Tag: Being Sensitive

after death communication · empaths · ghosts · spiritual lessons

Watch what you watch

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After a very cool art show that I was a part of, I came home exhausted, and instead of relaxing and unloading, I did the opposite of self-care. I watched Paranormal State.

Ordinarily, I like that show and it’s good entertainment. But, I was pretty open and excited from the effects of the day that included leftover nerves, and being exposed to a lot of people’s energies. My best defense should have been to relax and clear out. But, no, being an excitement-seeking sensitive, I grabbed for more stimulation.

As I mentioned, I like that show. I love when Chip Coffey comes in and gives his mediumship hits. I love how the gang comes in to investigates and help the family in need. What I’m not thrilled about is when Lorraine Warren comes in and labels every haunting a demon. I’d love to label every bad feeling or impulse I’ve ever had as a demon. Then I could simply exorcise myself. How cool would that be? Most of the shows I watched in the series were not demons–in my opinion–but people’s well-developed fears that become thought-forms, or in the case I watched, someone’s mental illness. There’s also a great deal of creating fear. Many hauntings are just people–dead people–behaving badly, who need serious boundaries.

I think years ago, people were burning witches for psychic ability, and casting out demons from folks who had mental illness. Haven’t we evolved a little more than that? Than our own fears? I guess as a teacher, my biggest frustration is lack of educated people. How quick many are to go into ignorance than find wisdom.

Watching that show and being an open empath, stirred up my own fears, and gave me nightmares. Much of the fear was from the folks I watching on tv!

There were lots of lessons learned there. A reminder as an empath I need to give myself special self care. With gifts come taking care of those gifts. I need to be careful about what I take in and that includes what shows I watch. Watching someone else’s fear means I will be picking up on fear. Isn’t it better choice to surround myself with wisdom instead?

after death communication · ghosts · supernatural

Signs You’ve Been Visited By a Ghost

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In honor of Halloween, I share the signs I’ve noticed when a ghost or spirit is visiting, in case this holiday you may have a visit of your own.

  1. Your smoke detector goes off. The other day I was talking out loud to my departed mom hoping for a response. Next thing that happened was my smoke detector started to beep and then wheeze. Ordinarily I would think this was a symptom of a dying battery, but my psychic spot on my head ached at the same time. Our loved ones can manipulate things in the environment especially electrical or mechanical devices. Years ago, my Mom visited and a music box she had given my husband–a cute fire engine whose ladder would go up and down–began playing with no assistance. Oh, and the detector never made another sound after that.
  2. Your head hurts. As I previously mentioned, if you are psychically in-tuned, you may have a part of your body that announces the presence of a ghost or other-world-ly. Some folks get chills, others stomach flip-flops, my head will ache. My head will ache a lot if a spirit really wants my attention. I have a different head ache if a spirit is around that is negative. This is a good warning for me. The ache will also be present with the stomach flip-flop.
  3. The dog acts weird. There’s been some nights where this place has been Grand Central Station with ghost visits. Emma Lou seems to flow with whatever is occurring, but Sarah, my little sensitive, will pace the hallways, agitated.
  4. Intrusive, recurring thoughts. This could be your own OCD, or you have an intruder bothering you. If the thoughts seems foreign to you or separate, or even a negative running commentary, simply ask your new friend to take a walk. Sometimes, I have a need for cigarette. In the empath world, I am either picking up on my bff Wendy, or it’s one of my smoker departed loved ones. (I must mention, I don’t smoke at all).
  5. Seeing shadows. Not too long ago in this blog, I wrote about my aunt visiting. This was the second time I witnessed a shadow in front of me. The first was seen in a local seance when a healing ghost stood in front of me and blocked out the candle behind her.
  6. You hear them. If you are clairaudient (clear hearing), you may hear with your inner ear the ghost’s voice. (see #4). This is a great way to ask the spirit what message he/she has for you or to find out who is visiting and why.

Ghosts are just people in their spirit suits

If you have a spirit visiting, if it feels like friend or foe, remember, you are in charge. Ghosts are just people in their spirit suits. You wouldn’t let anyone barge through your front door. Create boundaries. Let them know what is okay or not okay. When my aunt visited and scared the socks off of me, I made it very clear that visits were nice, but not hovering over my bed at night. Seriously creepy.

In an amateur ghost investigation that I took part of, one of the investigators was psychically very open. Spirits love this. The ghost was holding her arm and not letting go. This wasn’t some evil entity trying to harm her, but someone very anxious to be known. BUT, this was scaring her and not very nice social behavior. In a situation like that, it’s perfectly necessary and acceptable to tell the ghost to back off and that it was not okay to do that. If some creepy guy wanted my attention at a party and grabbed my arm, you know I’d make my objection known.

Happy ghost visits.

————————————————————————–To read more posts visit my new website’s Sensitive Artist blog here.

after death communication · Animal Communication · empaths · Guardian Angels · Intuition · new thinking · sensitivity · spiritual lessons · spirituality

What happened to your header? Or a story about ruby slippers and marketing

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The Lesson of the Ruby Slippers

If you are regular reader to Ronni’s Psychic Room, you may have noticed many changes in the last few months to my site. No, your eyes aren’t going loopy, you are simply experiencing the effects of a right-brain person trying to do left-brain marketing. (Noticable in the many changes to my blog header).

I’ve been trying to define myself and what I do for marketing purposes, but the more I tried to, the farther I got away from myself and home. The experience has been ultimately, more of the lesson of the ruby slippers. Remember dear Dorothy on a quest?

In my attempts to define and brand myself, for months I labeled myself one who helps the sensitive. Hmmm. I do! I love to teach tools on what has helped me as an empath to survive. But then, I did a few animal communication readings. Need to add that now. Then I did a few mediumship readings. Now what? Enter a marketing coach who said I am more of a psychic communication teacher. But I really like to write about spiritual lessons I’ve learned! More boxes around me. I’ve never liked boxes and I felt more and more limited. Afterall, what I do encompasses much more than that title and obviously, I did different kinds of psychic readings and I love to write about what I’ve learned.

When I had my Fairy Online School only, I was the fairy girl. Folks assumed I only talked to fairies. Another box. No, talking to fairies was PART of what I do as a teacher and an intuitive.

The more I went by marketing models, the more confused I got, and more boxed in I felt. I had to fit into a niche, right? Squeeze into a tight box. Conform to where I was pulled to. It got to the point where someone would ask me what I do and I just mumbled to myself! Now that’s bad marketing.

Then there’s the art and writing thing. So, I’m an artist too, but I thought, when I create my art with words, that’s usually what I’ve learned as an intuitive that I want to share through my art.

The fog finally cleared the other day with lots of help from invisible and visible friends. I found myself saying out loud what and who I am: I’m essentially a teacher. I love teaching what I’ve learned from my work as an intuitive and working with my spiritual companions and animals, whether it was the extensive work I did with the Fairies on healing with Nature, talking to my Guides/Angels about what would help me as an empath, or having more insight on my childhood from my departed Mom, or learning from Emma Lou, my basset hound, teaching me about joy. And, I like to teach others how to do this too. All this I do through writing an online lesson, an article or blog post, giving a workshop, making a Comfort Card, or helping someone one-on-one in a reading.

Marketing doesn’t have to be difficult. It’s really simple. No molding. No trying to be for the market. I had my ruby slippers on all along and had the answer, and therefore, could find my way back home. I just had to be me and find that common thread of what it is I offer and love to do.

So, if you want to learn how to communicate to your spiritual world or need help doing so, or want to learn from what I’ve experienced that might help you or your animals, you’ve come to the right place. Welcome to my tribe.

And if you are a holistic healer or an intuitive offering services, or someone who simply does several things, what is your common thread throughout all that you love to do? That’s your definition or ruby slippers–the way back to you.

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Empath on tv

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How very cool…renting on Netflix Season 5 of Ghost Whisperer. Melinda’s son is an empath! His abilities are a bit exaggerated for television but kinda right on. “He can share other people’s feelings.” And how very cool that I was guided to rent the show.

empaths · sensitivity · spiritual lessons

I’m sensitive to stuff

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As a sensitive, I am sensitive to many things. It’s not that I’m a little delicate flower who can’t survive in the world, in fact, I’m quite strong. My body is fine-tuned and knows when something toxic shouldn’t be in there. For instance:

  • My body seems to know when added MSG is in my food. My head will hurt, I will feel spacey and a little whoozy. I once had an MSG high for an hour in a chinese restaurant. This is probably a good thing. Why would I want a chemical unknowingly added to my food?
  • Extra perfumes in my makeup or lotions beware! I will rash in protest.
  • Lots of bad stuff in the milk or meat? I’ll be the first to let you know.
  • Someone just clean the store I just walked into with toxic chemicals? On comes the sneezing.

I used to think that there was something wrong with me. But what if there is something wrong with our world? Are we supposed to be all chemically enhanced and just be okay with it? Have we gotten so numb to our environment we don’t even react to what is toxic in it? And this applies to all aspects of our lives.  Becoming more aware and awake is a good thing. Becoming more sensitive, then, is also.

empaths · spiritual lessons

Broken Leg Theory

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Broken Leg Theory

I have a really cool set of spiritual Guides/Angels. They put up with a lot when they signed up for being my Guides. In the past year, I have been irritable and nasty and have screamed at them many times, but their guidance has continued to help me through most of the challenges.
I wanted to know why I had to live through such a traumatic year, as have many of my friends and loved ones. I know all about the theories of life lessons speeding up as we get closer to 2012, so we have a great deal of “stuff” to tackle and get rid of. My Guides, always simple and to the point, but profound, explained to me the Broken Leg theory. If you broke your leg ten years back, and it never really set in place correctly, when it rains you hurt tremendously. You still can’t walk in a straight line without wobbling a little to the left. That’s because it never healed. You may have barreled through the healing process and didn’t attend to your needs or your feelings.
Right now, in our lives, we are being asked to heal all the proverbial broken legs that never set right–the issues we ignored and stuffed down, the childhood stuff that affected us throughout adulthood, and the patterns we never addressed. It isn’t pretty. It’s all up. It’s our last chance to really heal.
 

empaths · healing

Controlled Empathy and tv

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I’m down with a nasty bug so I have lots of time to reflect, which isn’t always a good thing. Sometimes when I am in a bad state I tend to grab for what isn’t good for me, like junk food or bad movies.

Long ago, when my family was in one piece, we’d watch the show Angel together. Not so much feeling nostalgic last night, but without my Netflix selection, I grabbed for the dvd’s I had.

I was surprised by my first thought. How the hell did I watch this show? Hell, being the accurate word. There was enormous amount of violence, darkness, weird stuff. All of which I am sure is good television watching, but I felt it.  I mean, really felt it. My sensitivity has so increased, or maybe I was so numb in my life to the negative at the time that this was nothing. After one episode I felt intense fear in life where there should be none. As an empath, I was negatively influenced.

On hindsight, I think I grabbed for that show to purge some of that fear and leftover bad stuff, and that is a way to use a more controlled and thought-out empathy. The whole episode was about things you trusted looking one way but were completely different inside. (Cordy was the evil Master but no one knew, and Angel was the evil Angeles).  Later that night I did have one “hell” of a nightmare that cleared all that out.

It’s having that awareness–how is the show you are watching affecting your sensitivity? When you are attracted to a show what are you purging, dealing with, that needs to come out? The key is what are you resonating with or turned off by? What really hits you?

I think today I will reach out to my feel-good Racing Stripes movie or The Rookie to counteract last night’s purge, and I will be much more aware of what I am drawn to in my selections. There’s guidance there.

A little aside to this post: turns out the dream I had after watching the show was a premonition of information. It was a warning about disturbing news  I received the next day.

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15 Things that drive me crazy

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Everyone has them. The things that drive you crazy. It’s the little things that in themselves, are not that big a deal but combined can make a bad day.

Here’s my Top 15 Pet Peeves:

  1. Things. Sometimes I love things and other times I fight with things. Those are times when I am getting out of the car and my bags fall on the ground. Or, when you are in a hurry and can’t get things thrown fast enough into your purse. Or, trying to get dressed fast.
  2. Getting dressed fast after taking off a wet bathing suit.
  3. When Facebook is running too slow. I tend to yell at the screen.
  4. When I say what I do and someone says, I know an animal communicator in Sedona. Do you know her? First of all, there are lots of psychic teachers and psychics, especially in Sedona. That’s like saying you have an aunt in Texas and do I know her? Second of all, each intuitive and teacher is very different in what they offer, just like each doctor or dentist.  For some reason, that pushes some buttons.
  5. Headcolds. What is the point?
  6. The Guidance Clinic in Prescott Valley and Cottonwood. Avoid, avoid, avoid. These folks need to be sued about three hundred times. They are not helping the children. They are hurting families. That felt good to say.
  7. The word “aguably.”
  8. Credit scores. What a bunch of bull crap. Today most folks have lost their homes or their cars. It just feels like “shame” score.
  9. Trying to find my glasses in the dark. I need glasses to find my glasses.
  10. When the computer doesn’t type as fast as I do. That really drives me crazy. My mind goes so fast, I’d like my computer to be at least as fast.
  11. Not being respected for my abilities just because you don’t believe in psychics. I sure am not going to prove to you what I can do. Psychic ability for me is right up there with breathing, sleeping, and eating. It’s that natural. It isn’t some “super-natural” ability.
  12. Rigid religions that think their way IS the way. There are many roads to truth. Don’t tell me how to believe or what to believe. And especially don’t tell me what to believe so you will accept me.
  13. Being lied to.
  14. Incontinent beagles.
  15. PMS. Again, what is the purpose?
new thinking · spiritual lessons

Being Seen

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How many of us were not seen as children? Our parents were too busy with their own stuff to really see our talents, our gifts, or who we are. Maybe they had a tough life and were protecting us by thinking we needed to be something else. Some of us were lucky and had that blessing and may be thriving now with that support. But what if you’ve never felt that?

I wrote a book awhile back of children’s stories. One of them was called “The Hair Dog.” In the story, from a day of miracles a dog is made from a pile of dog hair. He spends most of the story quite invisible to his newfound family and maybe even a nuisance, until one day he meets the rest of his kind where he’s truly seen and appreciated. (See the book here.) At the time I wrote it I didn’t know it was coming from a deeper place inside of me. I just had a whimsical story to tell.

The other night I watched one of my favorite movies, Avatar. There’s the romantic love scene when Jake says, “I see you” to Neytiri. We’re blown away by this moment, and can literally feel the deep love he has for her pop off the screen. In healing circles we say “Namaste.” You acknowledge the light/soul you see in another. Empaths see the world at a deeper level. Once we get past our own sh*t, we are able to really see another and the love can feel intense. We see their light in spite of all the other “stuff” in the way. We may even want to run away from it, but we still feel it. Then we get frustrated and upset when they can’t really see us because of their stuff that gets in the way. We’ve been there, we know. You just hope they can get to the other side of it.

Emma Lou, my basset girl, is great at being seen. I could have used her talents growing up. She makes an entrance into the room and if you are too busy to see her, she firmly yet gently pushes your arm and hand onto her back. She knows and is unembarassed by needing to be seen.

I thought recently why I went into the work of animal communication. One of the big reasons was I felt the animals didn’t have a voice. They weren’t seen! I felt huge satisfaction when I could translate the animal’s needs and its life transformed positively.

Bottom line, I think that is what we are all looking for. We want to be deeply loved, honored and seen for who we are, and have it be more than enough. Not that is should be embellished, or changed, or molded, or be something else to please, or to have to compete with anyone else, but to bask in the feeling that we are, just as we are, bright little stars.

Maybe it is as simple as finally being seen by ourselves.  Seeing how deeply special each one of us is.

Namaste dear reader.

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Do you block your way with fear?

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I had a fear attack yesterday.

It felt a little like eating a whole bag of microwave buttered popcorn in one sitting. When you are done eating, you look around you, butter on your hands, missed popcorn pieces on the floor, and you say, “What happened and what did I do?”

With the tiniest fear that came out, I grabbed for more fears throughout my memories. I reached more for the negativity. Called it. Pulled it in. Like that bag of popcorn, I went out of my way to attract more fears until I ate the whole bag.

This is similar to feeling discouraged, so you grab the phone and call the one relative who will discourage you more.

You can really mess with your head at this time and confuse your psychic ability with truth.

I’ve done this with the health of my dogs. Sarah limps a little and there you have it, it’s cancer. Then I think about when Emily died and her symptoms. By the time I’m done with this rollercoaster ride I even must have cancer.

Maybe it’s inherited from my jewish grandmother who believed that if you feared it, you could prepare for it. Rather than be prepared, I think she lived in the fear state most her life.

I need to see what the original trigger was. I had some success which scared me. With that success, I grabbed for the past, a past I knew that was already done and couldn’t hurt me, so I thought. It was better than the unknown. I could nest in my fears, safe to not move forward. But that’s as crazy as my Nanny’s distorted belief.

What fear are you grabbing onto? What feelings are you avoiding? Where’s the truth in the fear?