Traditional Values I Don’t Want to Go Back to

28 Nov

I don’t usually venture into politics, or anything near that loaded area, but I had to speak up on this topic…

There’s lots of talk about traditional values surrounding the past election. I have a different view about traditional values. If those values are about caring about each other, being honest, respectful, loving, and hearing others, I am all for them! And we do need to maintain those.  But there are “traditional values” that I do not want to go back to. And these are my thoughts and values, that may or may not reflect what you believe.

  1. If traditional values are going back to wearing aprons and high heels in the kitchen and my role as a woman is to stay in the kitchen, I do not believe in them or whoever created them. Who is that pleasing? Especially the high heels that really hurt and I’m still probably a lousy cook, so I’m not pleasing anyone. I’d rather nurture in a different way, thank you very much and now I can. As a woman, I have many skills and intelligence to share. I can nurture through what I teach, what I create, and how I love. And if my sole and only purpose was to have children, well, whoops, I failed at that one, so there are many ways to birth life into this world.
  2. If traditional values mean a world where women are secondary to men, of course, I disagree. How is that helpful to anyone?! I have no desire to go back to having no voice and being second to the man in a household. Healthy relationships and marriages are equal partners who respect and hear each other. One is no greater or wiser than the other.
  3. If traditional values mean my body doesn’t matter in any way, or I’m considered a slut if I use birth control, I want no part of them. How backwards in thinking is that? Oh, but if a man has sex with different partners he’s virile. Uh huh. Why would I want to be thrown back into a cage from the 1950s if I long been out of a cage. A cage that men, not women, built.
  4. If traditional values mean a world where if you are a man and you love a man, or a woman who loves a woman, you are considered an outcast and something deeply wrong with you, I don’t live in a world like that. God made everyone and loves everyone just as they are. That’s God–the ultimate model of love, who I want to aspire to be like one day.
  5. If traditional values mean stifling my voice and not being able to have a say when it comes to authority, I want no part of that. I am seeing real change happen when the average person speaks up and says No, especially in regards to laws about animals and other areas I care deeply about.

Perhaps, I am not understanding the perspective or thinking from those who champion these kind of traditional values. As a woman in my 40s, I have a very different perspective and experience than a middle-aged or older male. I haven’t lived that life. But I can’t understand how any values would be helpful or healthy that exclude or ignore the needs of a huge portion of the population.

6 Responses to “Traditional Values I Don’t Want to Go Back to”

  1. David Wagenfeld November 28, 2012 at 6:08 pm #

    Very well said Ronni, I totally agree with you. 🙂


  2. elfacinc November 29, 2012 at 1:41 am #

    WELL SAID, Ronni.
    It is my entire life wrestling.
    Problem is many women don’t understand it.



    • designingfairy November 29, 2012 at 2:58 pm #

      Elena, I’d be interested in what women in Italy believe.


      • elfacinc November 30, 2012 at 2:59 pm #

        is a patriarchal society, where, despite the feminist movements of the 70s and 80s, certain roles are hard to change. I agree with you, it is true that a woman about to come true must necessarily have a man or have children. There is free will in life and I believe that every person, beyond his male or female, can be realized as the most deeply want. This stance cost me a lot. Means misunderstanding and isolation. Unfortunately, the mental schemes, including those of Italian women are imbued with the patriarchal mentality and those who, like me, thinks otherwise, is viewed with suspicion or pity, because in their narrow minds, they think I’m unlucky, but, in actually, I put the crisis in their values, and of course do not accept those who may have values ​​different from their own. It ‘s the same old story: who does not fall in the patterns of mass is seen as the black sheep.
        In the eleventh century there are still nonsense. Will, sooner or later, the moment that you can live by themselves with respect for each other


  3. elfacinc November 30, 2012 at 3:07 pm #

    There are some mistakes on my last comment, It is NOT truetha a woman about to come true………Escuse me…


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