’s sleep asking for guidance, I realized that is exactly what occurred. Yes, I picked up on the mood of the room, but it was my interactions with my friends’ stuff that got me reeling and upset. ANGER is a great indicator that someone has blasted through your boundaries, which is a little of what had happened. But with new insight I realized that the big issue I had been working on from my past was being mirrored in their behavior towards me. They had just given me little clues.

When I woke up, I made a list of those behaviors that really peeved me and I could see there was a pattern developing. I continually got very upset when someone else demands of me with no regard to my needs, or is controlling and forceful while trampling my boundaries. This pattern was one that I grew up with and I probably wasn’t aware consciously that it upset me so much back then, but it stayed buried inside me until others push those specific buttons.

What I learned from this experience is not only that sometimes it isn’t empathic feeling I am picking up but those trigger buttons, but I also noticed that there isn’t a pat answer or explanation for every experience we have. If I had stopped there, and concluded that I was just sponging off someone’s feelings, or someone was psychic attacking me, or even that “bad spirits” were draining me, or, that I wasn’t “loving enough and they were only mirrors,”  I wouldn’t have gotten to the meat of that particular situation. That is one big thing I have against some new age or spiritual teachings. Every story is different, and that means different answers and different solutions. Blanket answers like “it’s all just fear or love,” may be true at the core, but doesn’t give real world day to day conclusions. Nor is “just love others” when the human relationship is so complex with all our stuff bouncing off each other! And I don’t know about you, but when someone tramples my boundaries or is abusive to me, just throwing love their way when I am supposed to be speaking up for myself and screaming NO! is not my answer.

 

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I am grateful for…and fairy philosophy

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Sometimes we start the process of being grateful when we notice what we are not grateful for. It’s spiritual to be cranky. I can lapse into complaints and feel sad for what I don’t have this holiday season. I am missing my loved one, and family and friends who are far away. The problem with forcing yourself to be positive and only think “good thoughts” is you don’t have that moment to be human and FEEL.

Whenever I am feeling sad, it’s best to just feel it so it relieves itself and the feeling is honored.

THEN I can be grateful.

I teach in my classes FAIRY PHILOSOPHY that I have learned. That philosophy is find the joy in the moment to lift your heart by being excited and happy about the little things. I’ve pretty much had this philosophy in my fairy soul since I was very, very little. We used to be able to do this easily as children.

So, although I am sad and grieving, I can be grateful when I look at my life and feel the fur and warmth next to me of my beagle mix, Sarah, who is elderly and still hanging in there at 14 years old! I can giggle at Emma Lou being silly playing with an empty water bottle.

I am well-taken care of in my life and have friends who love me and are always there for me. To be loved is an amazing thing.

I have lots of art supplies. (always a good thing).

I have community locally and on the internet. I have amazing students and clients who are wonderful people and animals.

But more importantly, I have a pumpkin pie in my refrigerator that I will probably eat all week long. And THAT I am truly grateful for.

I am reminded that finding the little things, keeps me in the present. It’s only when I look backwards that I feel old pain. Find the treasure underneath the rocks.

Fairy blessings,

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Reconnecting to Everyday Joy and Miracles this week

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Back in 2005, I started Fairy Online School. I was burnt out and tired in my intuitive biz from all the sadness I encountered, and I was going through lots of psychic, expansion changes. I needed support for my sensitivity and quite simply, a little joy to raise my spirits back up. In came that delicious fairy energy, and with it, my love for Nature, and the discovery of my first flower essence I created to heal.

What exactly is fairy energy? I believe we all have it deep down inside. It’s that joyful, playful part we had as children. It’s interested in discovery and gets excited over finding an inch worm on a leaf. It’s grounded in Nature and in our environment and our senses. It’s also that little bit of silly that has you laughing at inappropriate times when you need the humor the most.

This time of year, I always think of my mom, who crossed over in 1995, but is still a pretty active, visiting spirit.  When I was growing up, my mom shared with me the little delights in the world–collecting tiny toys for the holidays; having a hidden stash of candy to dip into; noticing the picture in the clouds; following  that cute, little inch worm on the leaf; and enjoying a good story. It’s the little things we can focus on to bring back the joy into our lives to keep us afloat when everything else in our world is crazy, and boy, life sure has been crazy!

I told my good friend the other day, if this is really end times, I want to go out drawing, snuggling my dogs, eating pizza and cupcakes every day! That’s the fairy way.

Fairy Online School is the marriage between that re-connection we have with the spiritual world that is filled with miracles, awe, and support, and the creating and enjoying with fairy energy as we learn!

I invite you to join us with the many from all over the world reconnecting to miracles, to those we think we lost, to new friends of support this Friday when Fairy Online School starts its new session. Develop your natural, intuitive abilities while having fun, and most importantly, reconnect to you! Head on over to this page to reserve your space in the classes of your choice that start Friday. (Go sign up for my newsletter, Fairy Blessings, and you receive a special fairy discount on classes).

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If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t right for you

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I just learned an important lesson. And which is usually the case, I of course need to turn around and share, because that’s what I do.

As a intuitive empath, my psychic sense is rooted in my feelings. When I don’t trust those feelings, I run into trouble. Often, my spidey sense might not make sense at the time, might not even seem logical, but I find out later, those empath hits are spot on.

It was a silly thing really. I was rushing around buying dog food at my nearby feed store. I wanted to buy a small bag of the specialty dog food for Emma Lou I now have her on. The grain-free dog foods have been amazing for both girls’ health and wellness. I was a little miffed when I saw that the space on the shelf for the smaller bags was empty, so I asked the salesman at the counter if they had anymore. He explained I was better off getting the bigger bag financially and a whole bunch of other reasons, and I started the procedure to buy the bigger bag. I could feel my inner nasty fairy in a fit. I wanted the smaller bag. What was in my one bank account was enough, I knew, for the small bag. I had money coming over from my other account in a transfer but I wasn’t sure if it was in there yet. I felt actual resentment I was buying this big bag of dog food against what I wanted to buy.

Long story short, the big bag of dog food caused my overdraft to go into effect because the transfer did not come in time and that $33 bag cost me $68.00. I caught the intuitive feeling as I was walking away and went back to the store and returned the big bag for the little bag and the bank, later on, gratefully, was able to work with me clearing the fees. (this rarely happens with most banks.)

Lesson learned? Definitely a lesson in creating boundaries. I needed not to give in to the salesman and stand my ground. Two, don’t do overdraft protection with your bank cards. You are literally playing beat the clock with a computer who doesn’t care. Thirdly, I felt what wasn’t right for me and I needed to trust that inner intuition, which was basically telling me there would be a problem if I bought the bigger bag. This is good to know when anyone asks me to do anything. Does it feel right to me? Ignore logic or anything else in that moment, if it doesn’t feel right, and worse, you are feeling resentment, it isn’t right for you. No explanations are needed.

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This Week’s Healing Fairy Alphabet Card: Indian Gardens

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I is for Indian Gardens

(The Lesson of Wrong Soil)

When you are planted in wrong soil and you are not thriving, you feel there is something wrong with you, rather than the dirt. This happens when we are in places or situations that are not good matches for us. I love the Indian Gardens message. Indian Gardens is a lovely forest area near Sedona, Arizona, not far from my home. It’s filled with fairy energy and well, I love fairies, being part fairy. The last time I went, the Fairies gave me a message about the right soil.

They said:

“This is a message about honoring yourself. Do not compare yourself to others or feel that there is something wrong with you. There are lots of forests, but this one has it’s own voice. It is special and enough to who it belongs to. When you honor and accept yourself and your uniqueness, the world will reflect that back to you.”

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I got thrown so far off, I don’t even know where my horse is

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Bad seeds can be planted.

They are like these nasty, horrible beliefs we pick up along the way or through childhood that really poison our system. Often times, we take them on like hand-me-downs. That’s what happened to me recently when relatives visited.

How do you know you’ve had a bad seed planted? You feel like crap. You feel shame.

I thought I was doing a good job growing my biz. Everything felt good–a ton of accomplishments, great feedback from students and clients. Everyone happy and growing and helped. That’s all good!

But then there’s that weak spot or hole I often talk of that made that seed grown.

If you’re weakened, usually from fatigue or emotional upset, those bad seeds grow and grow like weeds in your psyche. It’s generally composed of old, bad thinking from when you were younger. Do you relate?

My weed looks like this nasty, horrible, thorny thing that tells me this:

You don’t do enough. You always were lazy. You don’t even try….

This weed then gets wrapped around anything good and then even the new growths are screaming for air! Yuck!

Lots of times when you are knee-deep in weeds, then you naturally attract thoughts or experiences that reinforce that belief. I was led to advice from a marketing guru and she focused on the one thing I was lamenting about. She went on and on how she was making only “x” her first year and how bad that was, and coincidently, it was the exact amount I am making! Double shame attack that reinforced the weed telling me I should be doing and making more. She didn’t create that shame, it just mirrored the belief.

I turn to Fairy Philosophy for help. I pull weeds.

I just need to pull some weeds out before they take over my yard. They are just old weeds, after all. That line of thinking doesn’t even notice those sweet little buds that are growing up from the ground that look so promising. It doesn’t see all the new growth that is there. It doesn’t see how beautiful that plant really is from so much care. No, it looks at my life with the wrong lens. Someone else’s lens that fits them, not me.

I need to live my life in a way that matches me, and run my biz in a way that works for me and what works for me, may be very different than an extrovert’s way of marketing or doing. And what works for me, might be a turtle’s pace of the mountain, but I get there.

What’s your experience?