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The Real Stages of Grief and Spirit Contact

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I just lost another family member, this time very unexpectedly and in a strange, almost “was meant to happen because it makes no sense” kind of experience. There were too many bizarre variables in this loss equation. I am in the What the Heck? stage. All this loss has me looking at the different stages of grief and realizing I need to rewrite them for myself. This will also help me explain to my friends when they ask how I am doing. If you ever lost an animal or person, you will relate. (And yes, this pretty much applies to all kinds of losses). Here it goes.

STAGE ONE.

Shock or “I am half in and half out.” “Half in and half out” is a really nice place to be. If you are able, you can communicate with the departed loved one. You can hear your Guides, helpers, God as if they are next to you, because you are half in. It’s not a good stage to be driving or using heavy equipment, or even utensils. It feels really good to be numb, but someone needs to remind you to eat and bathe.

STAGE TWO.

Shock starts to wear off. It’s the “remembering.” You realize your animal or loved one is not here and you are searching. I hate that feeling. It feels like LOSS in capital letters. It’s a loss you can’t fix, change or do something about. You can’t put them back into their bodies, but if you could, you sure would.

This is also the “WTF?” stage. Why? Why? Why? You think about what you should have done or could have done. There’s a lot of pissed off-ness to this stage. You could probably kill an army if you weren’t so tired all the time. Hearing “it was their time” makes you want to pull heads off Barbie dolls (sorry, Barbie). The spirit of the loved one is hanging around and you may have dream or physical spirit contact, but the spirit is probably too afraid to approach seeing your incredible pissed off-ness from the Other Side. They aren’t stupid. There’s a lot of crying in this stage that comes and goes and makes you look either crazed, menopausal or unmedicated. It’s difficult to resume your every day life. Plus, gotta admit, there’s a bitterness there sometimes too–how can life around you continue when your life pretty much just stopped?

STAGE THREE. 

When stage three comes it’s usually good to find some kind of communication with the departed in order to get over the “the sadness” and still feel connection. You are swimming around in the grief. The healthy thing to do is just dive into it and FEEL so later on you don’t experience a loss and then all the losses you have ever had come crashing into your face at once and you feel bulldozed and catatonic. Keeping really busy helps not feel “the sadness.” Any kind of distraction helps avoid feeling “the sadness.” I’ve been there many times and there’s no way around but through it. Sadness comes along with spontaneous bursting out crying at the weirdest things like walking down the frozen aisle of Walmart, or seeing a dog bed in a commercial, or for me yesterday, realizing I don’t have  to buy red lettuce anymore while shopping in the supermarket. It feels like a giant hole in your tummy–something is definitely missing, hopefully not a major organ in there. Oh by the way, this is an excellent time to watch every past episode of the Ghost Whisperer. That show is so darn comforting.

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STAGE FOUR.

Stage Four isn’t so much a stage, but a mix-up of stages. Like after realizing I didn’t have to buy red lettuce anymore I was catapulted into the “pissed off stage” and I could visit there for awhile. Then I bounced into “the sadness.” Then back into the “pissed off-ness.” Having a creative outlet to express all the stages is also good. For example, like writing a blog post. 🙂

STAGE FIVE.

Acceptance. Like I read in a post on FB the other day, you just learn to adapt to living without the physical soul there. You might have peace. When Bun Bun my parakeet passed in February, I knew she really wanted to be with my other parakeet in spirit. She missed him so bad after he crossed over. He would pop over and visit in spirit a lot and taunt her with his freedom and wild birdness, so how could she not want to hang out in the light too? So I understood. The loss I am having now I am not there yet. When I do hit acceptance, I will have a greater understanding, I suppose. In this stage you might have even established a constant, clear connection with your departed. (I think how now when I go through big stuff it feels like Grand Central Station of spirits visiting, all checking on me. There’s lots of lights, ear ringing, messages, and thoughts. It’s kinda cool if I wasn’t so pissed and didn’t have Giant Hole Feeling.) Acceptance just means you are able to put away the dog bed or blanket, clean out the cage, put away the belongings. You have to move on with them in spirit, and you in body, but you are ready for a different kind of connection now.

I am positive in the way in the future I will experience loss again and I can look over this post and be reminded of the stages so I will get through it. The crappy part of life is loss, but if we remember that there is no true death, that we can still connect, even see them again, it helps us get through the process in one piece and with meaning. In the meantime, I am off to watch season four of Ghost Whisperer where even Melinda experiences great loss, and I will definitely avoid the frozen and leafy green aisles in Walmart, for now.

Fairy blessings,

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Have you been slimed?

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Slime attacks. As a sensitive person, I can be negatively influenced from the television I watch, the stuff I read, my encounters with other people, and even telepathically from people far away. Often, I pick up negative poo coming at me by noticing my mood. For three days I felt foreign energy invading my space and watched my mood gradually decline. Before that I felt hopeful, positive, proud, and on path. What happened is I was warned before I got big-time slimed.

When I think of Slime Attacks, I think of the scene in Ghostbusters when the cute green ghost slimes Bill Murray with green ectoplasm. In a way, psychically it’s the same.

Symptoms of a Slime Attack:

1. You feel a huge drop in mood like I did.

2. You don’t feel creative; This one is super tough. Slime energy is constipating: expression feels unsafe so it goes underground. If you are like me, this is super dangerous. When you are super creative you NEED to create, express, get it out of you. It’s like breathing. What isn’t allowed to come out will find a way through headaches, illness and anger fits, and depression. Where you feel proud, excited, good about yourself, all of that will be squeezed out of your body with the presence of slime.

3. You feel shame. Oh, this is an awful, awful feeling. You feel down about you in some way. Slime attacks target you with shame and go for your sore spots. Yuck! You begin to feel something is very wrong with you and you are BAD or wrong in some way. Unless you just killed a room filled with people, or abused an animal should you ever feel this way or have it thrown at you. Most folks are doing the best they can, and don’t intentionally try to hurt or take anything away from others unless they are sociopathic and are mean-spirited.

4. You either feel too hungry and want to eat everything in sight, or don’t want to eat at all. That’s a response to the slime energy, and your system is trying to do something with it because it can’t assimilate it. (Exception is eating Walmart’s cherry pie which has some addictive ingredient in it. 🙂 )

5. You feel fear. This is the biggest symptom of slime attacks whether talking to a negative person, or having someone throw their stuff on you, or even watching a news program. You feel the opposite of supported and loved and hopeful for the future. In fact, you go into the mode of “I have to do it all on my own” survival mode that fear likes to put you in.

Okay, you identified that you have been slimed, what do you do?

Super good question. First, de-slime. Sit in meditation and do some kind of de-cord exercise from the source of the slime (I just wrote such a meditation in my Empath Skills class). You have to pull that gook off of you.

Two, realize that it’s seriously not cool for anyone to be mean or harsh and throw stuff on you. That’s not yours to carry.

Three, return back to you and reclaim your positive space. When we are slimed, however it comes, you’ve been intruded upon in your space. I like making a list to prepare myself for anytime I am going to get thrown off like this, which will help me bring me back to a positive, centered place. My list usually includes talking to one of my close friends, spending time with my girl dog-ters, or even be in Nature.

You do need some time to come back after a sliming. Emotionally, as a sensitive, it hurts. I have a vivid memory of high school drama club rehearsels. Carol N., another lead in a play, came over and viciously slimed me out of nowhere with comments like “You think you are all that…” etc. It was a bizarre moment because I never said much to her before this. I even worked pretty hard at not having any kind of an attitude. I was devastated, and clutched at my best friend at the time, and started to burst into tears, which was odd for me, because I never cried. She was clearly dumping her stuff on me, discharging her anger and upset and whatever else so she’d feel better. I don’t know if she did, but I stood in amazement that anyone could just be so out and out mean to someone. The tears were for the hurt but also from my confusion. I wasn’t used to it. If she had a problem with me, I much rather she had sat me down and talked to me about her feelings. I would have honestly listened and tried to understand.

Happy de-sliming, my friends. I am off to spend time with my dog-ters, be in Nature, and talk to close friends. 🙂

manifesting · miracles · Misc. Psychic · Spirit Guides · spiritual lessons

The Universe/God Has a Sense of Humor

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I was playing around with the concept of manifesting and asking for more. I decided to ask for a specific monetary amount to arrive in the next few days. When I realized I was asking too little, I  blurted “$1000! I want a $1000 in the next few days.”

I received this in the mail.

Look closer…

Even more than I asked for!

Did I mention you need to be specific when you ask for things? Like, I could actually cash this check. The check was from a used car dealership  supposedly I could use towards a down payment on a new car.

🙂

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Next Tour Destination

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Follow me as we pack our bags and head on over to Australia again! It’s the lovely and very wise Monique Williams and her blog and coaching site. Monique addresses Tip and Tool #49 and she does it beautifully.

http://moniquetwilliams.com/2012/03/01/a-tip-for-the-sensitive-just-walk-away/

Did you order a copy of your book yet? You can get the book right here from the Author!

after death communication · book reviews · Intuition · Misc. Psychic · new thinking · psychic · sensitivity · Spirits

Book Review: Paranormal

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Paranormal: My Life in Pursuit of the Afterlife by Raymond Moody, MD, and Paul Perry (HarperOne, 2012)

I was asked by TLC Book Tours to review this book in my blog. Since I love anything on the subject of the paranormal, and have read Dr. Moody’s previous book, Life After Life, I jumped at the chance.

The book’s title is misleading as it is more about Dr. Moody’s life-long pursuit of proving that the near-death experience is a normal happening in the human existence vs. “paranormal.”

This is a memoir that begins with him explaining his fascination with the subject after being told of an uncle’s childhood dog that appeared to come back to life after being hit by truck, but later reappeared in the flesh.

His was a loving, close-knit family that encouraged his curiosity but was later disrupted when his father reappeared after being sent away to war. It’s his father’s reappearance that started his fight between his father’s world, with a surgeon’s mind of only logic and facts, vs. the exploration of the unseen and seemingly impossible.

Another important key in his quest was the loss of his beloved, nurturing grandfather, who later has a stroke and was unable to fully communicate or support his grandson as he once did.

How I differ in many of the reviewers on this tour, is I, like many of my blog readers, have a deep knowing that there is an afterlife. I don’t need to be convinced. I’ve had multiple visits from “spirits” throughout my life starting when I was very young, and the seemingly impossible is my norm, with each day and each exploration opening up the doorway of perception to what is real. I didn’t read this book as a skeptic, because I have this ability. So, instead, I read his life tale cheerleading him on that he indeed would find lots of proof of the afterlife he could document and share with the rest of the world, and he does, through his many scientific experiments.

His beginning experiments were met with enthusiasm, but the more he advanced in his career he ventured into more riskier or more “woo-woo” areas such as crystal-scrying, that led to using mirrors to meet with deceased loved ones, that  much of the medical community, especially his logic-bearing, rigid father concluded he had lost his mind. He had veered too out of the mainstream for them to accept.

Paramount to his struggle throughout his life, and what I thought was ironic, was that the medical community he worked with solely based their conclusions on logic, and not any form of true intuition or perception, therefore, they missed the crucial diagnosis he had of a dangerous thyroid illness that kept him ill most of his life!  But it was this same illness that allowed him to eventually have true, first-hand understanding of his life-long work into the near-death experience.

I enjoyed the book which held my interest. It is a little slow-going at first as I was anxious to jump right into his near-death work, but knowing his early beginnings contributed and helped me understand his overall story better.

Walking away from reading it, I did have the thought that his pursuit for later contact with passed loved ones was on the surface a desire to help those that are grieving, but maybe more of a personal desire to finally heal that personal wound of experiencing many loved ones in childhood who were there in physical body but unattainable/untouchable in spirit.

Thank you to Trish for allowing me to review this book. To continue on in the book tour and read what others have reviewed go to the master schedule here.

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Ronni’s Psychic Tip

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This one is for the sensitive:

Feeling suddenly weepy or very emotional? It may not be empathic sponging (picking up other people’s stuff)! Check your blood sugar! You might be a little low and just need to eat something.

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Spirit and Angel Hugs

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Yesterday I was feeling sad and reflecting on a problem I had, and I felt a presence to the right of me say, “It will be okay. It will work out.” I then felt a spirit hug: yummy chills up and down my body. I love that!

Because I like to teach and share my experiences, I did what every detective and scientist would do. I analyzed what happened.

Was the voice inside my head like my own thought or outside my head? No, I’m not schizophrenic and hear voices, so it did come into my head like when I experience telepathy with the animals. It was more a foreign thought then my own. I was feeling sad and working on my site before this visit message, and that is where my focus was. I wasn’t thinking positively.

I experimented later on–forcing a thought to come through. It was like mind constipation. It sure didn’t flow. I also noticed that my head went quiet and I felt alone in the room vs. when I heard the message.

In my classes, I often have students practice the “rubber ball” technique. Students are divided into teams of two and practice sending with their minds different images of different colors, like a rubber ball. Students do a terrible job when they are trying so hard. No one receives any correct images. And forcing to send an image so forcefully creates so much psychic static no one can hear.

Spirit or Angel? I’d have to say Spirit. Spirit guides and friends are those who have passed and we have loved. Angel messages, for me, feel more behind me, feel large and encompassing. Spirits feel like they are in the room with me and communicate through telepathy or thoughts. I can feel if they are feminine or masculine. If I had tuned in more and asked, the spirit may have told me who they were, but it was a quick visit.

Your Spirit Guides can serve as guardian angels. I know mine do.

Have you had a spirit or angel hug during a visit?

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Dogbunny Zine exerpt: Gratitude

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As many of you know, I love to teach through what I create. Today’s featured excerpt is from the Dogbunny Zine (available here at my Etsy shop), reminders on Abundance and Gratitude.

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Hearing

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The theme of Hearing has been on my mind lately.

I am noticing I am hearing psychically more and more. This can be a great asset for my business helping others. I simply tune in and I hear messages loudly and clearly. Long ago, when I first started this work, I’d have to sit down and clear my mind and try to meditate first. It felt like a struggle to hear correctly and I doubted much of what I received because I was so new at it. (That’s hope for those just starting out). Not so anymore. It’s always there like a fast moving stream I tap into.

I easily hear my Guides also, now instead of in mediation, often throughout the day. It feels like light-bulb moments of knowing.

On the downside, I pick up telepathically from many sources and this can cause foggy thinking and confusion. I find myself having conversations with people, and even arguments, from far away. The other day, I picked up on thoughts and energy of a client an entire day before a session, and didn’t know it until after the fact. Not a good thing. I am realizing I need to have my Doorkeeper stronger in place and create better psychic filters as this ability expands.

I am also noticing where I don’t feel heard. Being heard is very important in relationships. You may have a different opinion on what I should do or think, but hear me, and what is important to me. When you don’t hear me it is usually because you are in the way. That’s a big indication you are seeing through your filter and experiences. That’s a good reminder for me not to take things personally at those times when I don’t feel heard.

I am hearing my girls better lately also. Sarah, my beagle mix girl, who I often mention, has always communicated through feeling. She’s not one I pick up through thoughts or hearing. Yet, lately, I can hear her. I think that maybe she resonates at a different frequency I am picking up now.

I am hearing my loved one better also. Really hearing what he has to say and going beyond the surface to what is going on. I hear his pain. Really see him underneath the layers.

But most importantly, I am hearing myself more. What I want, need, and feel. Not what other people want for me or think what is best, but what I think it is best. It’s a new shift for me, and it’s a little scary. I’m dealing with a deep fear: What if I don’t please others but I please myself?

What if, the times I complain I am not being heard or have been forgotten, and I scream at my Guides, it is a time I am not taking the time to sit down and hear myself? I am ignoring that little girl in me who is crying out and saying what she needs, but I am dismissing her.

Ironically, my ears have been hurting. Perhaps they are adjusting to the expansion, just like I am, psychologically.

Be heard, dear readers.

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Today’s the deadline

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Last call for fairy juice! Spring Session starts this weekend for Fairy Online School. Only two slots left for Spring Mentorships, so hurry on over.