Ah, finally I am learning what Duck Energy is. For the empath, duck energy is essential–the key to sanity. Duck energy represents detaching from others’ stuff; observing without carrying. I feel as if I’ve been in a fish bowl experiment lately with my newly-teen daughter home from school for two weeks. Girls at this age are reactive at best. I told my husband, it is like she has PMS 24/7, which can’t be the easiest thing to have. My immediate response to anger is anger, so using duck energy has been my tool. Perhaps she is simply bringing up my control issues.
When I watch her do absolutely nothing a few days straight, I want to step in and offer suggestions, help, anything. But I finally learned this act did nothing but aggravate her more. Let it go, I kept hearing. But as a parent, isn’t it our jobs to make sure our girls grow up to be happy, well-adjusted adults? Let it go. Where’s her passion? Her joy? Her excitement? Let it go. Just swim along in the sea and don’t get lost in others’ floods. They are swimming along too, the best they can. You can’t go to school for someone else, can you? Let it go.
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I’m learning joy from a puppy
After some very traumatic yet fascinating experiences–I am learning so much–my goal is to regain joy. Not always an easy thing to do when you’ve been bathed in fear and grief. But somewhere underneath the weeds is the flower!
Emma Lou, our reincarnated basset hound, represents joy to me. She can’t wait to wake up in the morning and play with her toy basket, knock over each toy, explore shoes, and chase her sister around. After being in pain for the past week, I, on the otherhand, have dreaded mornings, but Emma is teaching me otherwise. You would think her day would be boring, but she is the epitomy of simplicity. And it is the simple things that give her the most joy. She loves the sun on her belly, a piece of string gives her moments of fun (I’d say hours but we are talking puppy here), and whenever she sees one of her sisters, she eggs them on to play. We had this “skill”as children, I am sure. How did many of us lose this?
When I was writing and compiling my book, The Fairy Field Guide, the Fairies and Nature Spirits had a continuous message–to bring in joy. Joy was the key to abundance, to happiness, to health. My greatest challenge has been holding on to joy in the midst of deep sadness, disappointment and even, loss of hope. I am finding that my essential nature and soul IS joyous–it’s my natural state, so I am like one big rubber band–always bouncing back to finding that joyful place.
I watched an Academy Award-winning movie on DVD yesterday, Cold Mountain. What the characters endured was the complete opposite of joy, and yet by the end of the movie, they are seen enjoying life and its bounty full-heartedly. I was amazed. After everything they had experienced, wouldn’t you have been broken, shut down from life? Perhaps by feeling the worst of this world they had a greater appreciation for what is joyful and bright. Perhaps they held onto the tiny bit of joy that was hidden in the dark? As an empath and a sensitive, it is all too easy to get lost in the dark and what I feel around me. Maybe the solution is to pull out that joy and that light–the flower– that is hidden in the dark.
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I have a new ebook out. It is the first one in a series of color-coded diaries–notes on my journey and what I’ve learned from my Guardian Angels and my Spirit Helpers, including, tips on grounding, psychic boundaries, manifesting and more. Here’s some excerpts:
The book is in cool diary form. Check it out here on my site.
Spirit Message on Earth energies now
My friends and I seem to all be having a tough time of it lately emotionally. So much stirring up, and so much core stuff being jiggled to the top, so I went into meditation and asked my helpers what was happening! Here’s the message I received (this is what came out verbatim. Please ignore the grammar errors!)
“Restructuring happening with everything. What you are feeling–crashing down of defenses–an influx of energy coming in to clear and cleanse, put into place, to restore order. But first there is a release. In all healing there is a release of old and what is not working or damaged. This can be dramatic.
Establish a middle, a center, a safe place within, among the “ruin.”
The empaths are feeling it the most–seeing restructuring on many levels, feeling others’ releases. Tremendous change is being experience on all levels for everyone.
For each person there will be a different direction given (on what to do to feel peace again). An inner voice telling you what needs to be done to restore your own inner order. That is the greater purpose–to reconnect to that inner, wise voice.”
I hope that helps a bit!
The importance of rest
I learned a valuable lesson this weekend. As an empath, it’s quite easy for me to pick up everyone’s “stuff” and be a giant, psychic sponge. I have to be very vigilant in creating protection and clearing that stuff out. Yesterday, I was becoming increasingly cranky and punchy, and I repeatedly ignored my own body’s cry for rest. My psychic channels were clogging–my head hurt. After I finally lied down to take that rest, I woke up clear-headed, calm, and hearing my own guidance. All from resting! Was that possible? When I’m tired, my defenses are down and all the goop in the air comes flying in. Next, I’ll become un-centered. When I’m in that state, I race around trying to take care of everyone’s needs except my own. After that, I can’t hear my own guidance. I only hear my logical mind, which gives some odd advice. So, napping is good psychic self-care!
Residue and empaths
I have to say, since moving this blog to wordpress, I am so enjoying my visitors! My other blog was so quiet and this is out and out lovely!
Yesterday I was in THE worse mood possible. I didn’t know what was wrong with me! I was so angry and depressed. Now being an empath, I figured I probably picked up someone else’s stuff again unwittingly (partially true). I was just plain negative. So, I sat down with my Guides for help and I heard what I was experiencing was “residue left over–hurt, pain and upset.” I felt like I was replaying my past over and over and it was hard to move forward–I didn’t know what I wanted! I think I was caught up in what I was clearing out, and since I was down, I was sponging in all the negative crap that surrounded me! So, I asked for guidance and I was directed to make an “Everything I love” book. I was to cut out all that interested me and that I truly loved right now. I was finding that I was forcing myself to do what I think I should do, rather than what I wanted to do. I cut out beautiful paintings, costumes, books, colors, the Ghosthunter series (everyone knows I love that), and patterns emerged. The path was clearer what I wanted to do pass all the gunk and the should’s . I cried and cried–ah, there’s my spirit! This was a great tool.
As an empath and a sensitive, I find I may merge too much with what is around me and I lose myself. I can feel and know what others want, and my old childhood pattern may push me to be what that is. I am always trying to be a little more “normal” and to fit in, but I suppose that is not my life path.
I put my LOVE BOOK pages on my art blog here.
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