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The Top 10 Reasons Why I am Bitchy or Wonky

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  1. It’s a full moon. Full moons can make sensitive people a little wonky. At the very least, I do want to run outside, throw off my clothes, and howl at the moon with my basset hound.
  2. Solar flare activity. I am thinking I am sure it has some affect on my body if the moon does, right?
  3. I haven’t had really decent sugar products in two days. That is truly wrong, and a sign I need a night run for something truly decadent. I saw there is Irish Soda Bread in the supermarket.
  4. Politics. Why are these politicians so wonky themselves? Do they even think before they speak? They all remind me of the 2 faced mayor of Halloweentown in Nightmare Before Christmas.
  5. It’s been all grey skies and windy or cold, so I can’t make it to the forest. That’s wrong too.
  6. Dealing with any kind of government or customer service on the phone. They like the HOLD button a little too much. I can still hear the elevator music in my head and the “your call is important to us, so we will make you wait for an hour…”
  7. Rush Limbaugh. He just makes me bitchy. Does HE think before he speaks at all? If he were in the schoolyard we would just call him a big bully.
  8. Hormones. Enough said. Next time I am coming back as a man, if I have to come back at all.
  9. Is it mercury in retrogade yet? It seems like it is always mercury in retrograde. Anytime things aren’t working or wonky I can at least blame it on that!
  10. My top 10 reason for being bitchy and wonky is being forced to be positive and all unconditional love when I am in the midst of feeling numbers 1 thru 9. But I am thinking all the above will probably disappear once I can do no. 5. Fairies NEED forests.
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Next Tour Destination

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Follow me as we pack our bags and head on over to Australia again! It’s the lovely and very wise Monique Williams and her blog and coaching site. Monique addresses Tip and Tool #49 and she does it beautifully.

http://moniquetwilliams.com/2012/03/01/a-tip-for-the-sensitive-just-walk-away/

Did you order a copy of your book yet? You can get the book right here from the Author!

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Weird dream tied into old lesson

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I recently had a really wild dream that my bed was outside (probably my desire to live in Indian Gardens). It was a comfortable brass post bed, but I looked down to find I was surrounded by weeds all around me. I started pulling them in exasperation, but then I noticed I had pulled out a few daisies–that which I love!

I was talking to Bill the other day about this dream and we both nodded our heads in confusion.I figured it was telling me that maybe I wouldn’t like living outdoors after all. But I had the real meaning of the dream all along.

Here’s the funny part…reading an old post and lesson I had written about being thrown off by negative beliefs and planted bad seeds that looked like weeds, I had my light bulb moment! How funny my own lessons would make it into dreams to teach me again. And, what a good reminder and warning that what I was feeling was those bad weeds overtaking the yard and I was not only ignoring the precious buds coming up, but I had pulled them mistakenly out of the ground!

Cool, huh?

(I reposted that lesson below.)

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10 Things That Are Designed to Drive You Crazy Slowly

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A Little Fairy Joy to Make You Chuckle…

Frustrated? Nerves on edge? Feeling a little nutty? You are not alone. There is an evil plot to slowly drive us crazy through objects and inventions that were released into society.

  1. Venetian Blinds. There is a science to pulling the two strings in at just the right combination to be able to adjust the blinds to the right level. I usually pull, and the blinds are up to the ceiling or fall down and touch the floor.
  2. Double-stick tape is a wonderful device invented to stick paper to other paper, but it also adheres to your fingers really well. And your clothes. And your dog.
  3. Tight bottle caps. I always think about, when I will be a little old lady with not a great deal of strength in my hands, how in the world will I open up the jars or cans when they are so strongly kept shut?
  4. Pens that don’t work. Much worse are pens that work for a few days and then you spend the next  few days trying to make them work again.
  5. The touch-screen cell phone. Great invention that allows my phone to call whoever it wants just by me throwing it down onto the bed or into my purse.
  6. Bags with holes. You only notice the holes after you loaded up the bag.
  7. Glue Stick is much like double-stick tape. Somehow, whenever I use glue stick it manages to stick on everywhere on the page but the paper I intended it for.
  8. Missing socks. You know there is an evil fairy that comes in and takes solitary socks and hides them from you. It could also be a government conspiracy plan. I am thinking that this fairy also puts the holes in the bags.
  9. Propane bills. Start out with a reasonable, small bill. When you really need the heat, throw in an enormous bill just to see customers go crazy by the unexpected.
  10. Fancy buttons on pants when you really, really, have to use the bathroom. That’s just cruel.

Fairy blessings,

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Forced to change

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Last post, I talked about finding the right puzzle for your piece–your right fit. After I wrote that entry, I had instant validation that Prescott was indeed not the right fit for me at the time. I had sent out an announcement to my one email list about my book.  An old acquaintance accidently forwarded to me a note she wrote to another friend. I obviously wasn’t supposed to get that email. She mentioned she did think I was nice gal and to check out my book, but thought I was “very flightly” at the time. Ouch! She didn’t see me back then. I’m not sure anyone in that town did. But to be fair, I was experiencing major upheaval at the time.

Sometimes, what once fit can become a lousy fit when we grow and change. How do you know you are ready to let go of something? I’ll share my feelings with my recent decision to leave a group I had belonged to.

Stage one: a growing “icky” feeling that something isn’t right.

Stage two: annoyance sets in. What once felt joyful feels heavy and uncomfortable.You might have bad experiences where you once had positive ones.

Stage three: You notice they don’t perceive things like you do, even when things seem very obvious. They don’t hear you. You have that “stuck in the cocoon too long” feeling and want to burst forth into a butterfly. Bad experiences increase or arguments. What you are noticing is your needs aren’t being met or honored.

Stage four: Crucial point:  you are either able to clear things up with with communication, and the community/group/job or friend  is able and willing to  change and grow alongside you. You will notice this because you feel heard. They show signs of learning and understanding. They get it. You get it. Beautiful! Stop here at Stage four. This puzzle still fits. 

Or, you will feel seriously uncomfortable, maybe even argumentative. They have no idea what you are talking about or maybe even that there is a problem. They aren’t ready for change, but you are. Resist the overwhelming need to teach them.  They aren’t ready.  They are happy where they are at. Joy is absent altogether at this point.

Stage five: the whack on the head. Your soul is pisssed you aren’t listening if you are still there. You may feel sick, or upset all the time. You might have free-flowing anxiety or anger. You try to make it work. Things will be made obvious it’s time to move on to a better fit.

Stage six: hopefully,  lesson is finally learned. It just became the wrong puzzle. Allow grief for the loss. Time to find a new puzzle you  fit into perfectly.

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A book on Boundaries and Focusing on the Solution

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I was guided this weekend to head over to my local Goodwill shop. Now this wasn’t twisting my arm, because I LOVE that store treasure-hunting. Their book selections are hit or miss and I was grateful I landed on a day that was a HIT. Apparently, someone who is into psychic communication and other forms of healing cleaned out their bookshelf. I found several books that would assist me in what I want to teach right now including color healing and a few books on boundary setting, which is perfect for those that are sensitive.

The book on boundaries, Boundaries with Relationships by Charles T. Whitfield,  has some excellent tools, but perusing through it, I noticed I didn’t feel as excited as I did when I was reading the color healing books. Was the info bringing up too much upset? I could feel a ton of anger rise from inside of me from the many times I allowed others to trample or ignore my boundaries. I also felt a little slimed; even negative. What was happening?

I slept on it. No, literally. Woke up this morning and the book was under my butt, as well as my glasses that looked a little mushed out of place. Perhaps I was integrating the material more. But I also had a new awareness of why I felt uncomfortable. Many self help books are designed to package a set of tools. There are some good ones out there that present them well. After reading this one, I felt labeled, “bad,” (and there were plenty of examples given of what is good and what is bad). Crap, everyone has acted the bad part. Talk about unattainable.

Now don’t get me wrong, there are some excellent parts of the book also, but the slimey feeling was what I wanted to look at.

Guidance this morning was very clear: Focus on the solution and you feel empowered. Focus on the problem, and you are stuck IN the problem.

I see this when folks post videos or comments about what is happening that is wrong on this planet, whether genetically-altered food or bad politics. Hearing that news is like hearing about a case of animal abuse. I am left feeling upset, angry, and helpless against the problem. Helpless = slimed.

I like books and teaching that do not keep me stuck in a label, but helps me get out of that hole into a new role. I’m really digging Julia Cameron’s book, Prosperous Heart right now. I concluded that she teaches like how I want to, by story, and then by supplying a tool to help you empower yourself or shift your thinking. In her exercises, I focus on what I want and I feel hopeful and excited, versus what is not working. I don’t look at lack of abundance, but about what I want to create and the small doable steps. It is important to go back to the past for answers and beliefs that don’t work for you, but I sure don’t want to stay there. Reading her book, I am not labeled BAD because I SHOULD have more if I was just doing the SECRET right. I think I had the same reaction to that line of thinking while reading  the Boundaries book. There are enormous amounts of labels, time periods for how long it would take for when I was ‘better,” and most everyone I know are moving very fast right now in their healing beyond any so-called timetables. No one heals when they are stuck under a label, especially when they stay in their pain.

Perhaps it is my upbringing that is the button being pressed here. We were raised with psychology night and day. My father is a psychologist, my mother was a social worker. We were punished or admonished by psychological terms and labels. I would have preferred just being yelled at. Either way, what it produced in me at the time was a sense of dis-empowering; it was just another way to feel shame. I suppose it has the same effect as different educational programs that “weed” out people so only the strong can survive. I went to one design program that set impossible expectations and deadlines and gave out ample criticism. I walked away with not tools, but panic attacks. When I switched to a more unconventional college in another state, expression was valued, grades went from only A to C. The program was not only doable, but fun. And the result? I thrived! In fact, I still feel great love when I think about it. The school focused on the attributes of the students and brought them out (the solution).

Having any problem now, I want to focus on what tools I need now to create solution and that will give me more hope and self power. That’s moving forward out of the hole.

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There’s no room in spirituality for shaming

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I had an odd experience in one of the groups I’m involved in on Facebook.  I lost my cool and finally had to speak my mind. I’m sure that is not becoming in a spiritual teacher, but I am only human…well, half human.

I’ve been discussing lately with family and friends the experience of being shamed growing up through organized religion. I was amazed at the common experiences among several different religions.

I grew up Jewish and married into a Christian family. In the Jewish religion, according to my Grandmother, there are enormous amount of rules in order to be a good person including how you cook and what utensils you use. I doubt very highly God cares if you follow any of them. We weren’t supposed to this or that and you had to have a Bat Mitzvah, go to Hebrew school, etc. etc. I didn’t do any of those. They just didn’t resonate.

Once I was married, I realized in the Christian religion there were even more rules to acceptance. And it didn’t matter what I did or believed anyway because I was already not going to be accepted because of the, well, Jewish thing. I already didn’t believe in many things my family of origin did, such as, when you die you just die and you live on in memories. After all, as a child, I had too many spirits visiting me at night. Who were they then? And the non-acceptance of Jesus as loving guidance or teacher was a tough one also when at 14 I had a profound vision of him standing in front of me when I needed love and support the most.

So, according to organized religion, I was in an in between state of non-acceptance. Not belonging to one or the other, according to the rules.

How does this all apply to the Facebook group?

I recognize the same rules and shaming underneath those rules among the “new age” group of thinkers. There’s a running belief you create your reality 100% so if you have horrible things happening in your life or negative people, it’s because you are thinking wrong and doing it badly. (I hate the SECRET). I liken this to what a little child believes that the whole world revolves around him and he can control it with his mind. Yes, we attract what we focus on and what we are learning. It is called Earth School after all. But the negative parent or friend being a jerk? Or the idiot who just cut you off in traffic?  That’s reality because there’s lots of people in the world we encounter in our lives. We don’t live in a bubble. The awful illness? What if you inherited or was born with a bad heart? Are you a bad thinker then? What if you are still in the learning state where you aren’t aware of what you are attracting or need to learn? Then you need compassion as you learn the tough lessons, and, as we progress and grow, sometimes the curriculum does get harder maybe because we crave more wisdom and more healing.

I guess the bottom line is there is perfectionism behind any religion with rules,  and perfectionism is about shaming ourselves for not being perfect or doing it right. That’s not possible or is it desirable. Besides, who decides what is right? A mean-spirited, judgmental God who punishes us with floods and famine when we are bad? Ooooh, that’s not my idea of God. When I visited Indian Gardens recently, I was in awe of the natural beauty. And you know what? It’s a forest that is beautiful in its wildness. There’s overgrown vines and fallen trees, things that shouldn’t be floating in the water, and paths that aren’t clear. That’s us. We are still beautiful even when we don’t follow the rules or are “different,”  or even, SHUDDER, make a mistake.  And we are still loved even with our wildness.

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Guidance happening quicker

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It’s been an interesting morning already. I have one puking dog — Sarah, apparently REALLY doesn’t like the new dog food we were trying for her — and a lively discussion over organized religion and its resultant shaming in some of our childhoods. I was knee-deep in this discussion and feeling rather upset when the Universe/God sent over two little old ladies to my door to give me a tract on the End times. I had to laugh. There’s no coincidences.

Yesterday, I was doubting a message I was getting that Sarah had metabolism issues being a much older dog. I turned on the computer and checked my email to find TAKE THE METABOLISM QUIZ. Instant validation.

Maybe this is what 2012 is all about. Faster and quicker messages. For those who are in touch with our intuition, we are seeing this. My thought is, that maybe we removed a great deal of crap in the way with our connection to Guidance/Support so there isn’t so much crap in the way to get to us. I like that idea; it implies we did a good job at our work on ourselves, instead of the usual how much more we have to do.

What have you noticed?

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New Year’s Resolutions I Won’t Keep

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Each year, like many of us, I make these lofty goals for my New Year’s resolutions. So in good humor, I give you resolutions I know ahead of time I will not keep.

  • Lose weight and stop eating sugar. (Okay, I know I will lose weight because I just signed up for a yoga class. But the sugar? Come on. Why would I do that? Cookies taste good. Not everything good is bad.)
  • Write six best-selling books. (This I might do being I am so hyperactive, but no pressure.)
  • Be loving to everyone I meet. (I give this one a blank stare. Some folks really get my hackles up.)
  • Walk two miles a day. (Even my dogs are giving me weird looks on this one.)
  • Only think positive thoughts. (Yes, in a perfect world where I am hopped up on sugar 24-7 and have become an Uber Human this is realistically possible. I do have hormones after all.)
  • This year I will deal with all my sh*t, leave it all behind and raise to the highest vibration ever because it’s 2012. (Anything is possible, but….this sounds more like a mind erase, lobotomy or serious repression.)
  • I won’t give a crap what other people think. (I actually want to work on this one.)

What’s yours?