Year: 2010

empath · empaths · sensitivity · spiritual lessons

Make your year-end manifesto

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I just had a birthday. I was guided to make a personal birthday manifesto. This long list would be culled from clues from my many journals that I keep track of my life in.

my current journal

It is here where I decide what to get rid of in my life and what I shall keep in the coming year. And sensitives and empaths, you may very well relate to my list. Consider writing one of your own to end out your year.

Include in your manifesto:

  • List the areas where you continually are either a/triggered b/upset c/angry or d/just plain unhappy or bitch about, and translate those into boundaries of what you won’t allow into your life. Create some powerful walls to protect yourself.
  • List the areas that made you happy, smile, and feel good about yourself and life. These are the must-have’s; the fuel for your tank. These are the things that no matter how busy life becomes you will include these or you will see a lack of balance and an unhappy you. It’s a way to stay on path and on track.
  • List regrets. Life is just a series of learning. Our regrets over the last years  are what we would have done differently if we had a time machine. Listing these in no way is a vehicle to “should” on yourself. It’s rather a great way to show how you have grown or learned in the past year.
  • Goals. These are tricky. Many times, in the beginning of the year, we make a ton of wants and goals and then feel like crap by the end of the year when we didn’t lose those 10 pounds or publish our novel. I’d suggest this part be what you’d love to do or experience. Make it doable and possible.

Here’s examples from my Manifesto. I have to have to be happy and what I won’t give up:

  1. my own pace and rhythms
  2. quality time with those I love
  3. teaching my online classes. Totally dig my students.

What I will give up:

  1. other people’s shame or should’s coming at me
  2. giving to those that don’t appreciate it
  3. ignoring my own needs

Regrets for the past years:

  1. I don’t regret adopting per say, but if I had a time machine, I would have been better educated, demanded all the records in the beginning, and asked much more questions. I would have demanded better support.  We were very naive and set up for failure. I would have also made sure my own needs were always met, and in no way, will I ever allow someone, even a child, to abuse me or put me into an abusive environment.
  2. I’d have finished graduate school.
  3. I wouldn’t have eaten that much sugar. Well, this could also be included in my won’t give up list, so it’s a toss up right now as I eat Xmas cookies while I write this.

Writing a year-end manifesto can make some powerful changes as you shape what you want your world to be like. It also can help you stay more in-tuned to what you want, which for most empaths, is hard to do. We are wired to be in-tuned to those around us and our environment first.

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Animal Communication · Animals · Guardian Angels

Featured Testimony this week

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Beautiful Katie

I don’t usually toot my own horn, although I do need to learn to do more of it. Sigh. But this testimony I received today really felt good, and I am so happy that my guidance, and trusting that guidance had saved Katie, so I thought I’d spread the good yummy feelings.

The following really emphasizes how important animal communication is for giving our animals a voice so they can say what they need and feel. I strongly believe that every veterinarian needs to be working with an animal communicator or two to be truly effective. Thank you to Jocelyne and Katie for allowing me to be of service. I was so honored to help.

“On July 12, 2010 – I said good bye to Chelsea, my 18 yr old Siamese. Our time together was an extraordinary experience, filled with unconditional love. Her litter mate and sister, Katie – was heart broken. She would prowl the moonlit nights, howling and looking for Chelsea, and during the day, she would hide, refuse food and really look so so sad. Katie and I had always been very close, and her favorite thing was to nudge Chelsea away, climb into my arms and purr for hours. Now she refused to be picked up – she would turn away from me and the ‘loving purrs’ she would share with me were silent.

I had always promised both of them that they would never suffer for my own selfishness.

And so, when Katie was on day 4 of no food, still in the darkest corner of the closet and the vet still unable to stimulate her appetite, the decision was made to let her go to her sister. When a good friend found out what was about to happen, she insisted I reach out to someone who could help me through my decision and my immense sadness. I was given Ronni’s number and on a sunny Sunday afternoon, less than 24 hours away from the scheduled home euthanasia, Ronni and I connected…. and within minutes, all I heard was: “I do not want to die!!” I could not believe my ears!!! Ronni basically explained that Katie was not ready to go and that she had really bad tummy aches – she wanted to eat but was nauseated – and all I could do was look at Katie and cry with relief!

I reached out to another vet the next morning, one who practices homeopathy as well as regular vet medicine. She actually prescribed an antacid with some homeopathy; she did say I would need to feed her with a syringe to try to stimulate her taste buds and give her lots of love – which I did! This happened in August and here we are in December, and Katie is doing just great! We share lots of cuddles, her appetite is back to normal and she is always up and at the door when I come home. And the best part?? The ‘purrs’ are back with a vengeance!!

Ronni – THANK YOU!!! Had it not been for our phone call, I would have said goodbye to Katie thinking she was too ill to survive. Thank you for giving me more time with Katie because as I am sure you could appreciate, I could not face losing Katie so soon after losing Chelsea. I cannot express in words how utterly grateful I am  – you are a true angel and I hope one day to talk to Chelsea through your insightful compassion and love. “- Jocelyne Monette
Greater Victoria Pet Memorial Center, Victoria BC.

(Be sure to check out my Readings page for info on an animal communication reading with your own dog or cat.)

classes · whimsical illustration

10 Things to help you survive the holiday season

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  1. A reminder to have dessert first: buy this comfort card as a gentle reminder.
  2. While you are buying gifts for everyone else, treat yourself to the Care of the Sensitive class, or another class to nurture your natural psychic and healing abilities.
  3. Schedule a reading for you and your dog/cat to help you both get through the holidays.
  4. Buy an original painting to make you smile. Visit my art site and escape for awhile.
  5. Sign up for the Fairy Joy email class. You can’t feel down when you are surrounded by Fairies. The perfect antidote to winter blues.
  6. Collect and laugh at your spam. Make a spam poem.
  7. Make a passion list to remind yourself of what you love. (see below)
  8. Celebrate all your accomplishments and small successes. Look at all that you are grateful for and what you have survived.
  9. Surround yourself with color. Did I mention my Color Healing class for Creative People starting in January?
  10. Realize this too will pass: buy the reminder here.
spiritual lessons

A message to fellow healers and teachers

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  1. There is no one way to do anything. There are many ways to climb a mountain. You don’t have THE way.
  2. Get rid of the “shoulds” or “if you are more evolved, you would do it this way”. This really gets me going. Spirituality is not just another area for us to have too many rules and a way to berate ourselves. See #1 and do it your way however that looks and feels. And if it doesn’t work or feel right, try something different. It ain’t rocket science. We are here to learn.
  3. I love the idea behind “the secret” but I’ve seen too many folks abuse themselves for not “doing it right”. There are many factors involved in everything. There are also other people involved in our lives and of course, spiritual or divine timing we often curse. This is just another area we “should” on ourselves.
  4. Please respect other teachers and healers and how they do things. It may be different than you and that’s fine. We need different techniques and approaches.
  5. Don’t take your gifts too seriously. My friends keep me humble. They are all “special” and highly intuitive. With them, I am just another fellow human, as it should be. I am gifted by God with my abilities like someone else is gifted by being able to play the piano well, or another to draw, or even another to be brilliant at figuring out the computer world. With that in mind, we are all psychic. And it’s just that some of us are wired with a little stronger connection than others, or have worked at it.
  6. It’s spiritual to want to win the lottery. Again, don’t take it so seriously. Always use your gifts for good, yes. But, if it is part of my plan to win the lottery by receiving winning numbers to help many others or my own family, then it’s not un-spiritual.
  7. Take care of you. I’ve had to get my butt kicked many times over when I forget to do this. We can’t help anyone when we don’t help ourselves. It’s okay to include you in your healing.
  8. And finally, please don’t make up a new technique that ends in “method.” It’s just plain silly and it screams “marketing technique.”

If you catch me doing any of these, please give me a nice pat on the hand as a reminder.

Earth energies · empaths

Empathic Energy report for Sensitives

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This week’s energy report for Sensitives…it’s been a bit crazy energy. I understand there’s another Mercury Retrograde. Seems there is always one of these going on. Communication is a little kooky and lots of forgetfulness–you know the kind, you walk into the room and forget why you are there.

If you want to know what kind of energy is happening there, look to your animals. They are living barometers.

Floating around empathic-wise is lots of mixed feelings this holiday season. There’s grief for those who are missing, anxiety about money issues, and the usual crazy rushing around permeating the malls with an increase in folks shopping. This means more to pick up and feeling frantic and crazy when you hit the stores. It ain’t you.

Pressure is the word for this week. Try to realize it’s what is floating around and try to distant yourself from that.

Psychically, the veil is pretty thin, so, lots of Guides or Ghosts may be visiting. Friends report waking up in the middle of the night, freaky dreams, and deep messages from Guides who are way into our business right now. Just float with it if you can and welcome the good guidance.

Until next time…

spiritual lessons · writing

Lose the Mother Teresa syndrome

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As healers of the world, we want to take care of everything and everyone and make it better. But sometimes, we neglect to take care of ourselves. We think that makes us good people and good healers. We are so selfless. Look at Mother Teresa! She gave up all conveniences and even nice fashion just to dedicate herself to help others. There’s too much giving out and not enough receiving. I’m noticing this syndrome lately in myself, my loved ones, and even in other healers.

The first symptom you are deep in the syndrome? Resentment. You’ll hear that inner little voice saying, “Hey, what about me?” It’s not selfish to consider yourself in the equation. In fact, the word “selfish” needs to leave the dictionary for healer types. There needs to be balance and we are too on the other end of the spectrum! I am learning that the Universe isn’t withholding all that I need, I’m just replaying my childhood learned syndrome.

Other symptoms of this dreaded disease:

  1. Giving away what you love. One habit from childhood that rears its head: I’ll buy a book or something I like and think I need to give it away to someone else. Afterall, Mother Teresa would have been this selfless. But what message did I get behind this belief? Hmmm, I don’t deserve but someone else does? I remember being down to having $10 in my pocket and spending it all on my former daughter for clothes. That’s what a good mother does. But she didn’t appreciate the sacrifice and in fact, complained the clothes I bought weren’t good enough. Your environment will reinforce the faulty message that you aren’t important.
  2. Or, I will buy myself some kind of cool book or toy and don’t have enough time to get to it. Hmmm. Not worth the time?
  3. Stop yourself if you ever hear yourself say, “No, I’m okay. I don’t need that,” when others offer to give to you. It’s not graciousness, it’s denying.
  4. Ask for help. Ask for support. Ask for what you need. Maybe behind not asking is in the past or in childhood you asked for what you needed and you weren’t heard, or worse, you weren’t priority. Do it differently this time around. And if others don’t hear your pleas now? Surround yourself with new players who do! The players were faulty.
  5. You will notice your needs are not being met. You are down to your last dollar, or you feel alone and emotionally unsupported, or you’re forgotten in some way.
  6. I always know I’m deep in the syndrome when I hear myself cry out, “Is this enough yet? Did I do enough?” What’s your inner cry that points your knee deep in it?

So, how do you get heal the syndrome?

Be “selfish” for a little while. Take really good care of yourself. Draw a bath. Read your favorite book. Reward yourself now. Be there for yourself like you would a friend. Believe in yourself and your talents & see yourself, even though others might not have.

And get angry! Your needs do need to be met! It’s not entitlement or because you are more special than anyone else. It’s that you are just as special as everyone else and deserve the same good things in life. What you were taught early on was the Mother Teresa syndrome.

There’s only one Mother Teresa and it works for her, not for anyone else.

To read more posts visit my new website’s Sensitive Artist blog here. and do check out my Help! I’m Sensitive book series there.

Flower essences for sensitive · psychic tips · ronni's tips

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Welcome Pikaland & Facebook Visitors

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Many artists are very sensitive. I know. I’ve been an artist since I could pick up a crayon, and could always feel things very deeply, and sense things others could not.

I’d been a professional animal communicator for many years before exploring my other psychic “talents.” Through the years I’ve combined my artistic/designing talent with my psychic teaching–my two favorite worlds.

Take a look around. Take the Are You A Sensitive? quiz. Read the Letter to the Sensitives. Then it’s time to have fun. Sign up for a creative yet informative illustrative class to develop that gift you have, whether in healing with Nature, talking to animals, or being a closet medium. You can sign up for my very popular Care of the Sensitive class to befriend your sensitivity while reaquainting yourself to the nature world, or book a reading to get guidance from your Guides about your artistic path. But be sure to stop by the holiday store. There’s some really cool illustrations and designs you will truly dig in my holiday empowerment packages including my Doglover package, and art journal pages. Or, you might even enjoy my zine which includes illustration combined with exploring the psychic/spirit world.

Thanks for stopping by!

 

Animal Communication · Animals · healing

When Your Animal is Sick and you can’t hear

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My teagle beagle Sarah, is basically an old dog with still a lot of moxy and a bit of cranky thrown in. We had a cold spell and being blind, she also had a few blind mishaps falling off things. Her back seemed clearly out of whack and she’s still trying to right herself after having a repeat bout with Vesticular Disease (old dog inner ear thing). Anyway, she was very restless and hurting. I checked in with my Guides, and I kept hearing it was minor and she’d be fine, that she just had some old dog chronic stuff like arthritis, etc. Not trusting my guidance and still in fear, I took her to the vet who didn’t really hear me and scared the *%$#@ out of me. (This seems to be a recurring theme with vets and me. Perhaps so I can teach this lesson.)

Anyway, today after a few nights of big time drugs for her, (would be nice if I shared them), I have learned several things that may help you with your own animal communication when your animal is sick.

  1. Don’t try to talk to your animal when you are freaked out. My freaking out actually freaked out Sarah more. Then we were both two big emotional wrecks. This doesn’t mean “should” yourself by saying you should be calm as can be for the sake of your animal. Please! Repression doesn’t work! We don’t need to recreate our childhoods for the sake of our animals. Just know you will have a hard time hearing at that time. Do what you need to do in an emergency, but wait until you are calm to check in with animal communication. Maybe even take a break and walk into the other room to not upset each other.
  2. Don’t talk to a vet who doesn’t know crap about animal communication, or is too burn-out to even see your dog as an individual. This is counter-productive. (I am sorry to say there are many who fall into this category.)
  3. Find a new vet if she jumps way ahead in the future and talks about if the illness progresses and your options to end life, or if she quickly tries to sell the current new dog food fad. Seriously, this happened.
  4. Explore all your natural options like flower essences, homeopathy, herbs, hands-on work. Some vets are limited in their knowledge. There are many ways to heal.
  5. Trust, trust, your intuition. You know your animal best and when you are more calm and centered you will hear and know what is happening and can then receive incredible insights. You will know what is best to do for her.
  6. Be wary of strong drugs on a sensitive dog. Poor Sarah has been acting like she is hopped up on Speed when I gave her the steroids prescribed. One drug does not fit all.
  7. Educate yourself and don’t fall into fear. Not every illness is the same. Not every cause of each illness is the same either. Many times we fall into fear, like I did, because illnesses of animals we have loved and lost come back to haunt us. That’s when logical mind needs to come in and acknowledge there are still some losses that need to be grieved and healed, and to remind yourself you are only human. You won’t always do the perfect right thing. You make mistakes. It happens. But you are doing your best for your loved one.
  8. When talking to your animal, remember that she may not know what is happening with her body, but she can communicate clues of what she feels.
  9. Always carry a bottle of Rescue Remedy for your animal and yourself in times of fear or illness crisis.
  10. Don’t be afraid to get a second opinion, like from another animal communicator. I often do this if I am too upset or scared to hear and trust what I get and I’ve been doing this work for eleven years. My intuitive best buds have been invaluable support for this kind of advice.

Remember, stay calm, get educated, and then check in.

after death communication

Books on after death communication part 1

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First off, a big, grateful thank you for the current round of students. What a wonderful group of ladies you are. One wrote such a lovely review you can read here. I offer many courses here and would love to have you as a student!

Speaking of students, I am always learning so I can pass along information to my students. Because of this mission, I had a lovely visit to Sedona’s Public libary recently. (They have THE best book sale every year, incidently.)

I’ve started my research on the new books, or books I missed, on after death communication and mediumship, one of my passions.

Here’s my list:

Rosemary Altea’s  A Matter of Life and Death (I haven’t seen a book by her in awhile. This one promises stories of helping others heal and grieve.

Gary Leon Hill’s People Who Don’t Know They’re Dead. Just dig the title. About spirit attachments. This one looks juicy.

Dan Gordon’s Postcards from Heaven. Personal story about after death communication. I’ve never seen this book before. Will see…

Mary Ann Winkowski’s When Ghosts Speak. I love the tv show Ghost Whisperer. Not happy it got cancelled. I was curious about the psychic it is based on, so I was led to this book.

(Great segue. This would be a good time to mention my Mediumship readings and Animal Mediumship online class.)

In another future post, I will give my reviews and recommendations. I want to see if these books add up to what I’ve experienced and have learned. If you’ve read one of these, feel free to comment with your review.