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Think Bigger

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I found this great reminder from my Best of the Blog ebook:

Thursday, September 21, 2006

Thinking Bigger


I am learning how to think bigger. What does this mean exactly? I find that the parts of my life that are blatantly not working are because I adapted very limited thinking. I listened to the voices around me that said, “That can’t be done. That’s just the way it is. This is how to do it. Think realistically.” If we hadn’t of thought there was more, we’d be stuck in horrible situations with no options. I see that now. When I checked in with my Fairy and Angel Guides, they told me to always think bigger. Why do I forget to? I look at my life. I have experienced miraculous things. Mostly because I didn’t know better! But it is a battle to think this way. There are so many opposing voices telling you not to. The bigger lesson is to stand firm and believe. To envision bigger pastures, and lots of choices. If I hadn’t thought bigger, I never would have talked to Fairies, or animals, or find the Other Side, or my daughter, or my books, or anything! Do me a favor. Just today. Think Bigger.

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What You Are Meant To Do

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How have you survived the Solstice? Fun energy, huh? My life experienced such a major shift that growth has been seen on all levels. What’s does this mean? Lots of lessons learned, of course, which I’d like to share with my clients and friends.

The big thing I learned is that some of our gifts were born from childhood survival. Mine? Taking care of everyone else’s emotions, being ultra-aware of their needs and feelings from a place of deep fear and necessity, and understanding the big picture of their problems to fix them. Childhood made me into an empath. But what if those gifts are coming from an empty place? A place disconnected from your soul?

Some of our gifts come from a deeper place–from joy and who we truly are at the core. I think when I create, get lost in an art and writing project, it is from my six-year-old self–the part of me that is closest to my soul, way before my survival wounds began. (The child knows at my core I am more than enough as is.) The six-year-old loved to write plays about animals, usually imparting some message, draw and design the animal characters, and made puppets to go with the play to tell the story. At the core of my being, telling the story that teaches is what is most important.

Several times in the past few months during crisis with our daughter, gifted folks told me I should be a therapist. I had such insight. I could figure things out. I could see the deeper levels. But again, gifts created out of necessity.

Perhaps, when I talk to the animals, I am simply relaying their stories and what is important to them. When I veer into trying to fix, taking on the emotions of my clients, finding their answers, I am off course and venturing into the land of my broken places. I know when this happens when I become drained or unusually depressed. I’ve lost my soul to do what I am good at, but what does not feed me inside. I can use my empathic abilities when I teach or coach, when I create to help others, and then I am back home again.

Can you relate? What part of you is from the broken place? What part is from the core of your being? What are you doing?

Earth energies · healing · new thinking · spiritual lessons

555 and the Soltice Energies

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The clock has been flashing “555.” I know this to mean big changes are happening, so every time my soul and Guides call my attention to the clock, I know to ask for all the changes made to be for the best and be gentle!

In my animal tarot deck, the New Beginnings card — frog — keeps showing itself. Frog is also about clearing/cleansing so new beginnings can take place. (I can attest to that! I’ve emotionally upset and rashing out!)

I have talked with so many students, clients and friends who are all going through the ringer lately, in the past few weeks. I do believe there was a door opened recently for souls to enter and to leave. Anytime there is an influx of big energy coming in, there needs to be energy coming out. We almost lost our 95 year old grandfather around this time and each other, the same time as Farrah, Michael Jackson and Ed McMahon all made their departures. I’ve been hearing the crickets chirp! Crickets: the sign of death and rebirth.

Thanks to my friends who sent me energy reports confirming that June was going to be a time of huge energy shifts and transformations. It feels like we are in excellerated speed. Not just in a cosmic/spiritual perspective, but also on a more practical level–perhaps with all the big changes in the world in economy, the president, downfalls, we are forced to face our own negative stuff and see what needs to be changed–the things we always battled, didn’t like, complained about, that hurt, didn’t work–and finally have to surrender to fixing or changing them. And that  is not a bad thing! It has to change! But for sure, if we battled these things for a long time, it will feel like painful birth pains to get rid of them to birth a new way of living (the birth analogy one good friend has expressed to me and another friend also expressed a few days later!) It’s as if we finally have no choice. Pretty exciting stuff as long as we lean on our support & each other, be brave and strong, trust, and face forward. Happy birthing.

Guardian Angels · healing · spiritual lessons

Guide Message for the Day

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foxymarker“If old stuff and issues are coming up, it means you are ready to heal them.”

new thinking · spiritual lessons

I am finding in my business..

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  1. When I keep my focus on what I want and am very clear, I able to manifest and attract good into my life.
  2. When I have business, I usually attract more business. When I panic and focus on lack, there is dead silence.
  3. I do not focus on words of whoa about the economy. I simply do not believe it for myself, and have had the best month financially last month. So, does that make what we experience all about what we believe?
  4. We are all being asked to think out of the box and think creatively with our businesses. I know one man whose business has gone downhill because his biz relied solely on the housing market. He is being asked to be very creative with his thinking now and how can refocus his talents.
  5. When I take the time to have fun and play and really enjoy myself, business increases! This is far from what I have been taught in my life. Play was for after work was completed! How could I take time out to play when I was so responsible? But now I am finding that I want every aspect of my business to be fun and joyful to me.
  6. We are so guided and supported by so many invisible hands and paws.
after death communication · spiritual lessons

Moms and talking to dead people

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Historically this is a tough week for me. My mom crossed over on May 5th fourteen years. It’s a day that comes around with a thud whether I acknowledge it or not. To add insult to injury (boy, I love that expression), dealing with our special needs daughter, we now have frequent family therapy sessions. And in yesterday’s session, it came up that since I am not my daughter’s biological mom, I am not her “real” mom. It was a little insensitive oops-wording from our therapist. Ouch! With Mother’s Day approaching, all these mom injuries are hitting the fan.

Last night, my head ached. This is a sure sign that someone on the other side is trying to communicate. I saw lots of owls–my mom’s favorite creature, before she showed me a weird vision. It my childhood home. We had one fancy room that was the guest living room. Technically, it was highly impractical for a home with kids and a shedding dog. The couch was white with soft fur that you wanted to touch but couldn’t. In this room, there were fancy artifacts, expensive paintings and a glass coffee table. We were not allowed to hang out here, much less sit on the couch. (Although our beagle was known on occasion to sit there when no one was home.) It was the guest living room, after all, for entertaining, but my parents never entertained in it. Ironically then, the room sat like a museum. Out of all visions my Mom could send at this time was a clear picture of the white couch.

How did this vision apply to my mothering or grieving issues?  When I told my pal Wendy this story she blurted out, “Don’t save the best for other people!” This of course, would follow my other posts here of leaving myself last often.

How much have we learned from our Moms about giving to ourselves vs. giving to others? Were there false messages along the way? Was that special couch that I couldn’t touch a symbol that I couldn’t have the special things and treatment? That was for everyone else? Was my daughter now that couch? I could see it, take care of her for the past five years, be mom, but the role of mom was reserved and belonged to others? How long was I taught this odd withholding?

The miraculous part of all of this is Mom, fourteen years later, must have done some soul-searching on the other side to have learned this lesson now, and is now anxious to impart this wisdom to her daughter as she must painfully watch as she repeats her past mistakes.

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Just Today

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Just today expect support.

Expect to have what you need.

Expect that maybe the opportunities that open up will work out; will take you where you need to go.

Expect more. If something doesn’t fit, expect something better to come along that does.

Even though today may be hard, expect all you need to succeed.

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Get Rid of Things That Make You Bitchy

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Today’s post is about getting rid of things that make you bitchy. Oh, that is just fun to write. Some things you can’t always get rid of (relatives, teenagers), but I am amazed how many things I’ve held on to because I think I SHOULD be doing this or that. I have this Capricorn mind that plans and plans and likes all my ducks sitting neatly in a row. I tell myself, everyone is doing a. so I need to do a. to get what I want. Not true. For instance, I’m not into Twitter. I just don’t get it, don’t understand, can’t follow something that has no pictures or visuals, but I love Facebook. I love teaching small groups at the college, but I really hate teaching big informal lecture halls, or being squooshed into someone’s living room with twenty-five people.  I really hate receiving email marketing for new teleconferences, etc. , that tell me they have all the answers for a particular problem in a big hard sell. Yuck! Thirty minutes into the call and they are selling me something I can’t afford or need and they told me what I already knew.

So, do I follow Twitter, teach at lecture halls and do teleconferences? If I am at a low point, and others have told me I should do this to get what I need, and that there is something wrong with me if I don’t,  I might, (remember, low point) and then I will probably bitch and moan on this blog. Hopefully, I will remind myself there are many ways to climb a mountain, and the ways you do it are meant for you and your path of success.

Which leads me to my Newsletter. I love writing and I enjoy writing my newsletter. I like to blog the best because I like the give and take of writing–when clients and friends write telling me how something I wrote helped them, I light up like a lightning bug. Often my newsletters are pitches for my work or classes and are meant to draw biz. Boy, is it frustrating when I send out a big mailing and there is dead silence. All my little buttons are pushed from childhood. I go through stages of grief, mainly sadness and anger. I’ve come to the conclusion–why I am I sending out a newsletter when I have this blog?

If you are interested in my new classes or services, then read this blog and check in often. My newsletter makes me bitchy.

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Moving again and surrender

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We just endured our third? move in 3 years! When we sold our house in Cottonwood, we found the first place we could that would take 4 dogs, 2 birds, and 3 people. It was expensive and a bit odd. The light fixtures didn’t match the lights. There was a fireplace…buried in concrete behind a wall. The Arizona room I was so excited about was either too hot or too cold. We had a tough time when we lived in that house. We lost our Lilibeth there and I went through that huge energy shift clearing that left me physically incapacitated for awhile. So, when we were offered a new place by a friend we jumped at it. The pink house was comfy and bizarre in its own way, but very old and cramped and it had one bathroom. With a growing teenaged girl this was an ordeal. We didn’t want to go through yet another move, especially after just losing Foxy to the other side, but the lease was up and rents are way down out here, so another move we did. This new house is wonderful. It’s large, two bathrooms, modern, comfy and in a fun community neighborhood. We feel spoiled!

I am amazed that when we are at rock bottom and scared, is when I finally surrender. I’ll let go of my hands off the wheel. You see, this only happens when things look rather dire and impossible, and then everything works out beautifully. I would like to work on this behavior. Surely, I don’t need to get to this point to be better assisted. You would think! So I will learn this new way of trusting. Lesson learned? Hopefully.

new thinking · spiritual lessons

Spiritual Perfectionism

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I must say, it is spiritual to be cranky. And to be mad, or upset, or sad. It’s all included in the package of being human. Lucky us. The Secret, is a great book, but the problem that came with it, is many of us think we have to only think positively all the time or we attract bad stuff. That’s a huge burden to carry, and most of the time that only means repression of the yucky thoughts.

I grew up in a household where my dad, unable to deal with anything emotionally heavy, would say, “Only tell me the positive stuff.” Ouch. Where’s the support or the validation? I do not want my grown-up world to reflect this also!

You will have times in life where things just suck. It’s the up and down of life we can count on. Right now, my life is in topsy-turvy and the last month has in some ways, has sucked. Most of my best buds are going through the same thing. I do like to focus on the positive end of it; the lessons being learned. But, I also have felt FRUSTRATED, ANGRY, UPSET, SAD, REALLY PISSED, and a bunch of other not very pretty things. But, you know what? That’s good! That is a natural reaction to losing someone you love and experiencing big changes. In order to get to the other side of the tough stuff, sometimes you need to barrel right through and feel it. THEN you get to the lessons and the gifts.

My friends tell me I need to talk out my feelings and thoughts and then I come to my own answers. That usually involves expressing all the poo underneath. Neither of my friends or my husband say to me, “Oh how very un-spiritual of you, Ronni. You should only express good things.” Yes, I need to say what I want. But sometimes, you need to let out and express what you don’t want to find out what you do.