1. Deep cleansing, leads to
2. Lack of sleep and nightmares, leads to
3. Lack of focus and cloudy head
4. Sets off irritability and over-sensitivity to all negativity
5. Sets off feeling of overwhelm and upset
6. Leads to buttons being pushed big time
7. Leads to off center, off focus, off path
and finally, triggered–“Aren’t I doing enough?!” People-pleasing. “How can I succeed this way?” Headaches. Pushing it all out.
Deep breath.
Re-center.
Ah, finally I am learning what Duck Energy is. For the empath, duck energy is essential–the key to sanity. Duck energy represents detaching from others’ stuff; observing without carrying. I feel as if I’ve been in a fish bowl experiment lately with my newly-teen daughter home from school for two weeks. Girls at this age are reactive at best. I told my husband, it is like she has PMS 24/7, which can’t be the easiest thing to have. My immediate response to anger is anger, so using duck energy has been my tool. Perhaps she is simply bringing up my control issues.
When I watch her do absolutely nothing a few days straight, I want to step in and offer suggestions, help, anything. But I finally learned this act did nothing but aggravate her more. Let it go, I kept hearing. But as a parent, isn’t it our jobs to make sure our girls grow up to be happy, well-adjusted adults? Let it go. Where’s her passion? Her joy? Her excitement? Let it go. Just swim along in the sea and don’t get lost in others’ floods. They are swimming along too, the best they can. You can’t go to school for someone else, can you? Let it go.
The January newsletter of my site’s Dogbunny Gazette is now up. Find it here.
I am starting a new column within my blog: flower essence and Nature tools for support. I have learned from my Guides (Fairy and otherwise) great, natural tools to support my sensitive system.
Today’s focus is Salvia Potion. This lovely purple plant grows in the fields and in many of my neighbor’s lawns in Arizona. It is tall with bunches of tiny purple flowers. Salvia is emotionally calming, great for this kooky & sometimes dramatic holiday season. This essence is also good for detaching from others’ emotional dramas, and of course, our own. I’ve taken this essence in the middle of an emotional melt-down, PMS, and in trauma.
How’s it feel? I feel calm, and the emotional edge has been taken off. I am also in a more balanced place so I can detach easier, and see the higher picture.
Order at our store. (Our beginner class-flower essence introduction– in Fairy School is also being offered this January.)
After some very traumatic yet fascinating experiences–I am learning so much–my goal is to regain joy. Not always an easy thing to do when you’ve been bathed in fear and grief. But somewhere underneath the weeds is the flower!
Emma Lou, our reincarnated basset hound, represents joy to me. She can’t wait to wake up in the morning and play with her toy basket, knock over each toy, explore shoes, and chase her sister around. After being in pain for the past week, I, on the otherhand, have dreaded mornings, but Emma is teaching me otherwise. You would think her day would be boring, but she is the epitomy of simplicity. And it is the simple things that give her the most joy. She loves the sun on her belly, a piece of string gives her moments of fun (I’d say hours but we are talking puppy here), and whenever she sees one of her sisters, she eggs them on to play. We had this “skill”as children, I am sure. How did many of us lose this?
When I was writing and compiling my book, The Fairy Field Guide, the Fairies and Nature Spirits had a continuous message–to bring in joy. Joy was the key to abundance, to happiness, to health. My greatest challenge has been holding on to joy in the midst of deep sadness, disappointment and even, loss of hope. I am finding that my essential nature and soul IS joyous–it’s my natural state, so I am like one big rubber band–always bouncing back to finding that joyful place.
I watched an Academy Award-winning movie on DVD yesterday, Cold Mountain. What the characters endured was the complete opposite of joy, and yet by the end of the movie, they are seen enjoying life and its bounty full-heartedly. I was amazed. After everything they had experienced, wouldn’t you have been broken, shut down from life? Perhaps by feeling the worst of this world they had a greater appreciation for what is joyful and bright. Perhaps they held onto the tiny bit of joy that was hidden in the dark? As an empath and a sensitive, it is all too easy to get lost in the dark and what I feel around me. Maybe the solution is to pull out that joy and that light–the flower– that is hidden in the dark.
I am learning the difference between wise will connected to my higher self and my lower will connected to my little brain, according to the great book Spiritual Growth by Sanaya Roman, a classic. The other day I stopped at a local healer’s place and tried out a fabulous essential oil, Cardamom. With just a little rub, I felt grounded and calm. That’s the great thing about being a sensitive, a little goes a long way! The healer, Suzanne, noticed I started coughing. She said that meant my feeling area was not aligned with my head. Ain’t that the truth. I’ve been working on head-only decisions, and have lately been learning how to follow my intuition or heart/feelings, according to Sanaya, my wise will. The wise will will lead you through your feelings and what you WANT to do. Today I feel like painting canvases and making essences. My brain is telling me to go fuss on the website and worry. Which do you think I will listen to?
Tomorrow I hope to write about the odd vision I had. There is always so much to write about and share!
After being able to talk with Lilibeth when she crossed, I realized how hard it must be for others who didn’t have this ability. For a long time I specialized in this form of communication for clients. The other day I was talking with my husband and said, if I could teach people two things that would be one, how award our animals are, and two, that they don’t die. Yes, they have a soul and a spirit. This is a no-brainer to most of us. More than ever in the past few years I have seen more than ever how this is true. So, for animal after-death readings, you can click here and it will take you to my website. Email me with questions if you need. I will be happy to help. I’d be lost without this ability. (Oh, and a little heads-up, we make a fairy flower essence called Gazania, that helps with telepathy and hearing our animals).
I have a new ebook out. It is the first one in a series of color-coded diaries–notes on my journey and what I’ve learned from my Guardian Angels and my Spirit Helpers, including, tips on grounding, psychic boundaries, manifesting and more. Here’s some excerpts:
The book is in cool diary form. Check it out here on my site.
My friends and I seem to all be having a tough time of it lately emotionally. So much stirring up, and so much core stuff being jiggled to the top, so I went into meditation and asked my helpers what was happening! Here’s the message I received (this is what came out verbatim. Please ignore the grammar errors!)
“Restructuring happening with everything. What you are feeling–crashing down of defenses–an influx of energy coming in to clear and cleanse, put into place, to restore order. But first there is a release. In all healing there is a release of old and what is not working or damaged. This can be dramatic.
Establish a middle, a center, a safe place within, among the “ruin.”
The empaths are feeling it the most–seeing restructuring on many levels, feeling others’ releases. Tremendous change is being experience on all levels for everyone.
For each person there will be a different direction given (on what to do to feel peace again). An inner voice telling you what needs to be done to restore your own inner order. That is the greater purpose–to reconnect to that inner, wise voice.”
I hope that helps a bit!
I read in Karen’s What’s Up on Planet Earth that what we are all experiencing is the darkness right now. As we go up the ladder, higher and higher, we are bound to pass the darkness leaving all around us. Now, sometimes the negativity IS in us, wanting to leave. I, and my loved ones and friends, are feeling all of this strongly. We are all dealing with our core, deep issues. You know, the ones that push that little button that throws you back to when you were a little child. The uglies! It’s time to do some house-cleaning and clean up and get rid of that core belief that you learned that doesn’t even to begin to reflect who you are inside! Yes, we weren’t really seen for the bright stars that we were. How could we be? We were raised by folks who didn’t see or were taught to see their own shining light. We can heal this for them too. Bring that nasty belief out of the woodwork now. Unfold it and lay it out on the bed before you. Yes, it’s nasty. Yes, it hurts, but it isn’t real. It’s not a truth. And now, it’s out in the open, lying right in front of you, so it can’t hide anymore.
Feel that pain and break away from the mask you once worn that tried to hide you from this false truth, whether the mask showed up as an addiction, a stress reliever, or a compulsive obsession. Mine is..hopefully, was, work. I thought (deep down inside) that what I accomplish is ME. What I DO to please others is ME. Now I am experiencing a mini-death to my mask-self. Mask-self isn’t working. It’s not fixing the belief or making it go away. All that is left is ME. And then I have to feel the pain that I felt before I made this mask-self so I would be “Okay.” Big frickin’ OUCH. But, you know what? It wasn’t ME and will never be ME. And ME is enough. And anyone who thinks or feels ME isn’t enough, doesn’t deserve to be in my new little universe.
Gut honesty. Gut vulnerability. I showed you mine, what’s yours?
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