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Psychic Tip for the Week: Dead Relatives Aren’t Always Wise

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I haven’t written in so long in here! I’m a little rusty. Last thing I wrote was a long-winded thesis paper for Graduate School. I’ve given the site a little pick-me-up and upgrade to match the new energy. I hope you like it. Each week or so I would love to share a little tip I learned along the intuitive way. The past few years living through Covid World I had to rely on my intuitive abilities to the max, like most of us. My family went through a major mental health crisis that I needed to feel my support and spiritual grounding underneath me. One of the biggest lessons I learned is which voices to trust.

Years and years ago I approached my therapist and worried about what many psychic folks worry about when they are coming into their abilities, Was I going crazy? Was I struggling with a mental illness? Did I just eat too many Twinkies and Kool-Aid in the sixties growing up and now it was hitting my mental capacities? She reassured me that I probably did eat way too many Twinkies but I was going to be just fine mentally and I was different than most. I could hear and see spirits. Oddly enough, I worried about the same thing when I went to the eye doctor a few years ago after I was seeing things, this time, new things. She checked out my eyes, gave a thorough exam and then told me some special people have the ability to see. Fast forward to years later, the present, and I have learned from many experiences and many clients later with much validation of details I would have not known otherwise, I have accepted my ability that I’ve had since I was very young. Along side that ability I needed to learn Discernment.

Just because you can hear/see/pick up messages, doesn’t mean what you are hearing is the gospel. Through the tough times in the last few years I had many spirits coming to visit. Some helpful, some intrusive. And here’s some things I learned to share:

  • If it sounds OFF, it usually is. I had an odd rash and I heard a spirit come in that said it was Purpora. At least that is what I thought it sounded like! After googling like crazy, turns out that wasn’t it at all and put me in a tailspin for several days. A trip to the dermatologist confirmed I was going to live and didn’t have that disease. So…
  • If the message puts you in FEAR, it is definitely not guidance. It could be a passing by Spirit you picked up at the metaphysical store and went home with you, or a well-meaning dead Grandma who didn’t always give you good advice. Which leads me to…
  • Just because your relative is dead and you loved them, does not mean they are all-knowing and have great advice for you. This is a big one! Spirits have the same personalities as when they were alive, and yes, they do progress and learn like we do, but they will often give the kind of advice they would give before death. I would often take my dead relative’s advice as THE TRUTH and thought they knew all the goings-on in my life, seen from a Higher perspective, but they are not that tapped in as I would think. It’s probably a better idea to tap into or talk to your Higher Self (your soul) or Guardian Angels who have the big picture of your situation.
  • Trust your gut. You know what is best for you. I had many readings from fellow intuitives that were very, very off. (Some were very spot-on, I don’t want to disregard those and those are the ones I will go to for extra help.) A reader/intuitive can often read the situation you are in and the surface or even what is happening right there in the moment. For instance, if I was having a bad day and in that moment felt like everyone is out to get me because everything isn’t going right, a reader could pick up on my energy and say, “That woman is very paranoid and negative.” Well, yeah, that day most definitely! See what I mean? You need what is the core or truth of situations on the whole.
  • And be aware of a reader that only reads your Fear. It’s very possible to read you and your emotions, if it’s very strong emotions. Those strong emotions can block out other guidance and create a false reading that has you running around in circles crazy! When I was in crisis, I had a reader tell me someone in my family was going to get pregnant very soon. Dear goodness! Well it wasn’t me, my boat had sailed, if you know what I mean. But my beautiful step-daughter was big time in love with her boyfriend and I was terrified it was her, and it probably dominated my thoughts in that moment.

Remember your discernment and know where the messages are coming from and always check in with your own knowing, your own gut. Have a wonderful weekend.

If you need an animal reading or help for your sensitivity, check out my Readings page. Until next time,

Ronni

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Guest Blogger: David Wagenfeld of Innieblog

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I welcome my friend, David Wagenfeld, as my guest blogger this week. David is a fellow sensitive who has a perceptive comic series blog, Innie Blog. In this article, he writes about identifying the true voice of your intuition.

What is intuition?

You know the feeling. You have a big decision to make and you don’t know what to do. You could go this way or you could go that way, you just can’t choose. And then you feel that feeling deep in your belly, that subtle calm voice in your head urging you in a direction. That is your intuition. That is Spirit guiding you, showing you the path that will lead you to your highest good. And all you have to do is trust it.

Yeah, I know what you’re thinking, “Gee Dave, a lot easier said than done.” When actually, it is one of the easiest things that you can do. Let me give you an example.

It was during the last week in December of 2009, and I was really frustrated because I felt like I had no direction and that I had just been meandering around all year. I really wanted to know what my direction was. I was thinking about it before bed and right when I was in that place between being awake and asleep, I had this flash in my mind that I was to help people use art to access their spiritual sides. And bang I fell asleep. I woke up a couple of hours later and what had flashed through my mind was still there. And I thought, “Well, great, but how am I supposed to do that?” And again when I was between being awake and asleep the word “Artella” flashed in my head, and BANG, I was asleep. The next morning I Googled the word Artella, found the site, (http://www.artellaland.com ) and then the section about the Artbundance Coach Training and filled out the form a few days later. That was my intuition talking to me telling me the right direction to go. Now, I could have dismissed it as my “imagination” or “just a dream” but I trusted it and it led me to the ACT training, which, in turn opened up a whole bounty of benefits, personal growth, and connections, which have enriched my life in ways I never could have thought possible.

Yeah, I hear you, “Well gee Dave, I don’t have things flashing in my mind right before I fall asleep. How do I know what is my intuition?” It’s very simple; it’s a feeling. A calm, quiet feeling; a feeling that excites and charges you up. It’s a a feeling that you just know in the deepest part of your belly is right. THAT is your intuition. And when you feel that feeling, know that you can trust it, and that any of the negative nattering and chattering that may come up is nothing but lies. Trust that feeling, trust your intuition and let it guide you to your highest good.

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If you have an article or essay relating to being sensitive or intuitive, I’d love to hear from you. Maybe you can be a guest blogger. Email me. 

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Our souls whisper to us through stories. (Class starts March 21st)

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10 Things on the Internet That Send Me Backwards

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It’s not that I’m too sensitive, I just have an excellent radar of what gives me energy and what takes it away. The problem is I need to listen to that radar as the built-in gift that it is!

My Radar showed me this week the 10 things that send me backwards into a radio dial of YUCK vs. YAY while on the Internet.

  1. Reading Local News. Here in Yavapai County we have the most BEEP’ed-up and corrupt system. It’s like the local agencies and judicial system are all high on crack making decisions, and spend most of their time trying to cover up how much they screw up. It’s soooo disillusioning and brings up feelings of hopelessness.
  2. High School news. I will say it if no one else does–why do I want to hear about folks who I went to high school with so many years later? Didn’t I escape being an insecure, clumsy teenager with superficial silliness? Does it even matter anymore? And the high school friends I want to be in touch with, I am already in touch with. Ugh. There’s also the “how is my life now?” thing that happens in your head. I think it’s called midlife crisis. Another Ugh that spirals down.
  3. Politics.The politicians right now are all playing mean head games and no one is honest and upfront. It’s an empath’s nightmare.
  4. Celebrity deaths. So, so sad. What a waste. Such heartbreak.
  5. Spam. I don’t want to grow my manhood two inches or pick up hot dates. If I get one more “Adriana wants to talk to you”, I will scream! Spammers, do me a favor. At least be better marketers. When you send these things out, find out if you are sending to a man or woman at least.
  6. Angelina Jolie news. I really don’t care Angelina is now engaged to Brad Pitt. Let’s face it. Beyond the personas, you know you pick up that they are pretty screwed up underneath. Besides, I don’t have a relationship with these people. They aren’t my people.
  7. The internet’s use of women as parts. I see that kind of stuff and I feel like my power is being stripped away from me until all that is left of me is how big my boobs are or how thin I am.
  8. High School. I know I said that one, but I think it really pushes a button. Because I’m feeling Yucky again. How many years ago was that for cripe’s sake?
  9. Photos of Abused Dogs. I know you want to arrange awareness for what happened to a poor, abused dog, but I’m visual. This image won’t leave me for days. Plus, I’m empathic and can pick up the dog’s pain. It’s like I’m getting abused seeing these photos. That doesn’t help your cause or the dog.
  10. Spiritual Quotes that don’t really say anything. I like my guidance to assist me or give me tools or a new awareness. Crap like, “Just be love,” doesn’t work for me. It’s just floaty and airy, and I think you are probably smoking something good vs. being enlightened.

Okay, now that you are annoyed and bothered with me, let’s go for the opposite.

The Antidote

  1. Real Support. I’ve really loved and enjoyed all the beautiful, inspiring and loving people I’ve met on Facebook and through my website. Where did you come from? Where were you most of my life? I am so grateful for your inner beauty and how much you have gifted me. Such lovely community!
  2. Photos of dogs doing cute things. I especially love stories about dogs who are heros and make a difference in their people’s lives. My heart just sings when I see these things.
  3. The right words. Don’t you just love when someone posts something that you so needed to hear that day? It’s pure guidance channeled through them.
  4. Good news. I love to hear good news about my friends and how life is being hopeful and positive for them. That helps me feel more hopeful for my own life.
  5. Authenticity. I would much rather hear someone being real, like saying, they feel like crap or are sad. Or they are frustrated because this manifesting thing isn’t working! I hate the false positive stuff.
  6. Inspiration. As an artist, I can be fed a simple picture and be inspired to make a slew of things. Watching one episode of Project Runway on Netflix has me redesigning my clothes and dressing the dog.
  7. Information that really helps. A lively discussion can lead me to the right supplement to give to Sarah, or whatever else I’m researching in the moment.
  8. Fairy anything. Like duh. Of course I’d like this. Show me a fairy house or a beautiful flower and I’m fed.
  9. Sometimes I like the Astrology or God Wants You to Know statuses, when they are spot on. Then they fall into the category of #3.
  10. Humor. Boy, I love how easily humor can lift my mood so quickly. I then take life so less seriously. One really good episode of Saturday Night Live on Hulu and I’m practically peeing in my pants.
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Are you a popper-outer?

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As a sensitive, do you have the habit of popping out? I mean, do you find yourself leaving your body a great deal when either under attack or on overwhelm? Many of us developed this “skill” as child empaths either from an abuse situation, or in my case, from having an illness. As a child, to avoid feeling pain, I’d often find myself “sitting on the ceiling” looking down. I do believe today, this trick allows me to communicate with spirit so easily, or even talk to animals that are halfway across the world. But how do you control this gift? It’s not conducive to many conversations if one moment you are there and the next you are blurry-eyed and vacant, right? (Although with some threatening or clueless people, they don’t even notice you leave.)

I look to Tool #38 from Help! I’m Sensitive.

Problem 38: Leaving your body

Sensitive tool: Grounding

Lisa Campion has a great article on her blog about grounding and shielding for Empaths. She says that empaths, when overloaded, leave their bodies. I can attest to that!

During a period of time, whenever I felt emotionally attacked I’d find myself seeing a symbol and leaving my body to some astral place. From some detective work, I realized that this was a skill I learned in childhood when I had bad stomach problems and I didn’t want to be in my body in pain. So, I’d find myself sitting next to the ceiling looking down.

This skill helps me in my work locate a lost animal or talk to someone who has passed, but doesn’t need to be there in my everyday life. The tool needed here is grounding. I am stronger when I stand tall and firm in my space. Once I felt less vulnerable and stronger and was able to speak my feelings, I left less and less.

Feeling your legs and reaffirming that you are safe is the tool to use here. Carry a tourmaline rock in your pocket. Its healing qualities will pull you right back in and keep you on the earth.

It’s also important to notice, where and with whom you feel this urge to leave. Why are you feeling unsafe? Can you speak your mind or your fears to that person? Perhaps, empathically you are registering that this person is unsafe for you. Honor this as best you can, limit your exposure, and then always make sure there is extra protections for you put in place whenever you have to deal with this person.

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Book Review: Paranormal

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Paranormal: My Life in Pursuit of the Afterlife by Raymond Moody, MD, and Paul Perry (HarperOne, 2012)

I was asked by TLC Book Tours to review this book in my blog. Since I love anything on the subject of the paranormal, and have read Dr. Moody’s previous book, Life After Life, I jumped at the chance.

The book’s title is misleading as it is more about Dr. Moody’s life-long pursuit of proving that the near-death experience is a normal happening in the human existence vs. “paranormal.”

This is a memoir that begins with him explaining his fascination with the subject after being told of an uncle’s childhood dog that appeared to come back to life after being hit by truck, but later reappeared in the flesh.

His was a loving, close-knit family that encouraged his curiosity but was later disrupted when his father reappeared after being sent away to war. It’s his father’s reappearance that started his fight between his father’s world, with a surgeon’s mind of only logic and facts, vs. the exploration of the unseen and seemingly impossible.

Another important key in his quest was the loss of his beloved, nurturing grandfather, who later has a stroke and was unable to fully communicate or support his grandson as he once did.

How I differ in many of the reviewers on this tour, is I, like many of my blog readers, have a deep knowing that there is an afterlife. I don’t need to be convinced. I’ve had multiple visits from “spirits” throughout my life starting when I was very young, and the seemingly impossible is my norm, with each day and each exploration opening up the doorway of perception to what is real. I didn’t read this book as a skeptic, because I have this ability. So, instead, I read his life tale cheerleading him on that he indeed would find lots of proof of the afterlife he could document and share with the rest of the world, and he does, through his many scientific experiments.

His beginning experiments were met with enthusiasm, but the more he advanced in his career he ventured into more riskier or more “woo-woo” areas such as crystal-scrying, that led to using mirrors to meet with deceased loved ones, that  much of the medical community, especially his logic-bearing, rigid father concluded he had lost his mind. He had veered too out of the mainstream for them to accept.

Paramount to his struggle throughout his life, and what I thought was ironic, was that the medical community he worked with solely based their conclusions on logic, and not any form of true intuition or perception, therefore, they missed the crucial diagnosis he had of a dangerous thyroid illness that kept him ill most of his life!  But it was this same illness that allowed him to eventually have true, first-hand understanding of his life-long work into the near-death experience.

I enjoyed the book which held my interest. It is a little slow-going at first as I was anxious to jump right into his near-death work, but knowing his early beginnings contributed and helped me understand his overall story better.

Walking away from reading it, I did have the thought that his pursuit for later contact with passed loved ones was on the surface a desire to help those that are grieving, but maybe more of a personal desire to finally heal that personal wound of experiencing many loved ones in childhood who were there in physical body but unattainable/untouchable in spirit.

Thank you to Trish for allowing me to review this book. To continue on in the book tour and read what others have reviewed go to the master schedule here.

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Flower Essences for Fear

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The energies lately have been intense and bizarre. I’ve been doing a great deal of releasing of old stuff lately as different buttons have been pushed and poked at. Releasing is never really fun or pretty, but very necessary. With releasing usually comes FEAR. It’s one of those big emotions that blanket all the other ones we’ve kept inside. I’ve been guided back to Nature for support and help. Here’s some really good flower essences that help ease fear. Those with stars next to them are offered in my online shop on this website.

  1. One of my favorite essences is Bach Remedies’ Aspen. It’s perfect for free-flowing anxiety, psychic contamination (when you are empathically picking up others’ fears.) A few drops under the tongue is all that is needed. This essence can be repeated often until you feel calm again. Bach Remedies can be found in most health food stores.
  2. Fear of moving forward? Gilia* is a cool purple flower that is great for that. Take it with Squash* (the balls essence) and you will be forging ahead in spite of any fear.
  3. Fear for loved ones and their paths? Take Bach Remedies’ Red Chestnut. It’s for the worrier.
  4. Panic? That kind of fear? Take Rock Rose or Rescue Remedy, both Bach Remedies. If I fly, which I hardly ever do, I take the Rescue Remedy. I took this one when I recently made it to the dentist. Oooh, scary.

Enjoy the support of Nature! When I am lost in fears, one of the best thing I can do is head out to Nature to re-balance and to feel more grounded. When I am grounded, or calm, I can then see and think straight and can see what fears are legitimate, and which ones are just old stuff coming to the surface.

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Technical difficulties and Being Psychic

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Last week was very electric and I had a weird dream about why.

In my dream, I had a new skill. I could move things with my mind when I was very upset or emotional. Waking up, half delirious, I squinted my forehead and focused hard on a book on my side table. Could I move it? Nope, it didn’t budge. I figured either I was looney or I wasn’t upset enough.

I wasn’t sure what this dream meant and put it in the back of my mind with the rest of the mysteries I can’t solve.

Then my “things” all acted out at once.

My car, which was just fine, decide to have transmission complaints. It is an older model, so that made some sense.

I had an argument with my one friend and came home to bulbs blowing out at once, and all my photos on my cell phone disappeared mysteriously.

This had happened before. Back in June, after hearing really bad news, that same day my trusty computer’s hard drive died on me. Just like that, it refuse to turn on.

Logical mind says, Well, the computer was older, the bulbs needed changing, the car needs new parts. That is true. But the timing is so interesting.

Each time these things happened, I was very upset.

I’ve noticed before, that friends can’t hear me on the cell phone when I get too emotional. My voice goes in and out or there’s static.

When I did calm down from having that argument with my friend and found some peace, all my cell phone pics came back. They were just there.

Look, if we are all energy, we can affect other energy including appliances. Look at poltergeist activity or “ghosts” trying to move objects so we notice them.We read each other’s energy, are affected by their energy from far away.

Perhaps, just like my body will reflect what I am feeling and what is happening in my life (I am very somatic), maybe my things are just doing the same.

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A Book to Avoid that got me going

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As I hung out in the waiting area of the third auto mechanic I had visited for my car issues, (story comes later), I happened upon a delightful read that I know will appeal to all of my readers, students and clients. This is THE book to read if you want to put your head in the sand, hide under the bed and pretend that only organized religion can heal all your woes. Don’t go to a therapist if you have any mental illness or issues, definitely don’t use any kind of alternative medicine in any way to heal yourself, and don’t think positively or think your thoughts create your experience in any way. No, it’s best to grab this book, get under that bed, surround yourself with guard dogs and firearms and live in the 1950s all over again.

The book is THE SEDUCTION OF CHRISTIANITY.

The back of the book reads, and I kid you not, “What are the dangers of the growing acceptance and practice of:

  • positive and possibility thinking
  • healing of memories
  • self help philosophies
  • holistic medicine”

I have images in my head of when electricity was invented. Did folks run in fear and claim it was from the devil? Did some still cling to the candle?

THIS is dangerous stuff and goes against everything I believe God is all about. This book got me going and upset for hours just flipping through it! What if you are mentally ill and need help? Of course we need to heal our memories. Better to walk around in trauma and pain? For me, God IS knowledge coming through to help me. That’s what is so beautiful.

I guess many of us are finally awakening and some of us prefer to just go back to sleep.

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If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t right for you

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I just learned an important lesson. And which is usually the case, I of course need to turn around and share, because that’s what I do.

As a intuitive empath, my psychic sense is rooted in my feelings. When I don’t trust those feelings, I run into trouble. Often, my spidey sense might not make sense at the time, might not even seem logical, but I find out later, those empath hits are spot on.

It was a silly thing really. I was rushing around buying dog food at my nearby feed store. I wanted to buy a small bag of the specialty dog food for Emma Lou I now have her on. The grain-free dog foods have been amazing for both girls’ health and wellness. I was a little miffed when I saw that the space on the shelf for the smaller bags was empty, so I asked the salesman at the counter if they had anymore. He explained I was better off getting the bigger bag financially and a whole bunch of other reasons, and I started the procedure to buy the bigger bag. I could feel my inner nasty fairy in a fit. I wanted the smaller bag. What was in my one bank account was enough, I knew, for the small bag. I had money coming over from my other account in a transfer but I wasn’t sure if it was in there yet. I felt actual resentment I was buying this big bag of dog food against what I wanted to buy.

Long story short, the big bag of dog food caused my overdraft to go into effect because the transfer did not come in time and that $33 bag cost me $68.00. I caught the intuitive feeling as I was walking away and went back to the store and returned the big bag for the little bag and the bank, later on, gratefully, was able to work with me clearing the fees. (this rarely happens with most banks.)

Lesson learned? Definitely a lesson in creating boundaries. I needed not to give in to the salesman and stand my ground. Two, don’t do overdraft protection with your bank cards. You are literally playing beat the clock with a computer who doesn’t care. Thirdly, I felt what wasn’t right for me and I needed to trust that inner intuition, which was basically telling me there would be a problem if I bought the bigger bag. This is good to know when anyone asks me to do anything. Does it feel right to me? Ignore logic or anything else in that moment, if it doesn’t feel right, and worse, you are feeling resentment, it isn’t right for you. No explanations are needed.