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Should we just love everyone?

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I’ve been pondering a lot of messages floating about on the internet and social groups lately. Even my old church promoted just loving everyone and seeing their higher selves. I think that is an excellent idea, but there needs to be disclaimers with these types of messages.

Do you love the person who is abusive to you? Just smile and see their higher self? What about the jerk pushing over your boundaries and walking right through them? Some of this line of love thinking feels very hippy-I’m-high-on-something kind of crap when I am encountering these kind of individuals, so I am guessing, that’s where my anger comes in.

Here’s my advice: yes, love them. See their higher selves and RUN! I mean frickin’ run for that damn exit. Let them bother someone else then, and run past their boundaries and treat them like crap. Honey, I am not going to sit there and see the good they could possibly be, or that they are souls just like me underneath. Yes, so true, but right now they are toxic to me and I’m going to RUN!

I think the bottom line under all of that teaching about love is, do you love yourself? Do you love yourself enough to want to be surrounded by people who really care about your feelings and needs, and truly care about your boundaries? Do they hear you when you speak about your concerns, or, do they act like they hear you, but then trample over you anyway? Do you love yourself enough to not be abused by someone else’s bad behavior, that you might understand underneath why they are acting the way they are, but right now you will keep yourself safe and out of the line of fire?

So, yes, it is all about LOVE. Just love you, and love them enough to let them learn their own lessons, but far over there.

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There’s no room in spirituality for shaming

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I had an odd experience in one of the groups I’m involved in on Facebook.  I lost my cool and finally had to speak my mind. I’m sure that is not becoming in a spiritual teacher, but I am only human…well, half human.

I’ve been discussing lately with family and friends the experience of being shamed growing up through organized religion. I was amazed at the common experiences among several different religions.

I grew up Jewish and married into a Christian family. In the Jewish religion, according to my Grandmother, there are enormous amount of rules in order to be a good person including how you cook and what utensils you use. I doubt very highly God cares if you follow any of them. We weren’t supposed to this or that and you had to have a Bat Mitzvah, go to Hebrew school, etc. etc. I didn’t do any of those. They just didn’t resonate.

Once I was married, I realized in the Christian religion there were even more rules to acceptance. And it didn’t matter what I did or believed anyway because I was already not going to be accepted because of the, well, Jewish thing. I already didn’t believe in many things my family of origin did, such as, when you die you just die and you live on in memories. After all, as a child, I had too many spirits visiting me at night. Who were they then? And the non-acceptance of Jesus as loving guidance or teacher was a tough one also when at 14 I had a profound vision of him standing in front of me when I needed love and support the most.

So, according to organized religion, I was in an in between state of non-acceptance. Not belonging to one or the other, according to the rules.

How does this all apply to the Facebook group?

I recognize the same rules and shaming underneath those rules among the “new age” group of thinkers. There’s a running belief you create your reality 100% so if you have horrible things happening in your life or negative people, it’s because you are thinking wrong and doing it badly. (I hate the SECRET). I liken this to what a little child believes that the whole world revolves around him and he can control it with his mind. Yes, we attract what we focus on and what we are learning. It is called Earth School after all. But the negative parent or friend being a jerk? Or the idiot who just cut you off in traffic?  That’s reality because there’s lots of people in the world we encounter in our lives. We don’t live in a bubble. The awful illness? What if you inherited or was born with a bad heart? Are you a bad thinker then? What if you are still in the learning state where you aren’t aware of what you are attracting or need to learn? Then you need compassion as you learn the tough lessons, and, as we progress and grow, sometimes the curriculum does get harder maybe because we crave more wisdom and more healing.

I guess the bottom line is there is perfectionism behind any religion with rules,  and perfectionism is about shaming ourselves for not being perfect or doing it right. That’s not possible or is it desirable. Besides, who decides what is right? A mean-spirited, judgmental God who punishes us with floods and famine when we are bad? Ooooh, that’s not my idea of God. When I visited Indian Gardens recently, I was in awe of the natural beauty. And you know what? It’s a forest that is beautiful in its wildness. There’s overgrown vines and fallen trees, things that shouldn’t be floating in the water, and paths that aren’t clear. That’s us. We are still beautiful even when we don’t follow the rules or are “different,”  or even, SHUDDER, make a mistake.  And we are still loved even with our wildness.

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I’m having the weirdest day and mysteries solved

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This has truly been an odd day. Today’s theme: solving mysteries!

Emma Lou, those of you who read my blog know she’s my basset hound, ate a box of gum yesterday. I still don’t know how she got it out of my purse, which was mostly closed and hanging on my chair hidden under a bunch of coats. I only know there was evidence of the box out in the yard. And, yes, oddly enough, her body must thrive on gum because she’s perfectly fine. That mystery hasn’t been solved yet. I think it has something to do with her very long stomach that made it doable. But grateful, a scary thing was taken care of on its own. (I did give her homeopathy and flower essences for making sure things kept moving.)

This morning, a reader led me to an article on personality disorders that helped me with a clue dealing with a person I knew in the past offering big-time validation. I’m so grateful that guidance came in such a round-about way but solved another mystery why she acted like she did.

I was so exhausted today that when I went to buy t.p. at the grocery store, I used my wrong debit card and thought I overdrawn my other account. If I had just bought the t.p. I’d been fine, but I got cash back without thinking.  Knowing I had a automatic payment coming through for my car insurance, I panicked. I rushed home to check my bank account and thought I just screwed up when I saw a zero balance and would probably have a fee! So I rushed back into town exhausted to the bank and found out all my upset was for naught. The car insurance payment didn’t post yet, and I had checks to deposit to cover what I needed when it did. I didn’t have to solve this one either, it was taken care of by itself.

Back at home, the neighbor mystery was finally solved. What mystery, you ask? My neighbors have been slowly disassembling their mobile home. Out when the porch. Then the shed. Then the bricks under the house. A few trees were moved. The renters were there one day and then gone the next. Then only one came back. It was fascinating to watch and wonder and quite weird. I finally got to talk to the landlords and found out that they sold the old mobile and were putting a new, fancier one in its place, which the landlords would now live in. Sounded like the renters were a bit interesting and there were quite a few stories there.

Overall thought for the day is I love solving mysteries but I especially like when they solve themselves.

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Get out of the box!

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Have you ever noticed that your spiritual lessons seem to revolve around different themes? Like, one week what you are learning is all about Setting Boundaries. Another, about Tolerance or Dealing with Annoyances (had that one last week). This week, for me, seems to be about Breaking Free from Boxes.

Usually what gets us reeling and pushing our buttons with others is what theme we are working on. One of my pet peeves is Ignorance, probably because being a teacher is so ingrained in me as a mission, that when others don’t want to learn a new way of being or doing things, my frustration level goes up. I’ve been dealing with outdated systems, which on some level, we all are. I watch Egypt throw out the old that didn’t work with loud protests and see change happen before them. And yet, I see credit card and financial organizations not working with the new economy or the change that is needed. And our government, well, you know.

Years ago, as a former child parent, my biggest frustration was dealing with a system that helped kids that was so forced into its little box that it didn’t cater to the individual–one size fits all. And guess what? Not everyone fits into that box! There’s lots of variations and some kids even throw the box out of the water demanding new solutions.

(My dear friend is dealing with this in the health-care system.)

When I was finally free from that system and situation, I wanted to go back to school to learn how to find solutions how to change and retool all those systems that didn’t work, like that clinic, an outdated model that doesn’t work for all the children or the parents. But I am realizing now on the other side of the fence, that the solution is to educate one person at a time to make change. And the secret is to reach those who want to learn and change, otherwise it’s useless outpouring of energy. (That, readers, was a big lesson for me to learn.)

I guess that’s why I like shows like HOUSE and other detective programs because the cases they see don’t fit into any box, so the detectives and doctors have to stretch their minds and find new solutions. What a concept! Make change? Develop new systems based on new needs? Educate and update your staff on new illnesses and treatments? Really?

I saw this the other day shopping at a local store. One patron complained she never ventured further then her small town and considered Sedona far, far away city. We live maybe 40 minutes away? There’s a whole world out there! Break out of the box!

I saw that in numerous local veterinarians in the past who didn’t even know the latest life-saving treatments for kidney disease.

I do realize though, that boxes keep us safe. What we don’t know can be scary. In the little box, you know what the walls look like.

Seeing this in big systems around me forced me to also look at my own thinking, and finding where my beliefs are out-dated and keep me very boxed in. I discovered this usually shows itself in black and white thinking–do or die, this or that. What a bunch of crap! There’s gray in my choices. This is a big realization for me. I don’t have to get rid of eating sugar, I just need to be balanced in my eating. I don’t have to get rid of people in my life, I just need to create some boundaries in some areas or retool or evolve the relationship based on new needs. There’s only a problem, when, like the big systems, that belief, area or person can’t, or refuses to change.

Do you relate to this? Where are you stuck in the box?

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Empath’s Energy Report

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From an empath’s perspective, the energies are pretty wonky this week. Everyone is in transition now or in big change and then the weather is mirroring us. I just found out that the college I’ve worked for is having a huge 78% cutback in funding! So, we are seeing the biggest change in the money sector. I can hear groans from the audience.

Energy-wise I can feel excitement like the first- day-of-school kind. I can definitely feel big changes happening all around. And I feel the Guides/Angels creating more protection for each of us. I feel them pulling in closer to offer guidance, contrary to some folks I’ve heard saying they are pulling away to have us be more independent. I don’t get that at all.

I’m not feeling the bursts of anger or nastiness I felt before in the public. It feels more like surrender, which isn’t always a bad thing. The true miracles happen when that happens.

So, when there is no stability and ground to count on, what do you do?

I asked my Guides for suggestions and was reminded about the butterflies. If we are caterpillars, it looks like the world is going to end soon, and we feel stuck in our cocoons and dark, and squooshed in too tight. We can’t see past it.  But we are simply in the process right before we become butterflies and the world as we see it changes its form.

Maybe the world is morphing to fit our new forms. It doesn’t look pretty.  If you look at the decline or the falling apart, you are looking at the caterpillar’s crumbling cocoon, not the future beauty of the butterfly.

I like that. We are just morphing into something amazing.

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What happened to your header? Or a story about ruby slippers and marketing

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The Lesson of the Ruby Slippers

If you are regular reader to Ronni’s Psychic Room, you may have noticed many changes in the last few months to my site. No, your eyes aren’t going loopy, you are simply experiencing the effects of a right-brain person trying to do left-brain marketing. (Noticable in the many changes to my blog header).

I’ve been trying to define myself and what I do for marketing purposes, but the more I tried to, the farther I got away from myself and home. The experience has been ultimately, more of the lesson of the ruby slippers. Remember dear Dorothy on a quest?

In my attempts to define and brand myself, for months I labeled myself one who helps the sensitive. Hmmm. I do! I love to teach tools on what has helped me as an empath to survive. But then, I did a few animal communication readings. Need to add that now. Then I did a few mediumship readings. Now what? Enter a marketing coach who said I am more of a psychic communication teacher. But I really like to write about spiritual lessons I’ve learned! More boxes around me. I’ve never liked boxes and I felt more and more limited. Afterall, what I do encompasses much more than that title and obviously, I did different kinds of psychic readings and I love to write about what I’ve learned.

When I had my Fairy Online School only, I was the fairy girl. Folks assumed I only talked to fairies. Another box. No, talking to fairies was PART of what I do as a teacher and an intuitive.

The more I went by marketing models, the more confused I got, and more boxed in I felt. I had to fit into a niche, right? Squeeze into a tight box. Conform to where I was pulled to. It got to the point where someone would ask me what I do and I just mumbled to myself! Now that’s bad marketing.

Then there’s the art and writing thing. So, I’m an artist too, but I thought, when I create my art with words, that’s usually what I’ve learned as an intuitive that I want to share through my art.

The fog finally cleared the other day with lots of help from invisible and visible friends. I found myself saying out loud what and who I am: I’m essentially a teacher. I love teaching what I’ve learned from my work as an intuitive and working with my spiritual companions and animals, whether it was the extensive work I did with the Fairies on healing with Nature, talking to my Guides/Angels about what would help me as an empath, or having more insight on my childhood from my departed Mom, or learning from Emma Lou, my basset hound, teaching me about joy. And, I like to teach others how to do this too. All this I do through writing an online lesson, an article or blog post, giving a workshop, making a Comfort Card, or helping someone one-on-one in a reading.

Marketing doesn’t have to be difficult. It’s really simple. No molding. No trying to be for the market. I had my ruby slippers on all along and had the answer, and therefore, could find my way back home. I just had to be me and find that common thread of what it is I offer and love to do.

So, if you want to learn how to communicate to your spiritual world or need help doing so, or want to learn from what I’ve experienced that might help you or your animals, you’ve come to the right place. Welcome to my tribe.

And if you are a holistic healer or an intuitive offering services, or someone who simply does several things, what is your common thread throughout all that you love to do? That’s your definition or ruby slippers–the way back to you.

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Nasty fairy moment

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I’m experiencing a nasty fairy moment. It could be the half a garlic bread I just scarfed down, or that I overslept this morning and had an amazing dream and had to wake up, or maybe just hormones. Nasty fairy moments are when I am not all positive, happy, and spiritual. Sometimes, they can feel good. After all, that is a lot of pressure to always be positive, happy and spiritual, right? Maybe I need nasty fairy moments.

Nasty fairy moments often include nasty feelings like envy, hostility, negativity, and just plain bitchiness. There’s often a high degree of self pity thrown in there. I’ll say things to myself like, “No one cares.” “Why try, it won’t make a difference.” “I’ve failed before.” These even feel prickly and icky.

I hate the thoughts the most and some can be quite cutting ones that surprise me. I would guess that although I’m mostly fairy, I am in a human body. 🙂

Way, way back, I had a design client from hell. No, really. As soon as she approached me, I had a bad feeling. I knew we’d have control battles when we fought over where we should meet. When I visited her home, she was highly specific about how close to the curb I should park. Needless to say, I did NOT follow my inner guidance at the time. In a very nasty confrontation, she told me I was not who I portrayed myself to be. I was a nasty fairy! And that’s when I discovered that part of me.

I look back at this moment, and now I chuckle. I am by far not lighthearted all the time, like you would think fairies would be. I have Scorpio in my Moon, so I am rather serious and intense in my emotions. I live life down into the layers. I have to work at the lighthearted thing. (Ironically, though, it must be in there, because most of my artwork is rather fun and whimsical.). So I always thought it funny that the Fairies had found me. But then, I look at my work with Nature like a little scientist diving in and trying to understand and learn, and mostly, discover. I would imagine, the Fairies aren’t always lighthearted all the time themselves. And I would guess, there are quite a few who are nasty little fairies at times.

(Of note, I was recently told I was the epitomy of joy. Okay, okay, my true soul is probably rather silly and maybe even joyful. I do have to admit.)

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January Newsletter

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The January newsletter of my site’s Dogbunny Gazette is now up. Find it here.

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If you like my writing…

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I have a new ebook out. It is the first one in a series of color-coded diaries–notes on my journey and what I’ve learned from my Guardian Angels and my Spirit Helpers, including, tips on grounding, psychic boundaries, manifesting and more. Here’s some excerpts:

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The book is in cool diary form. Check it out here on my site.

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The void

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I’ve decided I must be currently in the void. I’ve never experienced such a weird lack of flow before. It’s like things are in a standstill. Perhaps, I am in a different place right now and everything has to catch up. Areas which are working are blatantly obvious! I think of the one gallery show I am, that has felt bad from the first day. When I saw the show, I felt huge disappointment. Are the energies that easy to feel now? I let the show upset me, but perhaps, that was simply NOT where I belonged. Then, the old feeling of being “different” arrives, and I think, will I ever find that place where I belong? Or am I too different? Can you relate to this at all?

Potions for today: lots of roses (great for emotions) and Salvia.I picked up a great deal of Jessica’s emotional stuff last night (oops, forgot to shield). After a big surge of energy like I experienced yesterday, there’s always a bit of letdown. It’s the void moments when doubt appears. Last night Cauliflower Perelandra essence was indicated, which means I am being reborn in some way. That’s a great essence for helping your new self feel supported. Is that why there is so little movement in some areas like that gallery show?

I want to thank everyone who has visited this blog in the past week. I’ve had record amount of hits and am so excited to help others on their paths. We are trekking onto new territory. It will be a little different.

And on a positive note, GHOST HUNTERS SEASON 3 comes out October 9th! Woo hoo!