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5 Days of White Pansy and Trust

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I  think  God’s  knowledge  is  in  the  flowers.

I’ve been instructed to use the White Pansy essence I’ve made for dealing with issues of trust. Since I arrogantly expect my clients to use the essences I recommend, I concluded I needed to listen to my own guidance and take the suggestion.

What’s the deal with trust? Why is it so hard to trust that things will work out and the Divine will take care of things when we are faced with tough circumstances that, logically, would make no sense for us to trust in the good?

Day one of taking White Pansy flower essence. I felt my bitter thoughts rise to the surface. I had reason not to trust. I had a long list created in the past few years. Spirit tells me that I often take on others’ faults that are not my own. This makes no sense to me or why this message is relevant to trusting.

Day two. I was journalling like a crazy-flowing pen nut. Insights rose alongside the nasty bitter thoughts. I wasn’t feeling Miss Spiritual at that moment. Not Miss Positive or the teacher I came here to be. It was ugly–I was releasing.

Day three. Things began to shift. I felt more hopeful about life. I was seeing the little ways my Guides helped me every day and I could trust that guidance. If I needed something, it came about.

That morning I unloaded my sadness on my one pal and recalled a time of high stress trauma last year when I lived off my birthday cake for months. I think it was the sugar high I was using to cope with. It started to get a little gross, and my friend shared with me, that at the time, she thought I was eating that cake probably beyond when it was still edible. We laughed about this and I told her I secretly was craving birthday cake at the moment and would love to have some.

Later I walked the girls around the neighborhood, and Danny, my neighbor, came over and told me it was his birthday and they were having a party. Would I like some birthday cake?

Perhaps this is a story of the shelf life of cake and when to throw it out, or  instant validation that I am being taken care of and can trust that, even when I feel that this world is ignoring me and what I need.

Day four. Things shift in my head. I am reminded of all the times outside world looked really bad but was asked by guidance and intuition to trust in the good. I am shown, again, how I am led and taken care of, but still I wonder, why then, was bad things allowed to happen in my life? Where people acting badly were allowed to stay ignorant? What about that? I am in a battle in my head and it’s scary. Which side will win?

Day five. Meltdown. The healing crisis. My loved-one is going through a recurring theme lesson which I relate to.  Finally, the floodgates open with a good cry. It’s a bigger lesson here for me. A huge insight comes through: that throughout my lifetime, when bad things happened or went wrong I was too quick as an empath to jump in and take the fault–think it was something wrong with me. What I saw in my life was often others allowing me to do so or “passing the buck” when they screwed up.

When I was born, I came in with a messed-up stomach. My parents couldn’t fix it and the doctors said I’d just outgrow it. Not a great deal was done for me as I was usually in continuous discomfort. I think in that moment I felt I couldn’t trust “out there.” They let me down. I was allowed to suffer.  That was too hard as a child to face, so I coped by taking it on–it was my fault in some way. I was defective. That’s what kids often believe and do. Making it your fault you can do something about it, or perhaps, create order where the outside order makes no sense or isn’t fair.

My parents and the doctors may have thrown it on me in frustration, and they did care about what I needed, but it was just their ignorance–not knowing other answers or solutions at that time.

I’ve been working through this one issue, henceforth the repeat lessons:

I think about the time Sarah had her inner ear problem and the vet said she had a major neurological issue which would need thousands of dollars of tests and would get much worse. She told me not to feel bad if I had to put her to sleep!  She threw Predisone at her which made her wired and sick. My friend, Cheryl, a naturopathic doctor brought new solutions. She gave Sarah homeopathy and bowen work and although Sarah tilts a little to the right, she does fabulous now. I trusted my intuition and my guidance, and communications from Sarah, that said she’d be fine even though the picture the vet game me differed. I looked for a different answer.

What is harder to heal and what made it hard for me to trust is the last few years when a system created to support families screwed up over and over and wanted to throw it on the family. Cries were not heard. Mistake after mistake. Cover up after cover up of their mistakes. Once again, we were allowed to suffer, and things went horribly wrong. That’s the system here. I will not this time take on the blame. The bottom line is, they are ignorant. They don’t know other answers, like the doctors and the vet, and sadly, they aren’t willing to find them.

So, I am being ignorant when I don’t see there are other answers outside the box and I simply accept “reality.” That’s what I do when I don’t trust Spirit or my guidance and I don’t even fathom there are other solutions that Spirit can create that I don’t know about yet.

I need to grieve those times I was let down and trusted as a small child and as an adult. I’ve being shown this is the block that is in the way of me believing again. The flower has done her job as I shift slowly into more a place of balance by having new answers and then new understanding.

I am still a “show me and prove it” kind of person. The flower can’t change that. I don’t blindly believe. I need to see and hear validation, so that is how Spirit will work with me…for now, until I automatically trust and always look for new answers.

I share this with you because many are going through a greater issue of trust as the world changes and purges all around us, and each of us has our own reasons or experiences that block why we trust in the good. I also wanted to demonstrate how the flower essences work with us to heal. This beautiful flower, a piece of Nature, assisted me in finding out where this issue came from in me. Boy, I really love flower essences! (Okay, my Guides helped too. 🙂 )

Find new answers, Dear one, that this world can’t give you.

Fairy blessings,


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White Pansy is available on my Flower Essences for the Sensitive page for purchase, if you feel guided for help in trusting at this time. I am also here to act as translator for your Guides’ assistance.

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Lightworkers, are we becoming too sensitive?

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I am noticing with my friends, clients and myself, that we are becoming more sensitive and more psychic in our abilities. Are we evolving?

Have you noticed that you can pick up more now what others are feeling or even thinking? I haven’t been able to watch tv shows lately that are dark at all. I rented a copy of Supernatural. It’s a tv series I used to watch and enjoy. I physically hurt through most of it; there was that much violence and cruelty. This wasn’t entertainment. Maybe I am not the too sensitive one. Maybe it’s the world who is getting so numb they can stand this level of darkness assaulting our eyes. I can’t do that anymore.

After having that happen, feeling so sensitive, I first thought, “Do I need to live in a box then, away from the world?” Many of my clients come to me wondering the same things.

And the answer I heard this morning was No. You don’t need to isolate. I think we’ve always been this sensitive, some of us. We came in wired this way. But then we accumulated a great deal of mud and fog to numb over our sensitivity. What we’ve been doing is clearing out the mud and being who we really are under all that crap. So, then, the darkness doesn’t feel right when you’ve just gotten rid of a ton of our own darkness. You no longer resonate. Why would you want a part of what you just got rid of?

Our light is coming back. We aren’t turning into light. We were light to start with! And then we got involved in earth school and layers of mud kept getting added until we didn’t recognize we were light at all. We thought we were dirt. And probably listening to voices growing up telling us we were flawed in some way for being sensitive, we really did believe we were dirt.

So, no. You aren’t too sensitive. You never were. We’ve had to adjust to being here. But now you have no choice as you work on your healing to be anyone but who you really are. One big shining light. Perhaps we are all just lightning bugs.

I think that is kinda cool.

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What kind of sensitive empath are you? fun quiz

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For fun, you know you are a sensitive and an empath. Take the quiz to find out which kind you are.

Circle in your head or write down the numbers which apply.

  1. You come down with a sudden, horrible stomach ache. Logical mind says it was a bad lunch or the flu going around, but then your dog enters the room and pukes on the carpet, and looks a little green around the edges. (physical or animal empath)
  2. While shopping at the nearby Walmart, you enter the frozen food section and want to burst out into tears. You feel overwhelming, deep sadness and loneliness. (emotional empath or allergy to poorly designed boxed foods)
  3. While relaxing on the couch you suddenly hear words come from your dog, “I want to go for a walk now.” (animal empath or the result of smoking too many mushrooms)
  4. Sitting in the backyard you feel a wave of joy come over you and a sense of peace, and you have an urge to smell the rose bush (nature empath, or the mushrooms are still doing their stuff from the day before)
  5. You feel down and angry when two minutes before you felt peaceful. Your closest friend then calls and says he is feeling down and angry. (emotional empath or you just shopped at a crowded Walmart)
  6. Two days before a major earthquake hits another country you have nightmares of earthquakes, anxiety or feelings of doom (mission empath or watching too many movies before bed)
  7. You know that one fern plant needs more water and to be placed in a sunnier window (nature empath or you’ve read a lot of books on houseplants)
  8. You receive strong messages or channelings that will help the world regarding self esteem (mission empath or still feel the effects of the mushrooms)
  9. You enter a hospital and feel fear, sadness, anxiety. You walk by one room and feel a pain in your side (physical empath or fear of hospitals)
Circled one or more nature empath: NATURE EMPATH you’re tuned into the Nature Spirits and Fairies. Welcome aboard fellow fairy.
Circled one or more emotional empath: EMOTIONAL EMPATH you’re tuned into the emotions of others. You just need tools and good boundaries.
Circled one or more physical empath: PHYSICAL EMPATH you’re tuned into the physical ailments of others. You will just need to discern how to get rid of the feelings and not take it on.
Circled one or more animal empath: ANIMAL EMPATH you’re tuned into animals and can help them greatly.
Circled one or more mission empath: MISSION EMPATH you’re tuned into the world and your gifts will be used to help the planet.
Circled mushrooms: whoa! Where did you get that stuff?
(You would benefit from my ebook, Help! I’m Sensitive. get your copy here.)
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Happy Easter Beagle and I’ve been interviewed

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I think I spotted an Easter Beagle around here hiding her eggs. Hmmmmm. Is that one?

I’ve been interviewed for Kara’s Conduit of Joy’s “Empath R Us” series. Check it out here: http://conduitofjoy.com/2011/04/23/empaths-r-us-ronni-ann-hall/

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Why Being Empathic Can Suck & Not Suck

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Here is my top 10 lists why being Empathic can suck and not suck.

The 10 Reasons Why Being Empathic Can Really Suck:

  1. You can feel deeply when loved-ones are in pain. Sometimes, you can confuse what they feel with what you feel.
  2. The world can overwhelm you. Bad things happen like the tsunami in Japan, and you feel deep pain, sadness, ennui, and helplessness.
  3. You can feel deeply intimate and close to others when it may be hard for them to return the favor.
  4. You can have lots of astral and mediumship visits, hear your animals, and there are tons of voices or feelings and information coming towards you.
  5. The planets moving around and the moon cycles affect you where others walk around mindless and untouched.
  6. You have access to deep information which others don’t have and therefore, you feel the need to jump in all the time.
  7. You feel deep responsibility.
  8. Your feelings are easily hurt and wonder why others can be so cruel with their words.
  9. You care about other people. A LOT.
  10. And number 10, folks can look at you a little crazy because you can see the Fairy light in the bush, you hear your animals’ thoughts and you know someone is upset even when they insist they are just fine.

Empath, before you go jump off the bridge, I offer the 10 things that don’t suck about being an empath.

  1. Because you feel deeply, you really experience life and all its pieces. You’re really living your life richly and thoroughly.
  2. Yes, the world can be overwhelming, but you have healing and psychic abilities that others may not have and can make a big difference in healing the world.
  3. Yes, you can feel closer to others, but you teach them how to really love and love themselves. What a gift that is and what a teacher you are. Plus, you can feel love from many places to fill up with.
  4. Being psychic, your world is not limited. It’s expansive and filled with mystery. You don’t have to accept that a loved one is gone or that there is a separation between you. You know and feel there isn’t.
  5. You are in-tuned with the earth and can better heal you and itself.
  6. That deep information helps you understand other people and have compassion for them so you don’t need to judge or fall for surface stories.
  7. That deep responsibility makes you a honorable and trustworthy person.
  8. Your feelings get hurt easily, but this allows you to teach others that have no sensitivity at all. You have what they miss and need.
  9. There’s nothing wrong with caring about other people. It’s why we are here–to help ourselves and each other along the road. How cool is that?
  10. If crazy is being open to all the magic in the world, why would you want to be closed off from that?

So, you see dear empath, you are gift to the earth and what looks like something wrong is something very right.

Fairy blessings,

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Want more tools? Sign up for the Care of the Sensitive class, or Empath Skills class, or buy Help! I’m Sensitive.

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Empath Report

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It’s rainy and it’s yucky and I smell wet dog. I’ve been hearing from many how the “super moon” has affected them. We’ve got quite a bit empathically going on with the obvious, which is what is happening in Japan we are picking up. Here’s some empathic symptoms I’ve noticed of late:

  • Feeling out and out cranky. Empaths, we are doing lots of work in our sleep at this time. The healers are bouncing out and heading over to Japan to help. That results in lots of unrestful sleep, which equals big time cranky in the morning. When I need a barometer of what is happening I look to Sarah, my super sensitive beagle mix. She’s been nocturnal at night. It’s all that energy.
  • Increased psychic ability. Visually, I’m seeing alot. That veil between worlds is pretty thin also. It’s like get a mini boost up. Opening up your heart and empathic abilities can do that.
  • Sadness. Again, natural what is happening with the events in the world. You might even feel hopeless and helpless. The media isn’t helping with any of this, and is in fact, making things worse. I just love the headlines of disaster. It’s like living with my departed grandmother all the time with all the negative thinking.

Tools or solutions for this week? Ordinarily, I’d say focus on the positive and bring in that great fairy energy. Instead, I am suggesting to go with your feelings. Just let it out. Don’t get lost in them. Know they are temporary and just feel what needs to be felt.

When the earth moves and shakes like it did, we move and shake alongside of it. We are feeling the energy of change which can be scary and ungrounding. The solution for these feelings? Create a safe, cozy place for yourself, Empath. You are the constant in your life among all the change.  Create some grounding tools and anchors to feel more steady (50 Tools for the Sensitive, tool #31 ). Nurture yourself in any way you can that’s healthy. It’s okay to cocoon right now. It’s not forever. You will emerge later.

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New book now available in paper

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New! HELP! I’M SENSITIVE ebook now available in paper and via snail mail too. For those who still need something tangible in their hands. Same great tools in another form.

Cute fun size

Buy the paper version: Paper coil-binded and printed version pocketbook (5.5″ x 4.25″) size, with shipping $23.99: Buy here.

 

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It’s here! The new e-book!

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The e-book is completed! Pulled from my favorite entries here at this blog, with tons of new material written and new lessons learned, here are 50 tools to help you tame your sensitivity and use it as the gift it is. Go here to snatch up your copy.

This is a great companion piece to the Care of the Sensitive class, where you will learn how Nature tools can support your sensitive system.

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I’m so excited…

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It’s too cold! Today has been a great day to snuggle up to my girls, make some warm foods, and read and learn. It’s the perfect time of year for that. And coincidently, (great segue in, don’t you think?) the e-book I’ve spent over a year compiling, living and writing, will be ready tomorrow and I can’t contain my excitement. I love how our tough experiences in the end can benefit others if we share what we have learned.

Help! I’m Sensitive! 50 Tools to help you thrive and survive is located in the bookstore here at this site. Official announcements for the book come out tomorrow, but I couldn’t contain myself.

I’ve learned valuable techniques to help with my sensitivity including techniques like Mouse Theory and Psychic Vampires, filling in holes, turtle shell, changing aura pictures, dealing with other people throwing their fears at you, taking care of the number one need for empaths, why panic attacks can happen in malls, and much more. I’ve included my favorite entries here from my blog and included a great deal of tools from my arsenal given to me by my helpful team of Guides in the past year.

You can order the book now here today and start empowering yourself right away and have warm reading material for those cold nights.

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Empath’s Energy Report

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From an empath’s perspective, the energies are pretty wonky this week. Everyone is in transition now or in big change and then the weather is mirroring us. I just found out that the college I’ve worked for is having a huge 78% cutback in funding! So, we are seeing the biggest change in the money sector. I can hear groans from the audience.

Energy-wise I can feel excitement like the first- day-of-school kind. I can definitely feel big changes happening all around. And I feel the Guides/Angels creating more protection for each of us. I feel them pulling in closer to offer guidance, contrary to some folks I’ve heard saying they are pulling away to have us be more independent. I don’t get that at all.

I’m not feeling the bursts of anger or nastiness I felt before in the public. It feels more like surrender, which isn’t always a bad thing. The true miracles happen when that happens.

So, when there is no stability and ground to count on, what do you do?

I asked my Guides for suggestions and was reminded about the butterflies. If we are caterpillars, it looks like the world is going to end soon, and we feel stuck in our cocoons and dark, and squooshed in too tight. We can’t see past it.  But we are simply in the process right before we become butterflies and the world as we see it changes its form.

Maybe the world is morphing to fit our new forms. It doesn’t look pretty.  If you look at the decline or the falling apart, you are looking at the caterpillar’s crumbling cocoon, not the future beauty of the butterfly.

I like that. We are just morphing into something amazing.