Author: designingfairy

I'm Ronni, a designing fairy living among the humans! I'm a writer, illustrator, designer, and animal communicator/medium who loves to share and teach what I've learned in a fun way, whether it's providing tools in my Help! I'm Sensitive series for the sensitive folk, Healing Fairy Alphabet Deck for connecting to your intuition through Nature, the Idea Emporium for thinking like a designer to get out of boxes, or teaching in a classroom lessons I created, I hope my creations help make life more fun and easier. I like to help my fellow sensitives!
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Is it spiritual to be bitchy?

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Everything that happens in my life is one big spiritual lesson, and therefore, writing material.  I was forced to ask myself the question yesterday, in a round-about way, Do we have to be positive all the time to be spiritual and a positive force to others?

I love my parents deeply but my Dad is the type of person who always says, “Just tell me the positive things.” Growing up in that kind of environment I learned the lovely art of repression. This showed itself as minor physical ailments which we all shared as a family. Fact: I rarely cried until I was 14 and my dog died, and when I did, my whole family was in shock. That’s really sad.

You see, the “nasties” which is our humanness, has to go somewhere. I am sure when I was all light and spiritual on the Other Side, I was all positive all the time. Pop me in a body and especially one week in the month I will be hormonally affected and may not see the world in the best light. (It’s scary when I drive at that time.)

I can’t imagine not having moments when I release bits of anger, frustration, ugliness, un-spiritual thoughts, etc. I’d be like a coke bottle shaken up too many times ready to release. I’d probably end up like one of those folks that plows down a ton of people in a post office while the news reports, “She was such a nice person. Never bothered anyone. Never caused any trouble.”

I don’t know about you, but I don’t trust spiritual teachers that don’t have some humanness in them. When they make mistakes and their lives have areas that don’t work, I relate to them. When they are perfect and quote beautiful sayings all the time, I grow suspicious. What’s behind the curtain?

One of my best friends is an angel reader who says the “f-bomb” often in our private conversations. We often kid she could advertise as the reader who curses.

I won’t apologize for my bitchy, human moments. Sometimes I learn the most from them. I even was inspired to write a entry that landed in my new ebook, Spiritual Perfectionism, problem and tool #40.

Part of my healing is to not to recreate my repression-filled childhood. You can say what you want to me, and your journey is different than mine. What you believe and works for you is also different. But I won’t do that to myself, and maybe, that question posed to me yesterday, was just reminding me of that, so I wouldn’t.

empath · empaths · healing · Intuition · Misc. Psychic · new thinking · self esteem · sensitivity · spiritual lessons · writing

New book now available in paper

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New! HELP! I’M SENSITIVE ebook now available in paper and via snail mail too. For those who still need something tangible in their hands. Same great tools in another form.

Cute fun size

Buy the paper version: Paper coil-binded and printed version pocketbook (5.5″ x 4.25″) size, with shipping $23.99: Buy here.

 

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Get out of the box!

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Have you ever noticed that your spiritual lessons seem to revolve around different themes? Like, one week what you are learning is all about Setting Boundaries. Another, about Tolerance or Dealing with Annoyances (had that one last week). This week, for me, seems to be about Breaking Free from Boxes.

Usually what gets us reeling and pushing our buttons with others is what theme we are working on. One of my pet peeves is Ignorance, probably because being a teacher is so ingrained in me as a mission, that when others don’t want to learn a new way of being or doing things, my frustration level goes up. I’ve been dealing with outdated systems, which on some level, we all are. I watch Egypt throw out the old that didn’t work with loud protests and see change happen before them. And yet, I see credit card and financial organizations not working with the new economy or the change that is needed. And our government, well, you know.

Years ago, as a former child parent, my biggest frustration was dealing with a system that helped kids that was so forced into its little box that it didn’t cater to the individual–one size fits all. And guess what? Not everyone fits into that box! There’s lots of variations and some kids even throw the box out of the water demanding new solutions.

(My dear friend is dealing with this in the health-care system.)

When I was finally free from that system and situation, I wanted to go back to school to learn how to find solutions how to change and retool all those systems that didn’t work, like that clinic, an outdated model that doesn’t work for all the children or the parents. But I am realizing now on the other side of the fence, that the solution is to educate one person at a time to make change. And the secret is to reach those who want to learn and change, otherwise it’s useless outpouring of energy. (That, readers, was a big lesson for me to learn.)

I guess that’s why I like shows like HOUSE and other detective programs because the cases they see don’t fit into any box, so the detectives and doctors have to stretch their minds and find new solutions. What a concept! Make change? Develop new systems based on new needs? Educate and update your staff on new illnesses and treatments? Really?

I saw this the other day shopping at a local store. One patron complained she never ventured further then her small town and considered Sedona far, far away city. We live maybe 40 minutes away? There’s a whole world out there! Break out of the box!

I saw that in numerous local veterinarians in the past who didn’t even know the latest life-saving treatments for kidney disease.

I do realize though, that boxes keep us safe. What we don’t know can be scary. In the little box, you know what the walls look like.

Seeing this in big systems around me forced me to also look at my own thinking, and finding where my beliefs are out-dated and keep me very boxed in. I discovered this usually shows itself in black and white thinking–do or die, this or that. What a bunch of crap! There’s gray in my choices. This is a big realization for me. I don’t have to get rid of eating sugar, I just need to be balanced in my eating. I don’t have to get rid of people in my life, I just need to create some boundaries in some areas or retool or evolve the relationship based on new needs. There’s only a problem, when, like the big systems, that belief, area or person can’t, or refuses to change.

Do you relate to this? Where are you stuck in the box?

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It’s here! The new e-book!

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The e-book is completed! Pulled from my favorite entries here at this blog, with tons of new material written and new lessons learned, here are 50 tools to help you tame your sensitivity and use it as the gift it is. Go here to snatch up your copy.

This is a great companion piece to the Care of the Sensitive class, where you will learn how Nature tools can support your sensitive system.

empath · empaths · psychic tips · spiritual lessons · writing

I’m so excited…

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It’s too cold! Today has been a great day to snuggle up to my girls, make some warm foods, and read and learn. It’s the perfect time of year for that. And coincidently, (great segue in, don’t you think?) the e-book I’ve spent over a year compiling, living and writing, will be ready tomorrow and I can’t contain my excitement. I love how our tough experiences in the end can benefit others if we share what we have learned.

Help! I’m Sensitive! 50 Tools to help you thrive and survive is located in the bookstore here at this site. Official announcements for the book come out tomorrow, but I couldn’t contain myself.

I’ve learned valuable techniques to help with my sensitivity including techniques like Mouse Theory and Psychic Vampires, filling in holes, turtle shell, changing aura pictures, dealing with other people throwing their fears at you, taking care of the number one need for empaths, why panic attacks can happen in malls, and much more. I’ve included my favorite entries here from my blog and included a great deal of tools from my arsenal given to me by my helpful team of Guides in the past year.

You can order the book now here today and start empowering yourself right away and have warm reading material for those cold nights.

Earth energies · empath · spiritual lessons · spirituality

Empath’s Energy Report

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From an empath’s perspective, the energies are pretty wonky this week. Everyone is in transition now or in big change and then the weather is mirroring us. I just found out that the college I’ve worked for is having a huge 78% cutback in funding! So, we are seeing the biggest change in the money sector. I can hear groans from the audience.

Energy-wise I can feel excitement like the first- day-of-school kind. I can definitely feel big changes happening all around. And I feel the Guides/Angels creating more protection for each of us. I feel them pulling in closer to offer guidance, contrary to some folks I’ve heard saying they are pulling away to have us be more independent. I don’t get that at all.

I’m not feeling the bursts of anger or nastiness I felt before in the public. It feels more like surrender, which isn’t always a bad thing. The true miracles happen when that happens.

So, when there is no stability and ground to count on, what do you do?

I asked my Guides for suggestions and was reminded about the butterflies. If we are caterpillars, it looks like the world is going to end soon, and we feel stuck in our cocoons and dark, and squooshed in too tight. We can’t see past it.  But we are simply in the process right before we become butterflies and the world as we see it changes its form.

Maybe the world is morphing to fit our new forms. It doesn’t look pretty.  If you look at the decline or the falling apart, you are looking at the caterpillar’s crumbling cocoon, not the future beauty of the butterfly.

I like that. We are just morphing into something amazing.

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Why Guides and Angels are so cool

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It took me a long time to hear my team of Guides and Angels. I didn’t trust what information I received because I had too many messages–light and dark–coming at me. The great Ted Andrews once said, don’t be afraid to test your Angels, and boy, did I. With my logical, analytical mind, I wanted to see some consistency and validations, and I did. In the past year, that communication has now become rock solid and I couldn’t be happier.

Here’s my list of why Guides and Angels are so cool:

  1. They bring you to YOUR inner guidance and what feels right for you, not what feels right for your Mom, or your best friend, or your dog, but you.
  2. They don’t give quick fixes; they want long term benefits. In my frustration I might have a week where I am screaming “Give me money!” They are more interested in healing your inner core lessons or problems. They might direct me instead to work on my self-worth patterns from childhood or look at how I am not resting and taking good care of myself, which affects my financial flow.
  3. They have great sense of humors. I love when they send me song messages on the radio at just the right time.
  4. I never feel alone. I am guided and loved and anytime I need to feel that, I can just tap in.
  5. They know me! They know I hate to be pushed or rushed, and need good image metaphors to understand complex problems. They know exactly the right timing for a message for me or how the message needs to be explained. So, when they give me advice it fits me and what is for my highest good. Since they have the big picture or map of my life, they know what will work in the long run and I can trust that.
  6. When I fall on my butt from not listening, they don’t say “I told you so!”
  7. Some of my Guides are my departed animals. I can still feel their energies and their presences in my life. Bliss.
  8. I can get angel hugged. I love these! (Little chills up and down my body)
  9. They give me that higher awareness to my problems I didn’t previously have access to. It’s like the missing puzzle pieces hidden under the couch I never would have found. My mind finds this fascinating.
  10. They comfort me with knowledge. Knowledge is the best antidote for fear.

If you would like help connecting to your Angels and Guides, sign up for my next Talking to Angels, Guides and Dead People class which this is excerpt from, or book a reading today where I connect to your team to get things started.

A little aside, as I write this post, my team just played two songs mentioning Angels back to back as I listen to Pandora.

Animals · dog stories · spiritual lessons

Dog gone bad

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Yesterday I visited Bill at his place and took him out to lunch for his birthday. On the way back, we stopped off at the Prescott humane society to say HI to the dogs. This is always a dangerous thing, emotionally and because we can’t have more dogs at this time. Iit’s hard not to bring someone, actually, everyone home. Some dogs are fine with their plight, others break your heart with their overwhelming sadness and confusion, and some just make the best of the situation.

The shelter has many mazes of hallways where the dogs are kept. We wandered about greeting each dog, letting them sniff our hands and lending  counsel to some. After a while, the hallways felt like the house of mirrors ride at the amusement park, leaving me a little dizzy. We headed down one hallway and saw an unusual sight. Bill was on it immediately throwing his hands in the air and laughing. It took me longer to take in the scene, probably from the confusion of the hallways. There in front of us was a white dog of indiscriminate breed wearing a head cone. The part of his head not coned-in was submerged in a large knocked-over box overflowing with big dog biscuits. There were biscuits on the floor everywhere and he seemed quite pleased with himself, chewing away. My mood of sadness and helplessness quickly turned to wild laughter.

What a great message that whatever your situation, stop to find or knock over the joy and sieze the opportunity to feel it!

After we grabbed for a not-too-pleased shelter worker the poor dog was dragged back into his cage. She explained that he probably used his cone to flip the handle on the door and escape. He used his condition!

We went by his cage and he was clearly pouting. We took him away from nirvana. I’d be pretty pissed also.

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And the winner is…

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Carol wins the Forgotten to Fly postcard. Woo hoo! Carol email me your mailing address and you are good to go.

Thanks for the comments and all the emails. That was my first giveaway and lots of fun.

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I reached 30,000 hits and Giveaway

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Woo hoo! Release the confetti and the balloons! My blog, Ronni’s Psychic Room has reached 30,000 hits. I’ve been watching enthusiastically from the sidelines as the number has gotten closer and closer. How exciting. Thank you to all the readers who stop by and read my mini lessons and tirades. I love writing but writers needs readers.

To thank you, I am giving away a Forgotten to Fly postcard to one lucky reader. Just leave a comment below on why you read this blog or give me an email and one of you will be chosen to receive this free card! (Cool! Fun! My first giveaway!)

A little reminder: Online Classes start Friday, so sign up and reserve your space now! This includes the NEW Talking to Angels, Guides and Dead People class.