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If you need a good cry…

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I am one that will hold on tight to my emotions in order to stay in strength, but sometimes, I need some releasing of the dam to maintain balance or mine erupts. Because I’m not a crier easily, I need to jump-start the process. Perhaps, you are the same. Here are my top Crying Resources to allow me to have a good cry, release, and be back in balance. Drum roll please.

Top 5 Crying-starting Resources:

  1. Watch the finales of any competition reality show. I just watched Robert win Jim Henson’s Creature Shop Challenge (spoiler alert) and the tears flowed in happiness for the guy. It’s wonderful watching someone’s hard work pay off and dream come true. This is a good cathartic cry that is unchallenging and doesn’t push too many buttons. 
  2. Watch more television. Last night I watched a marathon of Pretty Little Liars and witnessed the usually perfectly-attired and made-up actresses fall apart by wearing mis-matched clothing and minimal makeup while their sanity and lives fell apart. I cried along with them in unison but this cry brought up pass pain to release, and should be monitored to avoid going down roads that are unhelpful and unnecessary to the therapeutic process.
  3. I read an article today in the Facebook Feed about a local puppy that is in the hospital after being thrown from a car window. This was an ugly, torturous cry. I felt so deeply for this baby and anger for those who hurt it, and a deep sadness for the state of humanity. This is a tough cry that should only be tackled on courageous days you can handle it, otherwise, to be avoided. 
  4. Sappy feel-good movies such as Field of Dreams are perfect for feeling better about life in general and experiencing a really healthy cry. Best antidote after reading Facebook feed puppy stories. Look for movies that you know will end happy. We don’t want surprise twist endings here. AVOID movies like the current one in the theaters where everyone is dying. The Titantic is about a sinking ship. You know that one won’t fare well. Use your common sense here.
  5. There are good spontaneous cries when someone gives you a hug when you need it, or says something so perfect that you feel seen and validated. These cries can’t be arranged, but fall under really good release cries. Increase these any time you can.

Well, there’s my recommendations. What’s yours? Or, are you the type of crier who needs no help?

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I want to hear from you!

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I am diligently working on book 2 in the Help! I’m Sensitive series. I’ve been pretty much involved in its writing most the year as I collect stories and experiences in my mountain of journals. And here’s the thing, I’d love to hear from you. What problem as a sensitive, do you want to see me cover? Dealing with issues of focus, or maybe, panic attacks? Dealing with insensitive people is your biggest hassle? Use the CONTACT FORM below and speak up. What do you need tools to deal with?

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Thank you my dear readers! I appreciate your feedback. Fairy blessings,

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When I stopped making things

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I stopped making little films.

It hit me the other day when I felt the urge to make a little film for my social media client. The hunger to make one made itself known with familiar pangs and growls. It had been over a year since I gathered images and wrote a story and this confused me. Why did I stop?

Why do we stop doing what we love? “We lose permission” is the thought that came into my head when I asked this. When I was going to Grad School, I had permission and a structure which included definite expectations and assignments for the reward of a certificate. Most of these assignments involved making little videos to teach our message. I dove into the task with such lust that I knew this was my passion. I experimented with light animation, silly web shows, and personal stories in color pencil. I was always a storyteller, but now I had a vehicle that really matched me.

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When school ended, I was left without permission. I needed to dive back into the work world and make money, and the films now seemed impractical. They needed to make a lot of money right away for them to be “worthwhile” and I didn’t know how. So I shut down that part of me.

A few months ago, I told a new friend what I did for a living. I hesitantly included creating little movies. “Oh, that’s a hobby then?” she said. I cringed down into the deep hollow of my stomach. “No,” I replied. “That’s my passion.” The words bursted out on their own before I could stuff them back in.

We stop painting, woodworking, writing songs. We stop crafting, jewelry-making, ceramics painting, doodling and drawing for fun. We become the “grown-ups” who are responsible, accountable, and serious, and if we have a teeny bit of time leftover, we let ourselves indulge. Many folks wait until they retire to have permission. All this withholding creates bitter, depressed, dried up people that take away the joy from the world.

Part of the creative process, whether by career or choice, is the PLAY stage. When scientists discover cures, they are first experimenting, which is their idea of playing. We experiment with tools, play, try out materials and techniques, and what comes out of that process can be very fruitful and helpful to others. When I made my FAIRY GUIDE I was playing in the garden. I wanted to learn about nature and healing. And what came out of those notes was a school that is over eight years old and international, and hopefully, helping many. Engaging in your creative passion is necessary. Nurturing your loves and where your creative impulses are taking you is following your intuition/gut, which is leading you to your greatest success (financially and/or emotionally) and where you need to be. It’s responsible. 

I’m self-nurturing now by diving back into movie making. It feeds me like nothing else does. I feel filled up, joyful and 100% me. And it could lead to huge financial success in ways I haven’t even discovered yet,  and/or it could just make me happy, and I deserve to be happy.

I give you permission to play, experiment, and dive down into your creative passion.

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You might enjoy my upcoming Fairy Healing the Feminine (which talks about self nurturing) or Telling Your Story creative class which both start June 27th.

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Prayers for the Forest

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Prayers for one of my favorite places, Oak Creek Canyon in Sedona which is being attacked by fires right now.

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To the forest…

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When I need to think clearly and feel my own energy, I head to the forest. Follow the opening in the tree.

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The periwinkle is in bloom. Big time fairy flower over here.

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 Time to hang out for awhile and just enjoy. (check out all the dog hair on my pants)

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Just take in the smells, sounds, and sights. Ahhhhhh. What all part fairies need.

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I am at heart an introvert…

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I am at heart an introvert…

…that means I might need a day or two to hole up in my cave just to feel my own space or to process my day. It’s especially true when I am processing strong emotions or feelings.

…that means I enjoy my own company.

…that means I overload easily from too much people interaction, noise and activity.

…that means you can give me a pad of paper and some pens and markers and I’m happy for most the day.

…that means I am not trying to be mean when I go back into my cave and need cave time. It’s how I recharge.

…that means I don’t always like talking on the phone and long conversations can be draining.

…that means my physical space is very important to me and I don’t like to be intruded upon. Caves are sacred.

…that means I would hate a whole day filled with non-stop people. I’d feel like I was being swallowed up hole.

…that means I am just a little different then some people and need to be understood.

…that means I do relate the best with other introverts.

Yes, at heart, I am an introvert.

 

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Sensitive INFJ?

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I’ve been fascinated by the Myers Briggs system of classifying different personality types ever since I found out my type. I had finally found a fun free (most cost money) quiz to validate my type and had posted it to my FB personal page. Not surprisingly, many of my friends were a variation or close to my type! Which got me thinking…are many sensitive, empathic folks INFJs? (Or a very close variation?)

My research scientist mind went into overload.

I had posted that I wondered if Capricorns are all INFJs. But my friend and astrologer Jennifer Shelton had posted replied that most Cappys are Ts not Fs. I’m guessing because many of us are very logical/analytical and in our heads. She explained that there must be some other planet in my chart that made me an F. (Yup, Cancer rising, which according to Jennifer, are Fs.)

I decided to instead focus on learning about my code, rather then try to figure out this sensitive vs. INFJ puzzle.

I was delighted to find on the net several blogs and sites you might be interested in if you are an INFJ, like myself.

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– Jennifer Soldner gives a thorough analysis on being an INFJ that is very helpful, and accepting. Check it out here. She tells us to embrace who we are by reading more about the type.

– I’ve discovered we are only 1% of the population! No wonder we can feel like aliens from another planet. 😉 Here’s a Portrait of an INFJ. Reading these sites, I’m learning more about myself that I had even known. I totally agree about INFJs being highly intuitive and “just knowing” things we can’t explain.

– According to Oddly Developed Types website, INFJs tend to be idealistic (yup), and be the “artsy types.”

Reading these websites, I’m finding these descriptions pretty accurate and do seem to describe many of my students and readers of my blog. Perhaps reading the INFJ descriptions on these pages would help others who are not like-minded to really understand us better.

And finally, a little scoping through the personality types, I found there’s Careers for INFJ Personality Types, which not surprisingly, include teaching/education and the creative arts, which many of us are drawn to. (Which also matches that we are the “artsy types.”) It does makes sense then, that if we are the highly intuitive ones who are drawn to the arts, then many of us are sensitive, being that many artists and intuitives are wired highly sensitive.

So, what about you? Does this hold true? Are you a sensitive and an INFJ or variation?

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True Facts about Introvert Funny video

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Are empaths affected by the moon?

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Today’s word is FUSSY. My clothes feel constricting, lights are too bright, and things can’t be fast enough today.

As empaths and sensitives, we know we are very affected by the energies surrounding us. We know when the air is too cold, or someone’s mood has just hit fiery before he realizes it, or when the overall mood theme for the day on Facebook is FRANTIC. Like little caterpillars we feel out the environment with our exposed feelers.

So if we have a full moon happening, and especially a lunar eclipse, do we feel the effects of that energy?

Years and years ago, there was a lunar eclipse followed by a solar eclipse, and my body went haywire. I was releasing a ton and have all kinds of weird symptoms, but was it the planetary action or what I was experiencing in my life at the time?

As women, our bodies are tuned into the moon through our cycles. And many who are not longer experiencing cycles still feel the effect of the moon. If the moon is more feminine then both male and female can relate when it is speaking, right?

I looked to the experts for my answers. The astrologers talk of this upcoming lunar eclipse and the many changes that will affect us.

Magical Recipes Online talks about the Druid Willow Moon.  That name in itself sounds so imaginative and magical!

My friend Julia talks about the astrological overall themes we are feeling right now during this moon phase.

Several metaphysical astrology sites talk of huge emotional impacts this lunar eclipse will have. Hmmmmmm.

  • According to NBC news, full moons can give us restless sleep. Link is over here.
  • And over at this Australian news site, full moons and eclipses can cause mood swings. Feel like howling at the moon?
  • Wikipedia coins the phrase “lunar effect” and says there is even a “lunar lunacy.” Nice! Now we have an excuse to go a little crazy.

As sensitives and empaths, we can swing past the research and go right to how we feel in this moment. I know when there is a full moon I do have a hard time sleeping, partly because the moon is shining so brightly into my window, and being so sensitive, I can feel it. I like a dark room when I sleep.

Perhaps we are picking up all the beliefs about the moon, and that collective unconscious is affecting what we think, influencing our thoughts. Regardless, I am fussy. I am restless. And I have this overwhelming urge to dance under the moonlight, ditch these restrictive clothes, and howl. Please don’t tell my neighbors. Now I have an excuse for my craziness. I have Lunar Lunacy. 😉

Check out my Help! I’m Sensitive book series here on the site.