Student Alexis from Canada reacts to her Fairy Healing the Feminine lesson on healing the unhealthy masculine here.
Author: designingfairy
I'm Ronni, a designing fairy living among the humans!
I'm a writer, illustrator, designer, and animal communicator/medium who loves to share and teach what I've learned in a fun way, whether it's providing tools in my Help! I'm Sensitive series for the sensitive folk, Healing Fairy Alphabet Deck for connecting to your intuition through Nature, the Idea Emporium for thinking like a designer to get out of boxes, or teaching in a classroom lessons I created, I hope my creations help make life more fun and easier. I like to help my fellow sensitives!
I’m Going to be a Pumpkin Mommy
My pumpkins are exploding and taking over. Lots of leaves. Awaiting the pumpkins…
I love their leaves. I’ve wanted to plant pumpkins for the last three years I’ve been at the Fairy Castle. I’m so excited.
Here they are in their infant stage. Pumpkin is a fabulous flower essence for clearing things out that need a little push.
They were just starting to make leaves here.
There they are. The cute little leaves budding up through the ground from seeds.
what will they look like?
FAIRY SKETCHBOOK: In love with the roses
My roses are wilting in the high desert heat, but I was able to capture this one in my sketchbook
before it died.
Working on new animal communication book
Heading for the finish line…
I’ve been fighting Microsoft Word’s spell checker. It appears to be British. It wants to change color to “colour.” We’ve argued several times over sentence fragments that I thought sounded just fine. Okay, maybe it was a one-sided argument (HA! that was a sentence fragment! In your face, Microsoft Word!)
My animals are happy to be in a book. For the woman who gave a review of my HELP! I’M SENSITIVE book on Amazon and complained I wrote about my animals, well, this book she will really hate, but animal lovers will love it.
Now my online class will be more accessible to all those who want to learn animal communication in a fun way.
But I will still be offering the option to work directly with me and the book in a personal mentorship. Cool!
Watch for details here on the website for purchase instructions. I am so excited! Can you tell? My tail is wagging wildly.
The lowdown on Ghost shows
I’ve completed the research on ghost shows, so you don’t have to.
Ghost Hunters
I used to be a huge Ghost Hunters fan. I collected and bought every season they had, and then life got busy and judging by my bookshelf, I stopped at Season 5. I watched the show the other day, and I still have fun with it, but I’m a little bored. I’m not sure if I overdosed on Ghost Hunters all those years, or it was negative experiences I had actual ghost hunting with a team for a television show (kinda disillusioning). I was pissed when they lost Grant, as the Jason and Grant combo really worked — they would have the most ghost-hunting experiences to report on the show. Some things did grow to be annoying — when a ghost hunter would cry out, Did you see that? Since of course, we did not, we could only guess what they saw or heard vs. real evidence. Overall, though, I enjoy the personalities of the show. They have become old friends from watching back in the day when the show began.
Paranormal State
A team of college students investigate hauntings in this show. The show is now over, as I imagine, most the students have long graduated. I liked the research end of the show but there was such a darkness that pervaded each episode that gave me a headache. Everything was devil this and devil that and then they would bring in Lorraine Warren and it was ALWAYS some demonic entity doing the haunting. A big yuck for me as I prefer to focus on the more light-hearted side. The plus side on this show is I loved when Chip Coffey would come in as medium. That’s when my juices really flowed and I related to his findings or at least to his technique.
Ghost Adventures
A bunch of strapping, good-looking investigators are locked into a haunted location for the night. Being claustrophobic, even the idea of this doesn’t appeal to me. There’s very little intuition going on in the show, so it doesn’t hold my interest as much. They also seem to have many experiences where they are touched or scratched, and I find that just plain nasty. Would you want to be around living people who scratch you for no reason and are abusinve? Much less get stuck in the room with them for hours. It’s like a bad party, or most of 2009 for me.
Psychic Kids
I’ve mentioned this before on this blog that I loved that show. Talking to and validating the experiences of intuitive kids? How fabulous a premise is that! They even EDUCATE the kids on how to handle their psychic ability, which is even better. I think I learned a thing a two for myself. Why don’t they make more of these shows?
Haunted Collector
I watched this show last night about a father/daughter team who investigate haunted objects. It runs like most ghost shows, the same format, but the hauntings originate from some antique or object, rather then a spirit haunting, which leaves the show feeling a little emotionless and detached for my taste. I like a good story regarding a person. The last episode I watched involved a boxer spirit who was attached to a medicine bottle. I found that to be a vague connection. A bottle? That didn’t sit right. I think he was more attached to the boxing ring that was still there on the premises. It’s still an entertaining show, but I can’t connect to things like that.
Girly Ghost Hunters
Sorry, Ladies. I really didn’t like the episode I watched. There was one episode where the ladies are discussing the next case while riding their ghost hunter bus, and they giggle and comment, and it’s just plain awkward. It reads like a bad home movie. I was uncomfortable watching it. At least with some of the other shows, I feel the detectives have experience and vast knowledge on the subject. This feels like a bunch of girls grabbed some cameras one night on a drunken dare. It’s a “no” for me.
I’m guessing most of the shows are scripted in some way, and when they go through the editing process, they aim for the more sensationalized effect over authenticity. If you can overlook that and just have fun watching, these shows are entertaining and enjoyable. My recommendation would be stick to the more light-hearted ones with the good stories. The darker ones will only leave you with a headache.
Art from upcoming book
Available in JULY.
Twitter anger update and being treated well
I am learning…
Happy to report that since I expressed my upset on Social Media with how I had been treated with Customer Service at Verizon, I received a phonecall from Verizon trying to remedy the problem! Ed, my new customer service rep, was in contrast, very kind and helpful. He explained to me that he tries to put himself in the customer’s shoes and how he/she would see things. I attracted another empath! Unlike the first rep who was very shaming and assumed I did something “wrong,” he was very understanding. He corrected the problem.
This whole experience has shown me how far I’ve come in how I want to be treated in the world. A part of me would get lost in that shame space even if I had done nothing wrong, so I probably accepted that behavior in the past. (Perhaps because as a sensitive, I am very over-responsible.)
The Bad Little Girl Syndrome
I remember a year ago or so taking Emma to the old veterinarian who was excellent in knowledge but known for her cold approach. She shamed me for going to another veterinarian and even the holistic vet prior to her. She frowned at me and said kangaroo dog food would be the only food option we had and if I didn’t take her suggestion I was “wrong.” And then I was shamed at the reception counter when I complained of the extra charges that were added that I was unaware of.
I went home that day feeling like the little girl who forgot to do her chores and was punished. I had one hell of a migraine that night.
My entire adoptive parenting experience was about dealing with folks who didn’t hear me and shamed me for what they felt I “should have” done. I was treated horribly by the child, and most everyone involved, and that’s an understatement.
But obviously something huge had shifted this time around.
I found the new veterinarian and when Sarah was gravely ill, I had TWO wonderful veterinarians (including her holistic vet) aiding her in her care and HEARING me. I was told “you are doing a great job.” I had all the support on all levels I needed to take care of her in the end.
Big chunks of my life broke away where I wasn’t getting my needs met or heard. I broke away from organizations that didn’t hear me at all. This time around when I ask for help or assistance, it’s there and it’s excellent support.
I attracted a part time job I love to do that feeds me in every way and I’m told “Just keep doing what you are doing. We love it.” What a change!
You won’t go backwards
And then there was Ed to show me this. Some folks say that the Universe gives you tests. In this case, I got a little taste of what I used to experience. I needed to stand my ground and ask for the new energy where I am now comfortable living at, and by doing so, it gave me confidence I won’t have to have those negative experiences anymore now that I had the new game plan or map for how I want my life to be like.
I am not Leonie
(screenshot from Leonie Dawson’s amazing website you need to check out)
Leonie, I just love your energy and your site. You are so filled with energy and magic and you always sound like you are having a party we all need to be a part of.
I am not a Leonie.
Here’s the thing. When I read one of Leonie’s posts and see her site, I think, “I need to do my marketing LIKE THAT.” I need to have that cute sign up form and be so smooth in my marketing, and and and…
I now have a headache. I have that feeling you get when you have a dentist appointment later in the day. I’m not an extrovert. I can be very social but there’s a difference. If I had my choice I’d probably spend most of my days in an art cave surrounded by forest and fairies and dogs just creating stuff. I have moments where I don’t even want to be near people. It’s too exhausting.
But that little voice persists. That’s how you do your marketing!
No. That’s the wrong shoes for me.
I need do everything in a way that works for me and IS me. I’m a sensitive, and an introvert and I love one-on-one connections and networking. I overwhelm with too much of anything.
But, Ronni! Everything I read about marketing says I need to do X and B and have podcasts, and….
If that works for you, I say go for it! The biggest lesson I am learning is that things should be simple, with everything. They need to flow. And flowing is different for every person.
But that voice in my head persisted. So, I did what I do–be the detective. I found evidence. Even Leonie Dawson, who started her blog in 2004, was way different and took awhile to find her shoes. You can check out her earlier 2004 blog posts on her blog.
You need time to find your own shoes.
After years and years of trying on different shoes and growing out of some, I feel I am finding the things that are easy for me and are fun that match. And hopefully, you are too. Keep doing those things. And remember to just be you.
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Do I offer discounts on classes?
I am often asked if I offer discounts on my classes or services. Yes, I do! To make things easier and affordable each session I offer EARLY BIRD SPECIALS on classes. It’s an opportunity to save money by signing up early. You can see the list of JULY classes here. Sign up by July 1st to get the class price advantage. For Private Lessons, I offer special bundle rates so if you schedule more sessions you save big and the prices go way down.
I would love to discount even more but this is how I earn my living. Every dollar earned at this site helps me eat and pay for things like the Internet, electricity, and my computer so I can continue to offer my services and products. I do offer two-payment plans and Paypal has Bill Me Later which breaks the payments down into small pieces which makes it reasonable. I’ve used that service before and it’s very helpful.
I had one person ask not too long ago if they could have a free class because they were on a limited budget. I had to laugh — I’m on a limited budget myself and am not in the situation yet where I can give away any of my time free. Hopefully, in the future, I can offer scholarships when I am in that position.
Look forward to seeing you in class!
Anger and Twitter
Anger is a good, healthy thing. It let’s you know when things are not right in your world.
Yesterday I had a pissy attack. I don’t usually care much for Twitter but it proved to be an excellent way to discharge my anger and frustration. I figured although I have over 400 followers, most of which are folks who don’t give a hoot what I do and who I am, that I was safe and could dump on my feed comfortably. It did seem to help.
Today I have some clarity. Do you ever notice that if you have one of those days, usually there’s a theme lesson that is happening. I was super angry at Verizon. This isn’t the first time my needs were ignored and I found myself with a huge overage bill that I did try to rectify but since I had upgraded online the new plan was in effect “incorrectly” so I had an extra $70.00 tacked on my bill. Not cool. I have a real problem with corporations that have different rules that don’t make much sense and don’t hear the individual. They did not earn my money nor they deserve that amount.
I was also very upset when I heard news of a situation with a former friend that was another “everyone is all happy and smiling but underneath is massive dysfunction that I can see but they won’t even talk about.” It’s the old Oleander experience I have lived with in the past. Everything is just fine, just drink the Coolaid. My usual response with both these situations is to want to scream and educate and show everyone, Hey! There’s a problem here. I want to warn people so they aren’t hurt! And I’ve lived in too many situations where I felt like I was in the middle of one of those horror movies where you are the only one seeing the evil alien behind the mask who is trying to take over Earth for destruction and no one believes you, because the alien looks just fine.
With the second situation, unfortunately, it’s not my problem. If someone’s lesson is to deal with an unhealthy individual, I can’t interfere. Unfortunately, in time, they will find that out–the mask will fall off. With Verizon, I could continue to try to convince them that there is an issue and jump up and down or I can…find a new phone company.
I often wrote about my problem with finding a good veterinarian and that situation finally shifted. I found a very kind one that will listen and is reasonable after kissing many toads that didn’t hear me or were very shaming. I guess when I look back at that situation when I was in it, I felt stuck in that endless cycle of discomfort until I got super pissy and realized I deserved to have what I needed and wanted. I didn’t have to play that dance anymore.
If my phone company doesn’t hear me I can look for one that will and that fits my needs. I don’t want to pay for a Share Everything Plan to save money when it’s just one phone!
And that toxic friend–obviously, I was in the middle of the lesson thinking I didn’t deserve more, and at the first signs of creepy behavior and red flags I should have ran the other way. Far away. Maybe that’s what I’m really upset about now. And that means no arguing, no trying to show or point out the alien in the mask, no trying to fix, or worse, heal them.
I still am fighting the urge to put up billboards for folks to stay away from certain organizations. So I finally learned that important lesson in that playing field. And some folks are still there–in school, so I need to have compassion, and not take away their schoolyard.
Ronni's Psychic Room 