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Love what you do and trust your feelings

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Being an empath, I follow my intuition and what is best for me through my feelings.

Yesterday, I decided to finally get that haircut I’ve been putting off due to lack of time and a touch of laziness. After a few errands and a trip to Safeway, I stopped off Great Cuts with a coupon in hand for a discount haircut.

Entering the place, I noticed a crowded waiting room with kids jumping up and down off the chairs. The energy felt downright uncomfortable. But it was the woman at the front desk that turned me off. She seemed bored, tired, and someone who really didn’t care if I got a haircut or not. Was she the one who was going to cut my hair?! With a long wait, I reluctantly made an appt. to come back at 2pm for a haircut.

Driving around, wasting time until my appointment, I felt a huge tug NOT to go back. I’m a little embarassed to say that I didn’t. The more I thought about going in there the worse I felt. Instead I drove around and remembered that my one friend mentioned a hairdresser who was really good at her trade. Being pulled, I entered her shop two minutes away and she was delightful! She was actually excited about cutting my hair and we made an appointment for the next day.

Marianna, this great new hairdresser, cut my hair today. It looks wonderful. We talked while she cut and she told me I had great hair. (Got to love a compliment). She gave me tips on what conditioners would be great for my hair. There was no one else in the shop as she cuts one person’s hair at a time. It cost maybe three times the discount haircut, but you know what? With all that great treatment, I walked out feeling like a million bucks. I even treated myself to lunch afterwards.

I guess this is a story about several things. One, follow your gut and your energy. If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t for you. Two, Marianna loved cutting my hair and told me so. That wonderful energy went into my hair, probably. Loving what she does radiated out and was a great gift to me, and because of that, she did a great job. The first hairdresser I almost went to didn’t honor what she did and I guarantee she wouldn’t have honored me either, like Marianna had.

And third, treat yourself, dammit! Go just a little further with what you spend on yourself and you will be rewarded by showing the world and the Universe you matter. That’s one of those keys to abundance.

Go get a great haircut.

ps. I actually remember about six months ago going into that hair salon (the earlier one) to get a quick bangs cut. The young woman cutting my hair went on and on how my hair was so dry and with my “kind” of hair I shouldn’t even have bangs. Reminds me of the bad post office experience. 🙂

Fairy blessings,

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Update to the Post Office Story

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Empaths, repeat after me: My Perceptions Are Correct. Remind yourself often.

In my eBook, Help! I’m Sensitive: 50 Tools to Help you Thrive and Survive (offered on this site, incidently), I mention a story of catching a bad mood that wasn’t my own. The story tells of a post office clerk who passed along her bad mood to me, and being an empath, I began to sponge in the bad feelings until I realized what was happening and stopped the process.

My empathic sense that day was that the clerk was very burn out and angry, and I kept feeling she needed to leave this job. It was the job.

Interestingly enough, I found myself in the same post office the other day.  My stomach dropped when I saw who one of the clerks were behind the counter. I was in such a rush I had forgotten that I might bump into her again. Imagine my surprise when I glanced over to the side of the counter under her work station to see signs of “Happy Retirement,” and “Good Luck.” There was even a sign that said “Today is her last day. Wish her luck.”

Wow. My spidey sense was right on target! She WAS burn out. This was a woman who was counting down the days until retirement so she could leave and do what she really wanted to do. Like Senior days in high school, as graduation grows closer, the less you can tolerate school. And I am so glad I did recognize her feelings with my own, and I didn’t take them on and take her behavior personally. Well, I started to, but I caught it. A very valuable tool for all sensitive empaths.

Don’t you just love validation for lessons learned? And, what were the chances I’d be there her very last day?

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My e-book is on Kindle!

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Sweet! My e-book is now available on Amazon Kindle if you have a Kindle device. Go here to order. If  not, you can buy a copy right here at the site in the Ebook section.

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Learned from Nature tip

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Dealing with Transitions in Your Life

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When my old computer died I didn’t even get a chance to say goodbye. I dropped it off hoping that it would be healed. Next thing I was told my files were retrievable, but the computer had had it. Then I got this computer. We are starting to bond and I am getting used to the hair trigger keys that make all kinds of buttons appear all over the screen.

It was the same way with my cell phone. I made a giant leap forward from a cheaper, simple model with manual keys to touch screen-everything. That phone likes to talk to itself in my purse sometimes (It has voice recognition). Change can be tough to deal with.

We are moving forward, most of us, supposedly improving and upscaling. It’s like a fast current that we can’t avoid but have to jump on to. I always fear stagnation but there is little logic to that when we are always learning something new, especially spiritually which creates big leaps in perception and therefore, experiences.

So, how do you deal with the change and the big transitions? Everyone I know is experiencing this at this time. As per my usual blog style, I’ve compiled a list of what I have discovered.

What to do when you are in transition.

  1. Fight it. Stay tucked away at home hardly ever leaving. Even better, hide under the bed. Ha ha! Change won’t find you here! You’ve outsmarted change! I have this image from one of my favorite movies, The Triplets of Belleville. The funky house that the main characters live in doesn’t change but we are shown the passage of time by buildings and highways being built around it. Unfortunately, cocoons are lovely but eventually the butterfly needs to emerge or risk getting dried up and brittle.
  2. Instability is hardest for earth signs like myself. We love order. Throw the order off and we feel chaotic. Focus on creating some kind of stability, whether a steady schedule or daily rituals. Knowing every morning you can stop at your neighborhood cafe where everyone knows your name helps create some kind of order. My church helps me with that, knowing every Sunday I can check in and receive sustenance and community.
  3. Go the opposite direction and throw all caution to the wind (what does that expression mean anyway?) and run away to Europe to find yourself. Think Eat Pray Love. I want to do this but I have a personality that conflicts with this jump-in- the-water kind of experience, but you may like it. The trip may change your world around.
  4. My one friend suggested buying a poster board and filling it up with new goals. Brainstorming is a great way to open doors you may not have considered. I have had a tough time with this project as my life didn’t turn out at all like I thought it would, and I am a little afraid of what more is in store if it’s anything like what I’ve been through! So I would suggest, if you are like me, baby steps for your planning sessions. Just focus on the next little ideas that may be coming to the surface and nudging at you. Like building a new foundation you are given the next few bricks, not a whole wall all at once. (I know, we want the whole wall and even the building plan drawn out for us so we know where we are going.)
  5. Avoid the past. This is a big tip to follow when you are in transitions. When I get pulled into the past, I am miserable and stuck back there spinning my wheels. But that isn’t my reality now. When I do this I am really experiencing a form of PTSD. I have to remind myself those were yesterday’s lessons, not today. Like school, I don’t have to repeat ninth grade if I graduated! It’s a hard habit to break when your future isn’t coming in fast enough and you need to hold on to something, but it isn’t real. It’s a faulty coping tool that is similar to sitting under the bed.
  6. Practice patience. I have very little of that, unfortunately. If this is one of your virtues, rejoice, and please share your tips on how to have it with the rest of us. I think I missed that class in school.
  7. Focus on the sensual. This is big guidance I’ve been receiving. Listening to beautiful music, feeling the softness of my dog-ters, looking at colors, tasting great food, I am in the joyful moment. I am rebuilding my hope and faith with each small treat. Enjoying being in that space, everything is okay in my world and nothing can hurt me. It’s like I am closest to God then.

So, there isn’t a quick fix like we would like when we are in transition. Sitting under the bed has it’s time and place, but eventually we do need to come out from under at least to eat. Hopefully, following some of these tips will help you emerge a little stronger from your cocoon, and you will move more courageously into the next chapter of your life.

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Featured card this week

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T is for Tree Spirit. “You’ve forgotten the earthy side of your nature,” the tree spirit told me. (from the Fairy Healing Alphabet deck copyright 2011 Ronni Ann Hall)

Something  to look at this week: Tree Spirits are such wise and loving beings. This Tree Spirit is letting you know that you are too disconnected from Nature at this time in your life. You need to hug a tree, or walk in the forest, or sit by a pond. Symptoms you are disconnected:

  • you feel “boxed-in” and claustrophobic

  • you work in an environment where there is no windows

  • you feel cranky and irritable

  • you are not feeling creative or hopeful

Fairy task: Bring the outside in. Go hunting for fallen pinecones and forest treasures to bring into your home. Cut a flower from your rose bush and place it into a vase. Open some windows and let light in. Balance will be restored inside of you and around you.

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One of the most important things I am learning

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We really are in Earth School here. We’re constantly learning lessons or understanding and seeing our own patterns reflected back to us in our lives and environment. Sometimes, this is an amazing process and quite fascinating. Other times, it’s just painful or irritating.

I’ve seen a recurring pattern in my own life where those in authority are incompetent and ignorant and stand in the way of loved ones getting the help or assistance they need. My guidance on this was that this mirrored what happened to me when I was ill as a child, so I replay it often.

But this experience helps me as teacher and as a intuitive helper. Who knows? Maybe in another life I was one who was ignorant, making blanket judgements on only what I saw. And that’s the most important thing I am learning. In today’s outdated systems, there’s lots of “that’s how things are done,” “this is the model of how THIS looks like, so everyone fits into one box,” and “this is how it looks, so this is how it is.” But we are all being asked to go deeper; below the surface.

I’ve seen the flip side of this also lately. An acquaintance seemed very sweet and friendly on the surface, but I felt “icky” with. That uncomfortable feeling didn’t go away. This friend became more and more boundary-impaired revealing what maybe what I didn’t want to see. In this situation, I wanted to believe the surface.

I’ve talked often of the veterinarians that would see an illness and stick it into their box or more likely, medical directory, and give a dire diagnosis with no hope. They had no desire for education or other alternatives or even other diagnoses!

In all these situations, they choose not to see and didn’t want to see (myself included). Maybe that would make more work for them. Or, they would have to explore outside their boxes too much, and that’s kinda scary for a great deal of people. Or, in my case, I just wanted to think better of people.

Obviously, this is a thing for me. It’s like an annoying fly buzzing around my face. Sometimes, flies are indications of why we are here. My big mission is to educate others and be a teacher. I like to achieve that in fun, entertaining ways, but it’s still what I have a drive to do. I love to learn. I love to think outside that box, especially when the box isn’t working. Perhaps, that’s what I teach.

We can’t fall for appearances and stay on the surface. There’s always a different story for all situations. That helps me as a teacher or as an intuitive helping people because each dog that bites isn’t just out of fear. Each dog has a different story, and therefore, needs a different solution.

We need to be good detectives.

One of my most favorite tv shows is BONES. There’s a format to the show. They recover bones from a crime scene, identify the bones and cause of death, and then pick up a suspect. The beginning of the show there are ALWAYS false assumptions of what happened. People are placed into little boxes. By the end of the show, there’s the moment when you are usually blown away to learn it was the sweet little housewife who shoveled the guy on the head, or the bad guy wasn’t so bad after all. I love that!

When I used to do readings in the beginning, way back when, I would assume what the situation was, but by the time the reading was over and the dog spoke or the Guides spoke, and like watching an episode of BONES, I was always blown away by the answers and reeducated.

So, what am I saying? Educate yourself!! Get all of the pieces of the puzzle, not just one little jagged edge. Look below the surface and not accept the superficial and let’s start thinking out of those boxes to make some real, decent change.

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5 Days of White Pansy and Trust

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I  think  God’s  knowledge  is  in  the  flowers.

I’ve been instructed to use the White Pansy essence I’ve made for dealing with issues of trust. Since I arrogantly expect my clients to use the essences I recommend, I concluded I needed to listen to my own guidance and take the suggestion.

What’s the deal with trust? Why is it so hard to trust that things will work out and the Divine will take care of things when we are faced with tough circumstances that, logically, would make no sense for us to trust in the good?

Day one of taking White Pansy flower essence. I felt my bitter thoughts rise to the surface. I had reason not to trust. I had a long list created in the past few years. Spirit tells me that I often take on others’ faults that are not my own. This makes no sense to me or why this message is relevant to trusting.

Day two. I was journalling like a crazy-flowing pen nut. Insights rose alongside the nasty bitter thoughts. I wasn’t feeling Miss Spiritual at that moment. Not Miss Positive or the teacher I came here to be. It was ugly–I was releasing.

Day three. Things began to shift. I felt more hopeful about life. I was seeing the little ways my Guides helped me every day and I could trust that guidance. If I needed something, it came about.

That morning I unloaded my sadness on my one pal and recalled a time of high stress trauma last year when I lived off my birthday cake for months. I think it was the sugar high I was using to cope with. It started to get a little gross, and my friend shared with me, that at the time, she thought I was eating that cake probably beyond when it was still edible. We laughed about this and I told her I secretly was craving birthday cake at the moment and would love to have some.

Later I walked the girls around the neighborhood, and Danny, my neighbor, came over and told me it was his birthday and they were having a party. Would I like some birthday cake?

Perhaps this is a story of the shelf life of cake and when to throw it out, or  instant validation that I am being taken care of and can trust that, even when I feel that this world is ignoring me and what I need.

Day four. Things shift in my head. I am reminded of all the times outside world looked really bad but was asked by guidance and intuition to trust in the good. I am shown, again, how I am led and taken care of, but still I wonder, why then, was bad things allowed to happen in my life? Where people acting badly were allowed to stay ignorant? What about that? I am in a battle in my head and it’s scary. Which side will win?

Day five. Meltdown. The healing crisis. My loved-one is going through a recurring theme lesson which I relate to.  Finally, the floodgates open with a good cry. It’s a bigger lesson here for me. A huge insight comes through: that throughout my lifetime, when bad things happened or went wrong I was too quick as an empath to jump in and take the fault–think it was something wrong with me. What I saw in my life was often others allowing me to do so or “passing the buck” when they screwed up.

When I was born, I came in with a messed-up stomach. My parents couldn’t fix it and the doctors said I’d just outgrow it. Not a great deal was done for me as I was usually in continuous discomfort. I think in that moment I felt I couldn’t trust “out there.” They let me down. I was allowed to suffer.  That was too hard as a child to face, so I coped by taking it on–it was my fault in some way. I was defective. That’s what kids often believe and do. Making it your fault you can do something about it, or perhaps, create order where the outside order makes no sense or isn’t fair.

My parents and the doctors may have thrown it on me in frustration, and they did care about what I needed, but it was just their ignorance–not knowing other answers or solutions at that time.

I’ve been working through this one issue, henceforth the repeat lessons:

I think about the time Sarah had her inner ear problem and the vet said she had a major neurological issue which would need thousands of dollars of tests and would get much worse. She told me not to feel bad if I had to put her to sleep!  She threw Predisone at her which made her wired and sick. My friend, Cheryl, a naturopathic doctor brought new solutions. She gave Sarah homeopathy and bowen work and although Sarah tilts a little to the right, she does fabulous now. I trusted my intuition and my guidance, and communications from Sarah, that said she’d be fine even though the picture the vet game me differed. I looked for a different answer.

What is harder to heal and what made it hard for me to trust is the last few years when a system created to support families screwed up over and over and wanted to throw it on the family. Cries were not heard. Mistake after mistake. Cover up after cover up of their mistakes. Once again, we were allowed to suffer, and things went horribly wrong. That’s the system here. I will not this time take on the blame. The bottom line is, they are ignorant. They don’t know other answers, like the doctors and the vet, and sadly, they aren’t willing to find them.

So, I am being ignorant when I don’t see there are other answers outside the box and I simply accept “reality.” That’s what I do when I don’t trust Spirit or my guidance and I don’t even fathom there are other solutions that Spirit can create that I don’t know about yet.

I need to grieve those times I was let down and trusted as a small child and as an adult. I’ve being shown this is the block that is in the way of me believing again. The flower has done her job as I shift slowly into more a place of balance by having new answers and then new understanding.

I am still a “show me and prove it” kind of person. The flower can’t change that. I don’t blindly believe. I need to see and hear validation, so that is how Spirit will work with me…for now, until I automatically trust and always look for new answers.

I share this with you because many are going through a greater issue of trust as the world changes and purges all around us, and each of us has our own reasons or experiences that block why we trust in the good. I also wanted to demonstrate how the flower essences work with us to heal. This beautiful flower, a piece of Nature, assisted me in finding out where this issue came from in me. Boy, I really love flower essences! (Okay, my Guides helped too. 🙂 )

Find new answers, Dear one, that this world can’t give you.

Fairy blessings,


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White Pansy is available on my Flower Essences for the Sensitive page for purchase, if you feel guided for help in trusting at this time. I am also here to act as translator for your Guides’ assistance.

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I’m not that kind of psychic

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On Facebook, once, I got in big trouble when I said if I was THAT type of psychic–able to tell the future– I’d play the lottery to win. The woman, being very virtuous, said, “Oh no, you shouldn’t use your gifts for that.”

It was funny at the time. But this incident did bring up an interesting question. There are psychics that predict things. They can “see” if you are going to have children, or move, or jump up and down sideways in the next five minutes. These predictions, of course, can change with your choices. You could go right instead of left.

I am not one of those kinds of psychics. And yes, I’d probably play the numbers. If I had a ton of money, I could really help and reach out to a great deal of people.

My gifts lie in talking to Spirit. I cheat a little. Your Guides come in and tell me what you need to know, or if one career would be better, or what you are working on. They whisper in my ear. That’s how I know so much. The same for the animals. If they don’t tell me, I don’t know. I could empathically feel what feels right or wrong, what your soul wants, but even that is psychic information I’m picking up. I have no idea how the psychics that do predictions to what they do. It’s just a different gift. And to be quite honest, only in the last few years do I call myself a psychic. I’m not comfortable with that title. I just am what I am and what I can do that I think many can.

And yes, like everyone else, I get pissed off at my Guides when they won’t tell me what is going to happen. They only know probabilities, or your big picture blueprint, and they’ve been pretty cool lately letting me know, at least, that things would be okay or work out vs. being a disaster.

We all want to know timing. When will this happen? I wrote  a funny blog post on this topic. It never seems to be exact unless of course, it was from my reincarnated dog who came back in March and said March. She was quite accurate.

If you are a fellow empath or medium, that’s how you get your psychic information. It’s passed along. The empath part–you can go in deep and read what’s there or felt. I’ve done this with medical issues in animals, but I think it’s more info from the animals telling me and their Guides.

What kind of psychic ability do you have?

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Spirit and Angel Hugs

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Yesterday I was feeling sad and reflecting on a problem I had, and I felt a presence to the right of me say, “It will be okay. It will work out.” I then felt a spirit hug: yummy chills up and down my body. I love that!

Because I like to teach and share my experiences, I did what every detective and scientist would do. I analyzed what happened.

Was the voice inside my head like my own thought or outside my head? No, I’m not schizophrenic and hear voices, so it did come into my head like when I experience telepathy with the animals. It was more a foreign thought then my own. I was feeling sad and working on my site before this visit message, and that is where my focus was. I wasn’t thinking positively.

I experimented later on–forcing a thought to come through. It was like mind constipation. It sure didn’t flow. I also noticed that my head went quiet and I felt alone in the room vs. when I heard the message.

In my classes, I often have students practice the “rubber ball” technique. Students are divided into teams of two and practice sending with their minds different images of different colors, like a rubber ball. Students do a terrible job when they are trying so hard. No one receives any correct images. And forcing to send an image so forcefully creates so much psychic static no one can hear.

Spirit or Angel? I’d have to say Spirit. Spirit guides and friends are those who have passed and we have loved. Angel messages, for me, feel more behind me, feel large and encompassing. Spirits feel like they are in the room with me and communicate through telepathy or thoughts. I can feel if they are feminine or masculine. If I had tuned in more and asked, the spirit may have told me who they were, but it was a quick visit.

Your Spirit Guides can serve as guardian angels. I know mine do.

Have you had a spirit or angel hug during a visit?