Each year on my blog I try to write my year-end “what I learned list.” It’s a creative wrap-up, I guess, since I see birthdays as the beginning of a new year. 2014 was the year of breaking out of my tightly-knit cocoon and joining the world again. There were many losses–a nod to Bun-Bun and Speedy–and loss of some friends and connections, so there was sadness, but there was also many joys.
1. It’s okay to trust and reveal your heart, but be mindful who you share it with. Not everyone is up for that precious responsibility. Flattery and lovely words mean nothing, if you aren’t willing to be there when it really matters.
2. True friends will remind you who you are when you forget. 😉
3. Sometimes it really isn’t about you. In fact, most the time it’s other people’s stuff. We see each other through our own lenses and wounds.
4. Stay open. The world may be harsh nowadays, but it needs feeling people with open hearts.
5. Don’t stay in situations where you have to keep trying to be seen. Giving more doesn’t solve the problem. Giving where it is unappreciated really sucks and you will question the worth of what you are giving.
6. Good boundaries. 2014 was all about creating better, stronger boundaries.
7. If you eat too many Rice Thins, you will get wired.
8. If life gets too hard, there is always the Forest to run to.
9. You can’t walk in another’s path. It won’t work. You will be pleasing another, but you will be miserable.
10. You don’t have to do it all alone. Ask for help. And if you ask for help and you are shamed for asking, slowly walk away from that source.
11. Some very lucid dreams are real. Yup, we can connect to some in dreams. Even wilder when you are both aware of this, on some level, and the dreams are pretty exciting.
12. Alone time is crucial. Sensitive folks need time to process our experiences.
13. Sharing on Instagram is quite fun; a little like artist’s crack.
14. Dogs rock. Seriously. They are so cool on so many levels.
15. Always pursue your dreams. They are planted there for a reason.
16. Even though you know souls live on and you feel them, you still miss them like crazy and it hurts.
17. I am over-responsible and over-cautious because I am not always sure God has my back, and when Speedy crossed over, it brought that up.
18. Telepathy with each other is increasing…greatly.
19. The most sensual place in the world is the Forest. It is filled with sounds, feelings, and sights that feed you. If you are a sensual person, you will really benefit going there.
20. I can finally get rid of the “not enoughs.” It’s total bull shit. 🙂
What’s on your list? Did you learn a lot? Relate to any of these? Hopefully, the big one, #20.
Fairy Blessings,
The message I learned in dream school last night with my Guides, is to not take on others’ problems. That’s their life lessons and their earth school. You wouldn’t complete someone else’s math class in high school, would you? You’d offer tutoring and help, but not do the work for them. This lesson can be so hard for Empaths. We feel all the stuff going on around us so strongly, especially now with the energies going up a notch or two. But it’s important that when you react to someone else, to take a second to identify if it’s just someone else’s stuff. Protect yourself. Stand your ground. Speak your truth. Walk away from it. Too many times in my life I allowed someone else’s stuff to affect me and I allowed it to trigger me when I took it personally. Sure, keep looking at your own stuff. That’s what we are here to do. But sometimes it IS about someone else. Don’t star in their movies! (That was the message I got. And a good one at that).
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After some very traumatic yet fascinating experiences–I am learning so much–my goal is to regain joy. Not always an easy thing to do when you’ve been bathed in fear and grief. But somewhere underneath the weeds is the flower!
Emma Lou, our reincarnated basset hound, represents joy to me. She can’t wait to wake up in the morning and play with her toy basket, knock over each toy, explore shoes, and chase her sister around. After being in pain for the past week, I, on the otherhand, have dreaded mornings, but Emma is teaching me otherwise. You would think her day would be boring, but she is the epitomy of simplicity. And it is the simple things that give her the most joy. She loves the sun on her belly, a piece of string gives her moments of fun (I’d say hours but we are talking puppy here), and whenever she sees one of her sisters, she eggs them on to play. We had this “skill”as children, I am sure. How did many of us lose this?
When I was writing and compiling my book, The Fairy Field Guide, the Fairies and Nature Spirits had a continuous message–to bring in joy. Joy was the key to abundance, to happiness, to health. My greatest challenge has been holding on to joy in the midst of deep sadness, disappointment and even, loss of hope. I am finding that my essential nature and soul IS joyous–it’s my natural state, so I am like one big rubber band–always bouncing back to finding that joyful place.
I watched an Academy Award-winning movie on DVD yesterday, Cold Mountain. What the characters endured was the complete opposite of joy, and yet by the end of the movie, they are seen enjoying life and its bounty full-heartedly. I was amazed. After everything they had experienced, wouldn’t you have been broken, shut down from life? Perhaps by feeling the worst of this world they had a greater appreciation for what is joyful and bright. Perhaps they held onto the tiny bit of joy that was hidden in the dark? As an empath and a sensitive, it is all too easy to get lost in the dark and what I feel around me. Maybe the solution is to pull out that joy and that light–the flower– that is hidden in the dark.
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