Spiritual Perfectionism

I must say, it is spiritual to be cranky. And to be mad, or upset, or sad. It’s all included in the package of being human. Lucky us. The Secret, is a great book, but the problem that came with it, is many of us think we have to only think positively all the time or we attract bad stuff. That’s a huge burden to carry, and most of the time that only means repression of the yucky thoughts.

I grew up in a household where my dad, unable to deal with anything emotionally heavy, would say, “Only tell me the positive stuff.” Ouch. Where’s the support or the validation? I do not want my grown-up world to reflect this also!

You will have times in life where things just suck. It’s the up and down of life we can count on. Right now, my life is in topsy-turvy and the last month has in some ways, has sucked. Most of my best buds are going through the same thing. I do like to focus on the positive end of it; the lessons being learned. But, I also have felt FRUSTRATED, ANGRY, UPSET, SAD, REALLY PISSED, and a bunch of other not very pretty things. But, you know what? That’s good! That is a natural reaction to losing someone you love and experiencing big changes. In order to get to the other side of the tough stuff, sometimes you need to barrel right through and feel it. THEN you get to the lessons and the gifts.

My friends tell me I need to talk out my feelings and thoughts and then I come to my own answers. That usually involves expressing all the poo underneath. Neither of my friends or my husband say to me, “Oh how very un-spiritual of you, Ronni. You should only express good things.” Yes, I need to say what I want. But sometimes, you need to let out and express what you don’t want to find out what you do.

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