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Repost: Steps on How Not to Manifest

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I’ve been going over past posts I’ve created to rally up some articles for a few places and came across one of my favorite blog posts.  I had to laugh at myself when I re-read this as I was doing all of the following without much thought. So, dear readers, here is the way NOT to manifest things you want into your life. Drum roll, please…

Steps on How Not to Manifest

  1. Obsess over what you don’t have. This is very important for not manifesting what you want.
  2. Freak out completely over what is missing.
  3. Begin to deteriorate emotionally and question if your Guides give a flying monkey or not if you eat, or have gas money, or what you need. Don’t trust at all. And absolutely, don’t, under any circumstances, remind yourself of times when your Guides and the Universe came through for you. This may be the time they don’t.
  4. Feel resentment because what you need isn’t coming from the sources you think it should. Resent everyone. It’s probably their fault.
  5. Don’t allow yourself to play, relax, or enjoy anything, because after all, you need to only focus on creating what you need. This is the responsible way to do things.
  6. Be extra hard on yourself for not manifesting what you need. Tell yourself you are flawed in some way or that no one cares about you.
  7. Force yourself to do things you hate, or that you should do, to get what you want.
  8. Obsess some more. Obsessing is always a good thing to show the Universe how much you really care.
  9. And finally, and this is very important, take all of this very, very seriously.
    – I’ve learned all of this from experience, I hate to admit.
empaths · spiritual lessons

Broken Leg Theory

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Broken Leg Theory

I have a really cool set of spiritual Guides/Angels. They put up with a lot when they signed up for being my Guides. In the past year, I have been irritable and nasty and have screamed at them many times, but their guidance has continued to help me through most of the challenges.
I wanted to know why I had to live through such a traumatic year, as have many of my friends and loved ones. I know all about the theories of life lessons speeding up as we get closer to 2012, so we have a great deal of “stuff” to tackle and get rid of. My Guides, always simple and to the point, but profound, explained to me the Broken Leg theory. If you broke your leg ten years back, and it never really set in place correctly, when it rains you hurt tremendously. You still can’t walk in a straight line without wobbling a little to the left. That’s because it never healed. You may have barreled through the healing process and didn’t attend to your needs or your feelings.
Right now, in our lives, we are being asked to heal all the proverbial broken legs that never set right–the issues we ignored and stuffed down, the childhood stuff that affected us throughout adulthood, and the patterns we never addressed. It isn’t pretty. It’s all up. It’s our last chance to really heal.
 

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Anniversaries

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What most people don’t realize is that after major loss, when you think most of it is over and done, the anniversary dates will rehash it all over again. Sometimes it will sneak up on you.

Every year I have a very hard time in early May. Even though my Mother has since been gone for fifteen years, and even though she has made frequent astral visits, I still feel grief overcome me like a wave around the 5th and 6th of the month from not having a Mom HERE.

I have a trauma anniversary date coming up when my life exploded. These kinds of anniversaries bring up all kinds of nonsense to clear out, and frequent, “Oh, man, I thought I dealt with that.”

If you have lost a loved one, whether a human or furry one, the anniversary date will bring up that loss even if you are too busy that day to notice. Is there something unfinished besides the usual grief? Is there still work to do?

In my own life, I am finding, that I needed new resources–the support I didn’t have when I was going through everything (this excludes my dear, wonderful friends who were amazing).  I didn’t know there were actual groups and support people who had dealt with parenting highly-destructive and cruel RAD kids. There was after-support? Validation of what I had lived through might help clean up the leftover grief.

Maybe you went through a long illness with your animal and have that leftover grief.  Had to take care of an aging parent? Lost a home through foreclosure? Is there a group of folks that have gone through the same thing that you can talk with? Only someone who had lived through it could really truly understand what you went through. You need a witness.

I am amazed when I look around at the friends and family around me at what life has thrown at everyone. It’s been very hard time for all. But maybe we are all healing major, major stuff, and this is the one way to do it. I have no idea why we all agreed to contract to do this. I still think we were all high and loopy in heaven before we came in!

And remember support is just that. It supports you and helps you stand. Any support that causes you to feel worse or be thrown backwards, is not true support.

new thinking · psychic tips · spiritual lessons

Is there a Satan?

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I’ve been watching a fun tv series called Reaper. The premise of the show is a young man’s parents sell his soul to the devil. On his 21st birthday the devil shows up with an assignment: his new job is to retrieve bad souls on earth and send them back to hell.

It’s been a cleverly written show with some witty moments, and the theme of good vs. evil covers every episode. The message? In every moment we can decide if we go the higher or the lower road.

I didn’t realize that watching that show would be a percursor to something in my own life. Lately I’m seriously questioning what happens when the Bad is allowed to get away with it and still go on to hurt other people? Where’s God in that situation? Is there a Devil or a Satan as my estranged father-in-law believes? Or is there just sick and unhealthy people who don’t know any better? They are just so disconnected from the light.

My friend Caroline believes that today the good are growing lighter/stronger, and the bad are growing darker and darker. The two sides of the coin need to be there for balance.

Is that why the bad is allowed to continue to be so destructive?  Or does it karmically even out in the end like the other movie I watched, The Lovely Bones? What do you believe?

empaths · healing

Controlled Empathy and tv

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I’m down with a nasty bug so I have lots of time to reflect, which isn’t always a good thing. Sometimes when I am in a bad state I tend to grab for what isn’t good for me, like junk food or bad movies.

Long ago, when my family was in one piece, we’d watch the show Angel together. Not so much feeling nostalgic last night, but without my Netflix selection, I grabbed for the dvd’s I had.

I was surprised by my first thought. How the hell did I watch this show? Hell, being the accurate word. There was enormous amount of violence, darkness, weird stuff. All of which I am sure is good television watching, but I felt it.  I mean, really felt it. My sensitivity has so increased, or maybe I was so numb in my life to the negative at the time that this was nothing. After one episode I felt intense fear in life where there should be none. As an empath, I was negatively influenced.

On hindsight, I think I grabbed for that show to purge some of that fear and leftover bad stuff, and that is a way to use a more controlled and thought-out empathy. The whole episode was about things you trusted looking one way but were completely different inside. (Cordy was the evil Master but no one knew, and Angel was the evil Angeles).  Later that night I did have one “hell” of a nightmare that cleared all that out.

It’s having that awareness–how is the show you are watching affecting your sensitivity? When you are attracted to a show what are you purging, dealing with, that needs to come out? The key is what are you resonating with or turned off by? What really hits you?

I think today I will reach out to my feel-good Racing Stripes movie or The Rookie to counteract last night’s purge, and I will be much more aware of what I am drawn to in my selections. There’s guidance there.

A little aside to this post: turns out the dream I had after watching the show was a premonition of information. It was a warning about disturbing news  I received the next day.

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15 Things that drive me crazy

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Everyone has them. The things that drive you crazy. It’s the little things that in themselves, are not that big a deal but combined can make a bad day.

Here’s my Top 15 Pet Peeves:

  1. Things. Sometimes I love things and other times I fight with things. Those are times when I am getting out of the car and my bags fall on the ground. Or, when you are in a hurry and can’t get things thrown fast enough into your purse. Or, trying to get dressed fast.
  2. Getting dressed fast after taking off a wet bathing suit.
  3. When Facebook is running too slow. I tend to yell at the screen.
  4. When I say what I do and someone says, I know an animal communicator in Sedona. Do you know her? First of all, there are lots of psychic teachers and psychics, especially in Sedona. That’s like saying you have an aunt in Texas and do I know her? Second of all, each intuitive and teacher is very different in what they offer, just like each doctor or dentist.  For some reason, that pushes some buttons.
  5. Headcolds. What is the point?
  6. The Guidance Clinic in Prescott Valley and Cottonwood. Avoid, avoid, avoid. These folks need to be sued about three hundred times. They are not helping the children. They are hurting families. That felt good to say.
  7. The word “aguably.”
  8. Credit scores. What a bunch of bull crap. Today most folks have lost their homes or their cars. It just feels like “shame” score.
  9. Trying to find my glasses in the dark. I need glasses to find my glasses.
  10. When the computer doesn’t type as fast as I do. That really drives me crazy. My mind goes so fast, I’d like my computer to be at least as fast.
  11. Not being respected for my abilities just because you don’t believe in psychics. I sure am not going to prove to you what I can do. Psychic ability for me is right up there with breathing, sleeping, and eating. It’s that natural. It isn’t some “super-natural” ability.
  12. Rigid religions that think their way IS the way. There are many roads to truth. Don’t tell me how to believe or what to believe. And especially don’t tell me what to believe so you will accept me.
  13. Being lied to.
  14. Incontinent beagles.
  15. PMS. Again, what is the purpose?
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Astral meeting places – animal mediumship

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A Regular Meeting Place

    On the Other Side, we all have an astral* home for our spirits/souls to hang out in. Isn’t that the coolest idea? My grandmother, who passed a few years ago, lived most of her life in a garden apartment. I was not surprised when I visited her in a dream and she lived in a…you guessed it, a garden apartment. I found myself regularly visiting her in meditations and in the dream state.

    You can create a regular meeting place for your own animals or to visit friends’ animals in your meditation state, or you can imagine and visualize one before you go to sleep. When we sleep, we are crossing dimensions and joining our dream bodies and souls.

– Here’s a little excerpt from the Animal Mediumship online class. Want to learn how to talk to animals that have crossed over? To sign up go here.

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Un-empowered sayings

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I’ve been creating this line of cards with empowering sayings lately. I then came across a blog with very un-empowering words and I thought, how much of us have been pelted with these kinds of comments in our lives? You know what I am talking about…words that bring you to the knees into shame.

So, here’s my Sayings for Greeting cards We Never Want to Read. Ever.

  • Your best is not good enough.  (ouch!)
  • You just didn’t try hard enough! (ouch!)
  • Don’t cry. Just soldier on.  (ouch!)
  • I never really loved you. (really below the belt!)
  • Why can’t you be more like your brother? (or sister?) (hello?)
  • This is probably the most you will ever be. (that was low!)*

Okay, now that you feel like total poo, don’t EVER believe any of that.

Here’s something to raise your spirits where they belong.

It’s a beagle riding a bird. Can’t be cuter than that. Smiling, eh?

(* Have any more beauties to share you’ve been pelted with? Unleash their power here in the comments).