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Hearing

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The theme of Hearing has been on my mind lately.

I am noticing I am hearing psychically more and more. This can be a great asset for my business helping others. I simply tune in and I hear messages loudly and clearly. Long ago, when I first started this work, I’d have to sit down and clear my mind and try to meditate first. It felt like a struggle to hear correctly and I doubted much of what I received because I was so new at it. (That’s hope for those just starting out). Not so anymore. It’s always there like a fast moving stream I tap into.

I easily hear my Guides also, now instead of in mediation, often throughout the day. It feels like light-bulb moments of knowing.

On the downside, I pick up telepathically from many sources and this can cause foggy thinking and confusion. I find myself having conversations with people, and even arguments, from far away. The other day, I picked up on thoughts and energy of a client an entire day before a session, and didn’t know it until after the fact. Not a good thing. I am realizing I need to have my Doorkeeper stronger in place and create better psychic filters as this ability expands.

I am also noticing where I don’t feel heard. Being heard is very important in relationships. You may have a different opinion on what I should do or think, but hear me, and what is important to me. When you don’t hear me it is usually because you are in the way. That’s a big indication you are seeing through your filter and experiences. That’s a good reminder for me not to take things personally at those times when I don’t feel heard.

I am hearing my girls better lately also. Sarah, my beagle mix girl, who I often mention, has always communicated through feeling. She’s not one I pick up through thoughts or hearing. Yet, lately, I can hear her. I think that maybe she resonates at a different frequency I am picking up now.

I am hearing my loved one better also. Really hearing what he has to say and going beyond the surface to what is going on. I hear his pain. Really see him underneath the layers.

But most importantly, I am hearing myself more. What I want, need, and feel. Not what other people want for me or think what is best, but what I think it is best. It’s a new shift for me, and it’s a little scary. I’m dealing with a deep fear: What if I don’t please others but I please myself?

What if, the times I complain I am not being heard or have been forgotten, and I scream at my Guides, it is a time I am not taking the time to sit down and hear myself? I am ignoring that little girl in me who is crying out and saying what she needs, but I am dismissing her.

Ironically, my ears have been hurting. Perhaps they are adjusting to the expansion, just like I am, psychologically.

Be heard, dear readers.

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Banish the Blah Bubbles – Excerpt Friday

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As an integral part of the Fairy Beginner class, I have students do a seemingly simple exercise that is very telling. I designed it almost 5 years ago, and the last few weeks I realized how important this exercise is.

For fun I am going to do the Banish the Blah Bubble 30 day challenge. I encourage you to do the same.

For each day I will create a bubble or circle (I created flowers from my Art journal pages for fun) and will write down what brought me true joy that day or gave me energy or a rise. This is true guidance from myself.

The interesting thing is what makes me happy, and truly happy, may be very different than someone else’s bubble. My “yes” may be your “no.” I am stripping away where I have molded, compromised, agreed to, and isn’t mine.  I may think I like walking, but maybe I’d prefer dancing for my exercise. Maybe others see me in a life of travel but I’d prefer a secure homebase to feel grounded and happy. My bubbles will lead me there. I made the above bubbles 5 years ago, and I am surprised by some of my joys and many have changed, as have I. I might not want the same things as time goes on either, but my bubbles tell me what I do want in the present.

Here’s my bubble for yesterday, which is officially Day 1 of my challenge. I dare you too.

And for what doesn’t work for me and lands on my Nasty Fairy list, I present:

The WTF Award

I secretly have a WTF award (okay, now it is not a secret), I give out in my mind each week to the stupidest words said to me or the behavior that was just crazy or mean. This week I give this prestigious award to the Weed Guy who is supposed to call ahead before spraying the yard with toxic chemicals. He left me an answering machine message he was swinging by not saying when and just hoped the dogs wouldn’t be out. WTF?? I do give him the benefit of the doubt because I do think there is some damage there from inhaling so much weed killers, but this about the safety of my girls that I don’t take lightly.

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The Nasty Fairy

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March newsletter lesson and Question to Ponder is now out. To sign up and read all about the Nasty Fairy and read what she has to teach you here.


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Comfort Cards

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One of my favorite missions is empowering women. Many of the lessons I’ve learned working with Guides and Angels have been messages on how to nurture or encourage myself. These messages were compiled and accompany my line of illustrated Comfort Cards to be comfort for you. Cards are available as prints and postcards at my Etsy store. Load up a few as nice reminders.

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I’m having the weirdest day and mysteries solved

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This has truly been an odd day. Today’s theme: solving mysteries!

Emma Lou, those of you who read my blog know she’s my basset hound, ate a box of gum yesterday. I still don’t know how she got it out of my purse, which was mostly closed and hanging on my chair hidden under a bunch of coats. I only know there was evidence of the box out in the yard. And, yes, oddly enough, her body must thrive on gum because she’s perfectly fine. That mystery hasn’t been solved yet. I think it has something to do with her very long stomach that made it doable. But grateful, a scary thing was taken care of on its own. (I did give her homeopathy and flower essences for making sure things kept moving.)

This morning, a reader led me to an article on personality disorders that helped me with a clue dealing with a person I knew in the past offering big-time validation. I’m so grateful that guidance came in such a round-about way but solved another mystery why she acted like she did.

I was so exhausted today that when I went to buy t.p. at the grocery store, I used my wrong debit card and thought I overdrawn my other account. If I had just bought the t.p. I’d been fine, but I got cash back without thinking.  Knowing I had a automatic payment coming through for my car insurance, I panicked. I rushed home to check my bank account and thought I just screwed up when I saw a zero balance and would probably have a fee! So I rushed back into town exhausted to the bank and found out all my upset was for naught. The car insurance payment didn’t post yet, and I had checks to deposit to cover what I needed when it did. I didn’t have to solve this one either, it was taken care of by itself.

Back at home, the neighbor mystery was finally solved. What mystery, you ask? My neighbors have been slowly disassembling their mobile home. Out when the porch. Then the shed. Then the bricks under the house. A few trees were moved. The renters were there one day and then gone the next. Then only one came back. It was fascinating to watch and wonder and quite weird. I finally got to talk to the landlords and found out that they sold the old mobile and were putting a new, fancier one in its place, which the landlords would now live in. Sounded like the renters were a bit interesting and there were quite a few stories there.

Overall thought for the day is I love solving mysteries but I especially like when they solve themselves.

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Finding your thread career guidance

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Did you ever notice that when you learn a lesson or finally “get” a message of guidance, it seems so simple yet so true?

I am learning, or actually, relearning the lesson of “finding your thread.” Many of my clients and students are in transition regarding career and feel a bit lost. For myself, I am fine-tuning or targetting that mission every day. What I have learned to pass along is the importance of identifying what are the main skills or activities you love to do.

For instance, I am finding that I what I love to do has a common thread of detective/analytical/discovery work mixed in with compiling/designing/writing, then sharing or teaching what I learned. That thread is so simple yet took a while to wade through the crap that included:

1/what I thought I should want to do

2/what others wanted for me

3/past parental pleasing

4/what the market wanted me to be

What this discovery means is when I sway off the path of that thread, I’m not happy. If I am asked to do a workshop of something I no longer am exploring, and the discovery isn’t there or the detective work, I will walk away unfulfilled.  If there is no compiling/designing or putting together in some way, I will feel like a vital part is missing. And if there is no teaching component or sharing intended to help or inspire, I will feel empty.

I love making a flower essence which includes the discovery and creating and sharing. Creating my online classes includes all of the thread. Doing a reading involves lots of detective work, sharing and even compiling. These are all “yeses.”

Years ago, I was in a television pilot that didn’t include the creation/compiling end of things, so I felt a constant frustration throughout filming. When I didn’t include that activity/skill in my practice, I felt an emptiness I couldn’t name. When I was an illustrator only, I loved creating for a problem. There’s that analytical/compiling, the sharing, and discovery. My soul has been guiding me all along to what fits and doesn’t fit. That dissatisfaction let me know I was off my path of what fits me.

Finding this thread also eleviates a great deal of compromise on my part. I can also then, resist what others want for me but doesn’t fit. I simply take their suggestion and see if it fits into my thread.

What’s your thread? What is the component in your work that makes your heart sing happy Disney songs? What activity do you do naturally and would do even if you weren’t paid? What part of your work now doesn’t fit and drains you? That’s probably not part of your thread.

Explore…

(if you do need help finding that thread and need a little Guide assistance for your search, head over to the Readings page and schedule a reading. I’d be happy to help.)

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Is it spiritual to be bitchy?

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Everything that happens in my life is one big spiritual lesson, and therefore, writing material.  I was forced to ask myself the question yesterday, in a round-about way, Do we have to be positive all the time to be spiritual and a positive force to others?

I love my parents deeply but my Dad is the type of person who always says, “Just tell me the positive things.” Growing up in that kind of environment I learned the lovely art of repression. This showed itself as minor physical ailments which we all shared as a family. Fact: I rarely cried until I was 14 and my dog died, and when I did, my whole family was in shock. That’s really sad.

You see, the “nasties” which is our humanness, has to go somewhere. I am sure when I was all light and spiritual on the Other Side, I was all positive all the time. Pop me in a body and especially one week in the month I will be hormonally affected and may not see the world in the best light. (It’s scary when I drive at that time.)

I can’t imagine not having moments when I release bits of anger, frustration, ugliness, un-spiritual thoughts, etc. I’d be like a coke bottle shaken up too many times ready to release. I’d probably end up like one of those folks that plows down a ton of people in a post office while the news reports, “She was such a nice person. Never bothered anyone. Never caused any trouble.”

I don’t know about you, but I don’t trust spiritual teachers that don’t have some humanness in them. When they make mistakes and their lives have areas that don’t work, I relate to them. When they are perfect and quote beautiful sayings all the time, I grow suspicious. What’s behind the curtain?

One of my best friends is an angel reader who says the “f-bomb” often in our private conversations. We often kid she could advertise as the reader who curses.

I won’t apologize for my bitchy, human moments. Sometimes I learn the most from them. I even was inspired to write a entry that landed in my new ebook, Spiritual Perfectionism, problem and tool #40.

Part of my healing is to not to recreate my repression-filled childhood. You can say what you want to me, and your journey is different than mine. What you believe and works for you is also different. But I won’t do that to myself, and maybe, that question posed to me yesterday, was just reminding me of that, so I wouldn’t.

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New book now available in paper

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New! HELP! I’M SENSITIVE ebook now available in paper and via snail mail too. For those who still need something tangible in their hands. Same great tools in another form.

Cute fun size

Buy the paper version: Paper coil-binded and printed version pocketbook (5.5″ x 4.25″) size, with shipping $23.99: Buy here.

 

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Get out of the box!

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Have you ever noticed that your spiritual lessons seem to revolve around different themes? Like, one week what you are learning is all about Setting Boundaries. Another, about Tolerance or Dealing with Annoyances (had that one last week). This week, for me, seems to be about Breaking Free from Boxes.

Usually what gets us reeling and pushing our buttons with others is what theme we are working on. One of my pet peeves is Ignorance, probably because being a teacher is so ingrained in me as a mission, that when others don’t want to learn a new way of being or doing things, my frustration level goes up. I’ve been dealing with outdated systems, which on some level, we all are. I watch Egypt throw out the old that didn’t work with loud protests and see change happen before them. And yet, I see credit card and financial organizations not working with the new economy or the change that is needed. And our government, well, you know.

Years ago, as a former child parent, my biggest frustration was dealing with a system that helped kids that was so forced into its little box that it didn’t cater to the individual–one size fits all. And guess what? Not everyone fits into that box! There’s lots of variations and some kids even throw the box out of the water demanding new solutions.

(My dear friend is dealing with this in the health-care system.)

When I was finally free from that system and situation, I wanted to go back to school to learn how to find solutions how to change and retool all those systems that didn’t work, like that clinic, an outdated model that doesn’t work for all the children or the parents. But I am realizing now on the other side of the fence, that the solution is to educate one person at a time to make change. And the secret is to reach those who want to learn and change, otherwise it’s useless outpouring of energy. (That, readers, was a big lesson for me to learn.)

I guess that’s why I like shows like HOUSE and other detective programs because the cases they see don’t fit into any box, so the detectives and doctors have to stretch their minds and find new solutions. What a concept! Make change? Develop new systems based on new needs? Educate and update your staff on new illnesses and treatments? Really?

I saw this the other day shopping at a local store. One patron complained she never ventured further then her small town and considered Sedona far, far away city. We live maybe 40 minutes away? There’s a whole world out there! Break out of the box!

I saw that in numerous local veterinarians in the past who didn’t even know the latest life-saving treatments for kidney disease.

I do realize though, that boxes keep us safe. What we don’t know can be scary. In the little box, you know what the walls look like.

Seeing this in big systems around me forced me to also look at my own thinking, and finding where my beliefs are out-dated and keep me very boxed in. I discovered this usually shows itself in black and white thinking–do or die, this or that. What a bunch of crap! There’s gray in my choices. This is a big realization for me. I don’t have to get rid of eating sugar, I just need to be balanced in my eating. I don’t have to get rid of people in my life, I just need to create some boundaries in some areas or retool or evolve the relationship based on new needs. There’s only a problem, when, like the big systems, that belief, area or person can’t, or refuses to change.

Do you relate to this? Where are you stuck in the box?

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I’m so excited…

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It’s too cold! Today has been a great day to snuggle up to my girls, make some warm foods, and read and learn. It’s the perfect time of year for that. And coincidently, (great segue in, don’t you think?) the e-book I’ve spent over a year compiling, living and writing, will be ready tomorrow and I can’t contain my excitement. I love how our tough experiences in the end can benefit others if we share what we have learned.

Help! I’m Sensitive! 50 Tools to help you thrive and survive is located in the bookstore here at this site. Official announcements for the book come out tomorrow, but I couldn’t contain myself.

I’ve learned valuable techniques to help with my sensitivity including techniques like Mouse Theory and Psychic Vampires, filling in holes, turtle shell, changing aura pictures, dealing with other people throwing their fears at you, taking care of the number one need for empaths, why panic attacks can happen in malls, and much more. I’ve included my favorite entries here from my blog and included a great deal of tools from my arsenal given to me by my helpful team of Guides in the past year.

You can order the book now here today and start empowering yourself right away and have warm reading material for those cold nights.