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20 Jan

Why New Year’s Resolutions are Mean

1 Jan

This is the time of year we look back at 2013 and regroup and either sit in amazement we survived, or sit in gratitude at what we have gained. It’s also the time for New Year’s Resolutions and goal-setting. Now, don’t get me wrong, I like goal-setting. I’m a Capricorn. We live for this kind of analytical, organized kind of stuff. But resolutions and impossible goals are mean and nasty little boogers.

Let me explain. My logical mind will look at 2013 and then make a long to do list that starts like this :

1. Double my income in a month

2. Publish four to six new books in 2014

3. Lose five pounds in two months and flatten my stomach

You get the picture. I could possibly complete these tasks since I can be quite ambitious and anything is possible, but talk about big time pressure! Did you feel that headache coming on just reading this?

We often also have the expectation that because there was some craziness in 2013 and sadness or whatever, that 2014 WILL BE THE YEAR. It will be the year that everything is joyful, and unicorns, rainbows and lottery checks fall into our laps. Now, mind you, that is very possible and we can make some serious magic, but let’s lighten up there on the expectations. I do think 2014 will be lighter and positive (energy read here), but if there is some loss, or sadness, or f-ups, that’s just part of that equation we call life.

I find the solution to resolutions and impossible goals, is more of either:

1/create monthly smaller goals that you want to focus on,

or 2/have a general focus or theme for the year.

Personally, I like both, but I love the idea of creating a monthly theme. It could be bringing in more JOY into your life, or SELF ACTUALIZATION, or the year will be one of CREATIVE ART where you will devote most of your time to expressing your inner artist. But take it from me, do not, under any circumstance, pick PATIENCE for your goal for your year. Trust me on that one.

Happy New Year, dear readers, and happy mini goal making.


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